Nicole Burling Psychology

17/02/2025

Many females believe they have to play games when dating which results in them not responding to texts, not showing much interest, delaying future dates or not being available because they’re ‘busy’.

I know because I see this with my clients plus I’ve tried this strategy too during my many years of dating!

Although these tactics will often attract certain men, they typically are not ready or capable of a healthy relationship.

If you play hard to get when dating it sets the tone for the future so I’d encourage you to ask yourself where will this end or how long are you planning to keep playing games? Just remember, if this is what attracts a man, he’s likely to lose interest when you’re ready for a commitment.

14/02/2025

Remember to take extra good care of yourself on Valentine’s day if you’re single and feeling alone.

It’s healthy to ask for what you need so don’t be hesitant to reach out to people who care about you. It can feel hard however it’s important to not isolate yourself if you’re feeling down.

If there’s ever a day to spoil yourself, it’s this day! Your most important relationship in life is with yourself so get good at being kind and nurturing you!

See the link in my bio to book in to find out how I can support you in your dating journey.

Note: the information shared in this post is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy.

17/01/2025

I didn't really post over the festive season as I was on leave enjoying life with my husband.

As a dating and relationship psychologist, I know how important it is to take time away from work to really focus on my relationship with myself (self care) and my husband.

This year I will share more of my dating journey and how I went from online dating for over 10 years to meeting and marrying my wonderful husband ❤️

20/12/2024

Your self-worth is key when attracting someone who will treat you well.

If you have high self-worth, your expectations for how you are treated will be high.

You will have the confidence to identify red flags and end things early with someone who isn't capable of a healthy relationship.

Book in at nbpsych.com.au to build your self-worth🥰

10/12/2024

Being able to spot a lack of boundaries is important to be aware of when dating or in a relationship.

All healthy relationships have boundaries, and this includes with your partner, parents and kids!

On a date, red flags for people who lack boundaries include:

- Invasive questions – getting too personal too quickly
- Getting too close physically
- Oversharing – revealing too much about themselves early on
- Talking over or interrupting you
- Making assumptions about seeing you again – they should ask and not pressure you

These are just a few things to watch out for and there are many more....

Feel free to get in touch for support to meet someone capable of a healthy relationship ❤️

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04/12/2024

Online dating is hard, I know as I did it for years. It can work though as I met my husband online.

If you are using online dating and are chatting to someone, scheduling a first date shouldn't be difficult.

A first date should also happen reasonably soon after first being in touch with someone. You want to avoid getting emotionally attached based on emailing or text messages.

Good luck❤️
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27/11/2024

Try reframing negative thoughts before going on your next date and see if it helps reduce any anxiety.

Book in at nbpsych.com.au so I can help you build your dating mindset so you can meet your perfect partner ❤️

24/11/2024

This is a common question I get from clients who are dating - how soon is too soon to bring up past relationships?

The first few dates (at the very least) should be about getting to know each other. You should feel curious and interested to find out about this new person and they should be curious and interested to get to know you.

If you find yourself wanting to talk about your ex, it's a sign you might not be ready to date and the same applies for someone you're dating.

Learn to trust your instinct and how your body responds when dating. If you feel uncomfortable when he talks about his ex, listen to this! It's not always a sign to move on, however it's a yellow flag (keep this in mind).

To build your confidence in dating, improve your ability to spot red flags and avoid those people who aren't ready to date or won't treat you well, book a free introductory chat at nbpsych.com.au ❤️

21/11/2024

Finding the right partner isn't always easy. Some people get lucky early and some people may settle.

Be careful of comparisons to other people when dating as this will create internal pressure and increase the likelihood of rushing in or missing red flags.

Love can be found at any age and at any stage of life.

If you want to manage pressure you feel about dating to meet "the one", book in at nbpsych.com.au.

You can learn how to manage this pressure and approach dating with a mindset that sets you up for success ❤️

19/11/2024

When you meet someone who is emotionally mature and ready for a relationship, you won't need to find excuses for their behaviour.

If you find yourself making excuses for the people you're dating, book in to find out what unhelpful beliefs are driving this pattern and how to change them ❤️

07/11/2024

Book in at nbpsych.com.au to learn how to create a mindset so you can meet your perfect partner ❤️

05/11/2024