Holistic Sands Psychology

24/10/2025

This is such an important initiative normalising and supporting men's mental health! Men are allowed to feel emotion and reach out for support too!

22/10/2025

Send a message to learn more

28/09/2025

Exposure to family violence affects a significant minority of children: estimates of physical abuse range from 4 to 16%, while intimate partner violence affects between 8 and 25% of children. Maltreated children show same pattern of brain activity as combat soldiers. Link to the research https://www.cell.com/current-biology/fulltext/S0960-9822(11)01139-0?_returnURL=https%3A%2F%2Flinkinghub.elsevier.com%2Fretrieve%2Fpii%2FS0960982211011390%3Fshowall%3Dtrue

Recent brain scans have revealed that children living with unstable families where the child is exposed to constant arguing between the parents or themselves are abused/neglected, have brain changes similar to combat solders after returning from active duty. In some cases, the brains of abused children are in even worse shape than the combat soldiers.

Childhood trauma and the trauma experienced by combat soldiers can create similar, long-lasting changes in the brain’s structure and chemistry. The core reason is that the brain, whether developing or mature, adapts to a high-stress, unpredictable environment by entering a persistent state of hypervigilance, prioritizing survival over other functions.

The key difference lies in the context of the trauma. A child’s brain is still developing, making it highly susceptible to having its core structures and functions altered. A soldier’s brain, which is already mature, is changed by extreme stress but is less fundamentally altered than a child’s.

The shared neurobiological process: an over-activated internal alarm system.

Trauma forces the brain to initiate a “fight or flight or freeze” response for survival. When this state becomes chronic, it changes the brain’s baseline functioning, creating a state of constant, heightened alert. This process affects key brain regions involved in emotion, memory and rational thought.

I am running out of rom here but I will put a breakdown in the comments section of each brain region affected and altered by trauma.

If you have children, it is best to never argue in their presence and always treat your child with love, patience, respect and tender care, punish gently when necessary and use bad behavior as a teachable moment instead of harshly punishing your tiny creation.

If you experienced trauma as a child and never actively did intentional work to heal your brain or nervous system, you are likely experiencing chronic symptoms well into adulthood as a result. The good news is, any damage done is likely not permanent if you’re willing to do the work. Your trauma was never your fault, but healing has become your sole responsibility. See comments for exercises.

PMID: 26831814

26/09/2025

UPDATE: I will be in the Illawarra full-time from the beginning of November, offering nature walk-and-talk therapy for older children and adolescents, accompanied by my two therapy dogs, Bindi and Coco.

24/09/2025

Free app
Transform Sleep Challenges into Restful Nights
Sleep Ninja®
A Digital Tool for Improving Sleep in Adolescents

Sleep Ninja® is a free, evidence based smartphone app shown to be effective in helping young people with sleep problems.

24/09/2025

Parents, please be aware of the dangers of seemingly safe online games that your children are playing. https://7news.com.au/news/teen-gamer-reveals-sickening-scenes-inside-roblox-servers-as-esafety-commission-announces-new-commitments-to-combat-grooming-c-20021789?

‘She described being coerced into a sexual assault so graphic that the principal standing beside me wobbled.’

12/09/2025

12/09/2025

The Therapist Parent 🧡

11/09/2025

by Tania Johnson | September 9, 2024 It started to happen in the third week of September- the honeymoon was over and it was full on war. Little Maya, who