Vypnosis

12/10/2022

29/07/2022

Relationships – Old vs New

There is a point in life when finding a partner, marriage, buying a house, and living your life according to your view of an ideal life is your only goal.

Is life and love this simple?

I remember when I was younger, all of my thoughts were just that – especially finding a partner, which was everything to me! I was lost in the pursuit of that dream, the pursuit of ‘that someone’, that perfect person who was going to make me whole and give my life meaning.

Until I found her.

In the first couple of years, we were enjoying ourselves because we were young, having fun and kind of lost in each other. Fast forward 3 years - Things were going great and everything seemed to be rosy because we were starting our careers, we had moved into our new town house, we had decided to get married, we had a baby and life was going through the stages I thought it was meant to at that age. We had a great relationship, at least I thought we did.

Relationships can be the answer to loneliness and bring happiness because they have the ability to soar, inspire, and be your reason for being.

However, they can also be absolutely frustrating, difficult, and just wrong! Trying to match up with someone who fits your mould, who loves you for who you are and for what you do is not always the outcome when you think you have met the right one.

I found this out the hard way.

I have this analogy

• In your 20s, you are invincible
• In your 30s, this is your time to panic
• In your 40s and beyond, this is the time to let go and say “I DON’T GIVE A FLYING F**K”

The relationships in your youth are the hardest because they are the building blocks for the rest of your life. These early relationships are the ones where you learn your first real life lessons after leaving home. This is the time to work hard and build a good foundation, this is the time that you need to get through, to get to the good stuff.

In my 20s I thought, everything is going perfectly, I can’t lose because I thought I was invincible. But my motto at this stage was - I’ll do it tomorrow. This was until I was reaching the end of my 20s and I had a rude shock when I was told, by my wife, that we needed to separate. My ego took over and instead of trying to work things out I took her words as the death knell to our marriage. And, with that I was single again.

My 30s, WOW, what a rollercoaster! It was major panic and major overcompensation. I got married very fast, Wife number 2. This was a very busy time in my/our life filled with Panic and excess! We had to travel, travel, travel, buy a house, have 2 more kids, buy investment properties, and just accumulate crap. I mean s**t that we just did not need at all. Fight! Fight! Fight! When you’re told that ‘you’re not good enough’ again and again, it strips you of your self-worth and joy… and sadly the love you once felt for the other person. Eventually, after nearly a decade together the marriage ended and so did my 30s.

My 40s brought a new lease on life. I lost the need to accumulate useless crap and realised I didn’t need a woman to complete me. This is when I started to meditate and found myself spiritually resulting in a realisation that what my ex-wife and I had been focussing on was for just for the appearance and keeping up with the Jones’s. In the end all I was left with was an ex-wife, an ex-house, and a lot of debt.

I decided to pursue my passion and follow my dreams. Funnily enough, after I stopped looking for ‘the one’, I stumbled across someone who turned out to be the love of my life. I love her and she loves me unconditionally and this helped me realise the issues I had in my marriages was that we always had conditions. With her love and support I was able to quit my job and chase my dream.

This is where I talk about the new relationship, the time when you love your partner for the person that they are, not what they can do for you or what you can get out of them. The new relationship is based on who you want to be and who you want to have in your life, not what looks good on Facebook or Instagram. This is the relationship you appreciate because you have both grown from the lessons of past loves.

Once you’ve reached this point in life, you really do find out what you need, value, and actually care about. This is when you just need to be comfortable, content and stop chasing everything and anything and become grateful for what you already have. Sometimes our greatest lessons’ from past relationships is that once you have been in a bad one you truly can understand what a great one is, and usually the great relationship is the one you least expected.

Relationships are meant to be joyful and beautiful, and I’m happy to say that I am with the girl that I am supposed to be with, she is my unexpected true love (as infuriating as it is at times, hey we can’t all be perfect – This is the real world after all).

29/07/2022

Breathing and meditation

Try this with me…
1. Take a deep breath in (all the way in),

2. Then exhale all the way out (all the way out),

3. Repeat this 30 times.

4. On the 30th exhale, what I want you to do is, I want you to hold that out breath so that you don’t have any air in your lungs at all.

Hold the air out as long as you feel comfortable to.

5. When you get the urge, take a very deep breath all the way in and hold.

Hold the in breath out as long as you feel comfortable to.

6. When you release the breath, I want you to go straight back into the first technique repeating the entire sequence 3 times-

7. When you release the breath, I want you to start another technique called box breathing,
Take a deep breath all the way in and hold for four seconds,

8. Release the breath all the way out and hold for four seconds, continue for 4 minutes.
Following these 2 breathing techniques I want you to meditate, breath mindfully (Think about your breathing, now when your mind wanders, and it will wander, just bring your thought back to your breathing) for an extra 10 minutes or as long as you’d like to continue.
There are no rules, there is no right or wrong way of meditating, this is just what I have found most beneficial for myself.
Amazing things will start to happen, in your body and in your life.
For every person it’s different, so start meditating and breathing with intention.

