13/07/2025
This was written as answer in 2019, but, I know the benefits of these tips and how important they are till today!
Today’s question: Why do some people lose their excitement or enthusiasm day by day? I don’t find things very exciting now a days. I love to do my work. I love to go out. No doubt! But I don’t feel the same excitement I used to feel few years back. I don’t feel the same excitement I see within my people. I feel like: so what?? I feel my apathy is increasing day by day….I feel this can be real big problem for me in coming days. Please suggest something by which I can regain my enthusiasm or excitement.
Answer- You asked that if your question make sense or not? It totally does to me. Most of the people go through this phase time to time and some choose to stay like this forever out of habit and comfort. I have loads of questions to ask, for finding out the whole picture! But let’s figure it out with what we have right now.
Dear, even if you are in a heavenly place, you will still have days, where you will struggle to find motivations. Motivation is something you need to work on, so it can keep serving you. Which means, you need to build your own personal “Motivation habits”. If you don’t practice mindset and behaviors which fuel your motivations, then you are bound to feel bored, stuck, discouraged and “so what” feeling. You might feeling apathy for others because you are being indifference towards meeting your own needs. Now here your needs are not being met means- your physical need, mental need, emotional need or even can be your spiritual need. Trust me, every needs need to be met or at least needs to be balanced so you don’t feel that “somethings missing” feeling.
What I have understood from your description is that, you are playing too safe! You are well adjusted to your work, your environment and daily engagements! Which is creating a predictable bored loop of life for you, perhaps? If you just google Abraham Maslow’s “Hierarchy of needs” you will understand that human being always naturally strive for growth…for more being, doing and becoming. In that sense, I feel you need to push yourself for new experiences, new engagements in activities, new types of people and environment to stimulate your experiences. Growth and comfort don’t coexists! And discomfort and changes stimulates our brain, it also poke our motivations. Motivations not for more work, but motivations for living a life!
Before sharing some small tips, I do want to say that, counseling helped me personally to find my motivations whenever I felt I lost it and I needed a bit of a push. Please don’t hesitate to take that opportunity, cause tips are for short terms and they are mostly suggestions, but sometimes we need to work on our deep internal perceptions to understand why we are not finding motivations anymore, or what making us feel this way..
Some tips-
1. Do things differently as much as you could from now on. Starting from small activities like-having different get up, or adapting a new style, choosing your meal throughout the day differently, meeting/greeting new people and chatting about different topics, doing breakfast/ brunch outside etc.
2. Change or rearrange your environment. It might include, changing your coffee mug, having a plant in your room, new decorations on your table, using new lighting or candles in your room! (Just be creative and spontaneous)
3. Participate or do/ learn something new. (Hobbies, small courses, finding people with same interests and having group activities)
4. New responsibilities, new initiatives, new way of doing tasks will help. (Volunteering or doing charity work, side business, act of random kindness)
5. Try to have new networks with your old ones. People with different age, concepts, background will stimulate your mind, thinking and perceptions.
6. Be more acceptance towards you and your world around you. Don’t always judge what’s right or wrong, or what’s logical things to do right now but just experiencing “what it is already”. Don’t forget to enjoy other people’s stupidity as well!
7. You have got to listen to your inner child. Be more curios, be more active towards fulfilling your spontaneous wishes, ask that question you want to ask, crack that stupid joke! Be happy with your “Being”.
8. Quotes, videos, pictures, friends that keeps you positive and optimistic, keep them close, as close that you can see them often, you can feel them often. And they need to work as your reminders to love life and loving yourself.
9. Have your own personal rituals which will make you excited about the day. Morning routines, rituals and habits that make you feel good is an excellent way to feel motivated for the day! (Morning rituals can include setting a time aside for coffee and making your to do lists, or morning shower and good breakfast)
These tips are common, but if you really try them consistently, I am sure you will start to feel better, you’re starting to feel better will contribute to create more happy exciting situations, and better exciting situations will make you happy and motivated….again!!
