17/03/2026
If your child melts down, cheats, or quits during games… it might not be about losing.
It might be overstimulation.
Competition isn’t just “fun” for all kids.
It’s noise, pressure, fast thinking, emotions, waiting, turn-taking… all at once.
For some nervous systems, that’s too much.
So when they start losing, their brain flips into fight-or-flight.
And what you see is:
• cheating
• shutting down
• refusing to play
• big emotional reactions
In sessions, I don’t just tell kids to “be a good sport.”
We:
• reduce the pressure
• slow games down
• build regulation first
• and practice losing in small, safe ways
Because kids can’t cope with losing when they’re already overwhelmed.
Regulation always comes first.
Save this if you’ve seen this in your child 🤍