Wishing you all the best, Shaun

27/07/2022

Results, you know you want them...

Now I want to put some false beliefs to rest.

Can a Hypnotherapist control what you say and do?

NO!

Can a Hypnotherapist make you do anything you do not want to?

NO!

With hypnosis, you are in complete control.

The only thing that the hypnotherapist can do is help you access the untapped potential that every person has buried inside them.

This untapped potential lays dormant within you in the part of the mind that can accomplish the unthinkable.

If you have the right therapist, he/she can help you find out why you think and act the way you do and release the mental blockages you have unconsciously created. Under hypnosis you are accessing untapped potential, whilst remaining in complete control of your thoughts and actions. In these moments you can make sense of some of the things bringing chaos to your life.

In one simple conversation you can make immense changes to your life through your own discoveries!

Once you access the dormant potential inside you, your subconscious mind begins to process ways to make everything in your life more achievable.

Recently a client articulated this point saying, “It’s very much like having a 2-tonne weight lifted off your shoulders and feeling so much lighter because I am free of all the troubles that I was holding on to without even realising it”.

The amazing thing is as time goes on so will little opportunities and moments of clarity. Past and future obstacles will become open doors and the things you struggled to achieve will gradually become more attainable. The issues in your life that you believed to be significant prior to hypnosis will be worked through and you will realise just how insignificant a lot of things really are.

If you want to make big changes in your life, whether it is in your relationship, in yourself, to quit smoking, lose weight, to stop biting your nails or any other issues you have struggled with on your own and want results, Vypnosis would love to help you.

27/07/2022

Don't forget to be intimate...

In today’s world everybody wants it all!! And they want it immediately from success to the brand-new car, even the proverbial happy ever after fairy tale life. Often, above all they want to fall in love and have the dream relationship. Problem is we can not always choose who we fall in love with and sometimes it takes more than just a s*xual attraction to keep things going.

Too many things, and people focus on a three-letter word that they try to centre their happiness around …s*x. Everything these days is about s*x… Now, don’t get me wrong I like s*x as much as any warm-blooded species but is it everything? Is s*x the be all or end all of a relationship?

I argue NO.

Did you know intimacy between two people… or multiple if that is your cup of tea... is more than just in*******se or s*xual acts? Even foreplay is regularly forgotten. The only goal is that final, body shaking climax.

Intimacy is a beautiful thing!!!!!! It can happen with just a loving touch, a caress, a kiss, a tickle, a simple loving hug or just a conversation over a coffee.

Intimacy is about establishing and maintaining a connection - and we all need connections.

We need to trust and care about each other, we need honesty, we need clear communication and above all we really need to love ourselves.

Sadly, the emphasis on getting laid means we often forget, or even worse can’t be bothered to be intimate with our partners. We forget about the little things that made us happy or fall in love in the first place. We forget what it was like when we were first dating, and we took the time.

These days, if a man can’t perform, he feels that he isn't a man and isn’t able to please his partner, whereas if a woman isn't able to climax or to get her partner to climax then she feels that she isn't attractive, or there is something wrong.

Often this is not the case at all!!!

People have busy lives; people have a lot going on in their heads. With the fast pace of the world that we live in, the anxiety, the job, the debt, the bills, the deadlines, the pressure that we put ourselves under each day is just too much.

This is where communication and trust are integral. If s*x is what you are after and able to do, then go for it. But don’t forget about all the other avenues of intimacy that can lead to a more passionate and fulfilling relationship.

Don’t forget to just love each other in every way possible. You do realise you can be intimate with your partner where Netflix is just that… Netflix. You don’t always have to attach the Chill.

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27/07/2022

S*x is the cherry on top..

S*xual dysfunction and erectile dysfunction fall into those topics that people find too awkward or embarrassing to talk about let alone admit to suffering. This is something I can attest to from personal experience.

It may not be obvious that I specifically chose to use the term ‘people’ rather than simply say men. This is because s*xual dysfunction and erectile dysfunction does not only affect men, granted it is more obvious for men with the inability to have penetrative s*x, but women can also be afflicted with the physical effects. Furthermore, it is so important to note it is not always a physiological issue, instead it can be a gamut of causes.

Sadly, relationships can often suffer because the lack of intimacy can result in feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, anger, suspicion and so on. Men can feel like they are incapable of satisfying their partner, women can feel as though their partner is no longer attracted to them or, if they themselves are suffering from s*xual dysfunction, they may feel inadequate much the same as men.

