05/08/2022
Babies are born without the ability to regulate emotions.
Tolerating and regulating emotions is a capacity that develops slowly over the progression of childhood, through activities such as talking, walking, making friends and bonding with caregivers.
Children must be effectively soothed by a parent (or caregiver) regularly and repeatedly, in order to eventually develop the capacity to regulate their own emotions effectively.
Children need to experience connection because they are "feeling/emotion based", not "thinking/logic based"... the more connected they feel, the more they trust the world, other people and themselves.
If children don't experience connection or emotional co-regulation, especially in the first 5 years, this significantly affects their ability to have healthy relationships with Self and other people, and in turn their compassion is also hindered.
Anyone who mentions that "children are resilient", were most likely not given these tools of understanding in how emotion based our reality is, and are probably part of the population that desperately need 'therapy' as adults.
Anyone who also mentions "I was spanked and time-outed as a child, and I turned out okay" most likely also will not have the awareness of the impact that has had on themselves and their reality, and they would most likely still be encapsulated in that emotional disconnect and cognitive dissonance as the armoured adult-child.
No shame, this is a place of learning, respect and healing.
Let's work through it all together 🤝❤️🌏
Always with love,
Nazzie ⚡️🔮🙌
