Ana Luiza Life Coaching

03/01/2026

A lot of the belief that “people don’t respect me” doesn’t come only from how others behave —
it often comes from moments when we weren’t able to express a clear boundary in the moment.

When someone crosses our boundary, we feel it immediately.
There’s an impact. A charge. A surge of emotion.
If we don’t have the capacity to respond right then — to say no, to stop the behavior, to take our stand — we don’t release that energy.
We take it in.
Instead of using anger in a healthy, protective way, we swallow it.
We override ourselves.

In those moments, we don’t fully honor or protect ourselves.
So the energy stays inside us as unprocessed anger and resentment.
Over time, those emotions shape our thoughts.
They create stories about the world and about others:
“No one respects me.”
“The world is unfair.”
“People are being mean to me.”

And while some of that may feel true in the moment, it’s not the whole picture.
These situations are also asking something of us.
They’re inviting us to claim our self-responsibility — not by tolerating disrespect, but by clearly expressing our boundaries.
When we take our stand, we communicate — to others and to ourselves —
“I am responsible for my safety.”

The moment we set a boundary in real time, the energy that was directed toward us doesn’t get stored inside.
It stops there.
It returns to where it belongs.
We’re left feeling clearer, cleaner, more grounded.
More confident in our ability to move through the world.
We know, on a felt level:
I have my own back.

Now, one important layer underneath this:
Our ability to set boundaries in the moment isn’t just about courage or communication skills — it’s deeply connected to nervous system regulation.
When the nervous system is overwhelmed or stuck in freeze, the boundary doesn’t come out — even when we know it should.
That’s not a personal failure.
It’s a capacity issue.

This is where nervous-system support can be transformational.
The Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) is one tool that helps the nervous system feel safer and more regulated.
As that sense of safety grows, many people notice that boundaries come more naturally — without force, without overthinking.
Not because they’ve become harder —
but because their system can finally respond in real time.

If this reflection resonates, it may be because you’ve felt this pattern in your own life —
the moments where something in you knew a boundary was needed, but the words or action didn’t come in time.
This is the work I support people with.

Through nervous-system–informed guidance, boundary work, and tools like the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), I work with people who want to feel safer in their bodies, clearer in their boundaries, and more grounded in their self-trust — not by forcing change, but by building capacity.
This isn’t about becoming tougher or more guarded.
It’s about becoming more available to yourself in the moment.

If you’re curious about working together, you’re welcome to reach out or learn more.
We can explore whether this support is a fit for where you are right now.

29/10/2025

Many of us use advanced spiritual concepts as a way to escape ourselves and avoid facing our pain.
For example, in yoga we learn that we should detach from things and people, and let go of resentments and negative feelings in order to experience inner freedom and ultimately achieve enlightenment.
While all of this is true, this truth can easily become distorted — interpreted in a way that actually encourages avoidance and denial of what already lives inside of us. Enlightenment can never be reached by looking away from ourselves. True inner freedom arises only when we decide to sort through our inner chaos, face our shadows, and transform our pain into wisdom.
It’s easy to understand why we sometimes hide behind spiritual concepts, especially when we carry deep shame within us. Spirituality can unconsciously become a way of redeeming ourselves for our own pain and mistakes — without ever having to truly look at them, feel them, or work through them.
No one wants to face feelings of inadequacy, shame, or grief. But when spirituality is used to bypass those feelings, it becomes an escape rather than a path of awakening.
This distortion was never the original intention of spiritual or religious teachings — but as human beings, we have often turned spirituality into a tool for avoiding our own pain.
The problem is that when we don’t do the real work of sitting with our pain, feeling it, and processing it, we unconsciously pass it on to others.
True spirituality is embodied. It is rooted in compassion — and compassion can only emerge from the willingness to feel our pain.
But here’s something we often miss:
We can’t truly feel if our nervous system doesn’t feel safe enough to feel.
When our system has been overwhelmed for too long — through trauma, neglect, or constant stress — it learns to shut down or disconnect as a survival strategy. That’s why many people on the spiritual path can understand the concepts but still feel numb, stuck, or emotionally detached. It’s not a lack of consciousness — it’s the body protecting itself.
Regulation is what allows our body to soften, our defenses to lower, and our emotions to be felt without drowning in them.
Only a regulated nervous system can hold pain with compassion rather than fear or shame.
So if you’ve been on a deep spiritual or healing journey and you’re realizing that maybe your body still doesn’t feel safe enough to fully be here — to really feel — this is where nervous system work becomes essential.
✨ The Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) is a beautiful doorway into this process.
It’s a gentle, evidence-based listening therapy that helps your nervous system return to safety, presence, and connection — so you can finally feel without being overwhelmed.
Because the truth is, we can’t think, meditate, or pray our way into wholeness.
We have to feel our way back home — safely, gently, through the body.
If you’re ready to go beyond understanding and start truly feeling, this is where the real awakening begins.
Send me a message if you’d like to experience the SSP and begin reconnecting to the safety of your own body. 🌹

22/10/2025

Have you ever felt like healing work made you responsible for pain that was never yours to carry?

Let's talk about it.

True empowerment requires both personal growth and collective accountability.
This post is for those of us reclaiming our power - and refusing to carry the weight of broken systems any longer.

