16/05/2025
Trust: The Sacred Surrender That Makes Life Worth Living
Trust.
Such a simple word.
And yet, one of the most complex emotional landscapes we can ever walk through as human beings.
In the modern world, trust is often seen as a calculated risk — a transaction of earned behaviors, credibility, or time. But true trust — the kind that opens your chest, exposes your heart, and makes you feel both alive and terrified — is something far deeper. It is not built. It is surrendered to.
It is, in essence, a sacred letting go.
Falling in Love Is a Metaphor for Life
“Falling in love,” we say — but what is it, really?
It is not the butterflies, the thrill, or even the intimacy. It is the radical act of giving someone a loaded gun aimed at your heart… and trusting they won’t pull the trigger.
This metaphor might sound violent, but that’s the psychological truth of it. Because when we love — when we truly trust — we don’t just risk being hurt. We risk annihilation of identity, of safety, of the carefully constructed emotional armor we’ve built to protect our inner world.
And yet, without that risk…
We don’t really live.
Not in the full, vibrant, soul-awake sense of the word.
Because this principle doesn’t just apply to love.
It applies to life itself.
Yogic Teachings: Abhyasa and Vairagya
In the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, two foundational principles are Abhyasa (committed practice) and Vairagya (detachment or surrender). These two — paradoxical in nature — hold the key to both spiritual growth and psychological healing.
We are taught to practice, to strive, to work toward inner peace and understanding (Abhyasa). But we are also asked to let go, to release expectations, to trust in the unknown (Vairagya).
Trust, in this sense, is not blind faith. It is spiritual clarity.
It is the understanding that control is an illusion, and that the deepest peace comes not from holding on… but from knowing when and how to let go.
To live a meaningful life, we must open our hearts not just to people, but to the entire experience of being human — the beauty, the loss, the chaos, the stillness.
The Psychological Roots of Our Fear
Why is it so hard to trust?
Because trust requires vulnerability.
And vulnerability reminds us of all the times we weren’t safe.
As children, we learn early what happens when we’re open — maybe we were shamed, criticized, left unseen. Maybe love was conditional. Over time, we associate openness with danger.
From a psychological perspective, trust means reprogramming those early experiences. It means choosing to show up again — not because we’re naïve, but because we’re brave.
Trust as a Form of Bhakti
In yogic philosophy, Bhakti is the path of devotion — to the divine, to truth, to love itself.
To trust is a form of Bhakti.
It’s choosing to believe in the goodness of life even after you’ve seen its cruelty.
It’s walking barefoot into the unknown, with your heart in your hands, offering it up not as a demand, but as a gift.
It’s not always trusting people — they will fail us, as we will fail them.
But it's trusting something deeper:
That what is meant for us will come.
That what leaves us has served its time.
That we are more than our wounds, and our soul is wired for connection, not isolation.
The Cost of a Life Without Trust
When we lose the ability to trust, we lose more than safety — we lose aliveness.
We live from fear instead of expansion.
We control instead of connect.
We hoard instead of share.
We speak in half-truths, love in half-measures, and experience joy in fleeting doses, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
And this is the paradox:
The more we try to avoid pain, the more pain we live in.
The more we build walls to protect ourselves, the lonelier we become behind them.
The Courage to Be Human
In truth, the path of trust is the path of courageous living.
It asks us to show up — not because we’re sure, but because we’re willing.
Willing to be wrong.
Willing to be disappointed.
Willing to be cracked open — not for destruction, but for light to enter.
As a psychologist and a woman who walks this path alongside my clients, I can tell you this:
Trusting is not weakness. It’s the most radical act of strength.
Because it’s the moment you say:
"Even if I get hurt…
even if they leave…
even if life doesn’t go the way I hoped…
I will not close my heart."
Because that’s the moment life really begins.
Whether it's a person, a passion, a place, or the path you're meant to walk — trust is the thread that weaves your life together. And though you may be terrified, though your inner child may scream at you to stay safe — trust anyway.
Not because the world is safe.
But because you are strong.
🪷 With love and awareness,
Siyana
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