16/11/2025
I helped a woman recently who had a huge trigger come up at work.
Someone said something to her — and honestly, it wasn’t a nice comment in any context — but instead of brushing it off, she went straight to boiling point. She said it felt instant and overwhelming.
In our session, we dug into the feeling behind that reaction, not the story.
Afterwards she realised it reminded her of things she used to hear in school… comments that were so normal back then that she never realised how much they stuck with her.
Once we cleared the emotion that was driving the reaction, the whole trigger disappeared.
The next day she messaged me and said,
“That same person said something again… and it didn’t affect me at all. No reaction. I actually felt calm.”
You can’t change other people, but you can change how they affect you.