For a long time, I thought that it was the natural progression of life, as I got older, I would become a cliched old man that needed a little blue pill to have a healthy s*x life and enjoy a flourishing intimate relationship with my partner. Through hypnosis for myself and my partner, I discovered I have various reasons why I can sometimes suffer from erectile dysfunction, but throughout the process I realised sharing those smaller intimate moments with my girl and not overthinking not only keeps our relationship strong, but also often improves our s*x life.

Now, I am in no way suggesting my causes will be your causes, but what I am suggesting is the use of hypnotherapy to delve in to and uncover what it could be for you to get your relationship to the place I am happy to say my own is. This may involve simply helping you, however it can also be extremely beneficial for both partners to engage in a session.

Sometimes when we are suffering a form of s*xual dysfunction we forget the impacts on our partners, sometimes they can be a silent sufferer.

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27/07/2022

The Changes.... A personal account

I’m going to give you a very real, close to my heart example of how this amazing therapy works, and in my own relationship, having felt it myself shows me a whole new world, and lets me want to share it with every couple that are going through challenges.

*I have been offering to give my partner a therapy session for almost 2 years now, now this girl is in 3 words – Amazing, brilliant, and stubborn.

We were going through some tough times in our relationship when she finally said to me one night “OK Shaun, lets give this a go”

My reaction was disbelief, “Are you sure you’re going to be open to this?” – “YES”

When she started to open up to me, she started telling me things that she didn’t know was bothering her at all, she started to understand why she held resentment.
So when she was telling me about her feelings, and with me using Advanced Conversational Hypnosis while this was happening, I wasn’t hearing the best information about myself, a bit of a gut punch, but my girl was having a complete breakthrough. While the realisations were coming left right and centre, she was in the therapy, without realising it, but I was in fact treating myself at the same time.

After a 45-minute session of finding out all of this new information that we both didn’t realise we were going through, something happened.

Everything that was holding us back, was now gone! Like wow, literally gone!!!

There was, and remains, a clean slate – We have reached the next level in our relationship and can’t see our lives without each other in it.*

I know this may sound corny, but to this day, some 2 months later, my partner comes to me and tells me of another realisation, and they just keep coming. Solidifying our relationship to the strong point that it is.

I have had times where I am not able to control the feelings within me that I have for this woman, and I need to stand up and just walk around to let out all of the energy that I have stored up because I am at the point where I can’t contain it anymore.

When we are not together, we miss each other, when we are together, we need to be touching. To tell you the truth, we both don’t know how this happened, but we do know that it all changed that night where she relented and gave my Advanced Conversational Hypnosis magic a go.

❤️ 😍

27/07/2022

If there is magic on this planet, it is contained in water.
I often forget how good water is, I used to drink water as a last resort opting instead to drink a sweet and milky coffee instead.

I thought I was different to everyone else, and I could go without drinking water. I would only really drink it if I went to the gym or did some form of exercise.

It’s astounding that it took me so long to realise that I had this amazing resource that was always at my fingertips.

Water is a resource which has so many advantages to your health and well-being such as:

· Water boosts brain power

· Water beautifies skin

· Water detoxifies the body

· Water can help prevent injuries

· Water can relieve headaches

· Water eases digestion

· Water aids weight loss

However, water also has many other advantages not commonly known, for example:

What do you drink when you have a sore throat? - Water
What do you drink when you have a stomach cramp? – Water
What do you drink when you are unwell? – Water

This one really shocked me ….

What SHOULD you have when you are peckish? – WATER!!!

And why??

Because you’re most likely just thirsty and water will take that craving away.

I now wonder why so many people prefer to steer clear of water and drink everything else

Is it a belief water has no taste? Is it about sugar? Is it an addiction to caffeine? (Now don’t get me wrong, I love a nice coffee… just not solely coffee) Is it all about that extra boost that we believe we need and believe we can only obtain from a shot of coffee, energy drink or sugar?

Personally, I think it’s our perceptions about water and our need to tingle our tastebuds.

While a lot of people are aware of the benefits of water and there is a trend of people advocating these benefits on social media, there is no big budget marketing campaign or company with a big fancy logo advertising water unless it is the “trending” coconut water or equivalent.

I would like to remind you all that water is so beneficial and readily available and suggest you all increase your water intake, however, as with anything, you CAN take things too far! Everything, beneficial or not, is about moderation.

21/06/2022

Think good, and good follows. Think evil, and evil follows. You are what you think all day long.

21/06/2022

Change your thoughts, and you will change your destiny!

05/06/2022

Are you struggling with ED? Anxiety? Stress? Intimacy issues? lack of confidence?
At Vypnosis we know how to access the underutilized, brilliant subconscious mind that every person has within.
Accessing this mind unlocks and unravels all of the knots and baggage you are holding on to.
Inside you is all the potential and energy you will ever need. If you could see it, you would be astonished by the level of potential you have.

Let me help you see and feel it, and then be able to use it.