
25/09/2025
25 years ago today, Kathy Freeman won gold for Australia 💫
My husband and I watched her victory lap on TV that evening in hospital with my newborn baby boy in ICU 🥲
I remember during my labour clicking into a new part of my brain that I'd never experienced before. No, it didn't take me into a fierce warrior Mother space or a nurturing earth Mother space - it was a scary, frozen, lonely space of birth trauma, or maybe more correctly labour trauma🥲
While I don't want to define my son's life as this trauma we both experienced, as he has grown into an amazingly beautiful, healthy man, it is still a big impact story in our lives that has affected us for years later, maybe even 25 years later 💚
It is well documented that women who don't have adequate support or agency in labour report more difficult outcomes in birth and postnatal outcomes as far as physical healing and mental health. This leads to more intervention, more injury and less connection with the profound rite of passage you are undertaking to birth yourself into motherhood. It also affects the immediate bonding with your precious newborn. My experience had nothing to do with my husband's support by the way and everything to do with the hospital's care I was in after being induced.😩
I remember going through the motions but being completely disconnected from the deep love I knew was there for him. It felt so shameful to not feel happy when all I'd ever wanted was children to raise. 😓
I struggled alone for months before I was diagnosed and then slowly began to feel life again. Though I stayed in this weird part of my mind - which I know now is a dorsal vagal response, my mind and body had shut down and frozen with the trauma I had experienced in labour- until my second child was 1 years old!😱
Only last year I found out several midwives had been sacked after an investigation into my and Remi's birth story😯
So happy birthday my beautiful first born - you are amazing and my heart is full of love for you 💖
I am a part of the Holistic Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting Expo in Yeppoon on the 25th October. This is an expo to showcase and highlight the services of passionate women in business in our area who support, nurture and care for you as a village through your pregnancy, birth and parenting stories💕
I know I want other women to have better experiences and outcomes than I did and I hold space for women and families to process what they are moving through! 💜
Come down and see us - there are so many amazing services and excellent practitioners to support you and your family - tickets are on sale now 💜