13/10/2025

🌸 A little reintroduction and quick update on what I have been focusing on 🌸

Many people have been asking me lately, “So what exactly do you do?” — so I thought I’d share a little more about the work I offer and who it’s for 💛

✨ I help people in three main ways:

1️⃣ Building a resilient nervous system
Through the Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP) — a gentle, science-backed listening program developed by Dr. Stephen Porges (creator of the Polyvagal Theory). It works directly with the vagus nerve, helping your system return to balance so you can more easily come back to a state of calm, safety, and connection.
SSP can support stress regulation, reduce auditory sensitivities, improve sleep and focus, and create a stronger foundation for trauma healing and secure relationships. (All genders welcome)

2️⃣ Inner Child Healing
Most of our emotional struggles today are echoes of old wounds we haven’t yet processed. If you often find yourself stuck in the same patterns, struggling with self-criticism, or feeling “blocked” emotionally — this work can help.
Together, we gently meet those younger parts of you with compassion, so they can release old pain and you can move forward feeling lighter, freer, and more whole. (All genders welcome)

3️⃣ 1:1 Coaching for Women
This program is for women who are tired of people-pleasing, fawning, or keeping themselves small.
Maybe you’ve spent years working hard to be loved — only to end up in relationships where your needs are dismissed or your voice is silenced. Perhaps you fear being “too much,” or worry that asking for what you need will push people away.
You might recognize patterns of perfectionism, codependency, or always attracting “takers.” And deep down, you’re exhausted — and ready for something different.
In our work together, we focus on building the inner safety your nervous system needs to handle being fully seen. You’ll learn to reconnect to your voice, set boundaries gracefully, express your needs with confidence, and cultivate authentic, loving relationships — all while feeling safe being you.

🌿 My approach
My work is trauma-informed and holistic. Over the years I’ve trained in and integrated:
Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP – Dr. Stephen Porges)
Compassionate Inquiry (Dr. Gabor Maté — currently in training)
Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
Inner Child Healing & NLP
Somatic and mindfulness practices

✨ At the heart of everything I do is presence and safety.
I don’t believe in quick fixes — healing takes time, gentleness, compassion, and curiosity.
Together, we go at the pace of your nervous system, focusing on embodiment and integration.
My role is to hold a space where you feel deeply supported to reconnect with yourself, release what no longer serves you, and step into the most authentic, empowered version of who you are.

If any of this resonates, feel free to message me — I’d love to connect 🌷

03/10/2025

🌿 Healing Trauma Through the Ears & Nervous System 🌿

When we go through childhood trauma or narcissistic abuse, it doesn’t just affect our emotions — it literally changes how our body processes the world.

👉 One of the most overlooked areas is the middle ear.

The middle ear is deeply connected to the vagus nerve (our main parasympathetic nerve). This nerve helps us feel safe, grounded, and connected.

When we are repeatedly exposed to abuse or unsafe environments, the middle ear loses its ability to filter sounds properly.

🔸 We may become overly sensitive to noises.
🔸 Everyday sounds may feel overwhelming or stressful.
🔸 Most importantly, we lose the natural ability to discern what is safe and what is not safe.
This means our nervous system stays stuck in survival mode, unable to regulate or rest.

✨ This is where the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) comes in. ✨

The SSP uses specially filtered music to gently stimulate the middle ear and vagus nerve. By doing this, it “rewires” the way your nervous system processes sound and safety cues.

The result?
A nervous system that feels safer, more resilient, and more able to connect — both with yourself and with others.

I’m offering SSP sessions for those who:

💠 Have a history of trauma or abuse
💠 Struggle with sound sensitivities
💠 Feel stuck in patterns of hypervigilance, collapse, or dysregulation
💠 Want to feel safe in their own body again

If this resonates with you, I’d love to guide you through this powerful program.

📩 Send me a message if you’d like to learn more and explore how the SSP can best support you on your healing journey.

You don’t have to keep living in survival mode — your nervous system can learn safety again. 🌱💚

Did you know that your middle ear becomes affected when you've experienced trauma from narcissistic abuse?**

This might sound surprising, but it’s real. Trauma isn’t just emotional—it’s physical. When you live under the constant stress of narcissistic abuse, your nervous system is forced into survival mode. Your body begins to rewire itself to detect danger, and one of the first places it shows up is in your ability to *hear*.

The middle ear muscles are closely connected to the vagus nerve, which regulates the body’s fight-or-flight responses. In healthy conditions, these muscles help us filter sounds, separating safe human voices from background noise. But under prolonged abuse, the system becomes hypersensitive. The constant gaslighting, yelling, criticism, or even silent treatment from a narcissist trains your ears to scan for threats. Over time, this can distort how you process sound, making it harder to relax even in safe environments.

That’s why survivors often describe feeling “on edge” when they hear sudden noises, or why certain tones of voice trigger anxiety. The body has literally adapted to survive the abuse. It isn’t weakness—it’s biology. Narcissistic trauma embeds itself in your nervous system, and the middle ear is one of the places it leaves its mark.

The cruel part is that narcissists thrive on this reaction. They want you hypervigilant, jumpy, and always attuned to them. They condition you to anticipate the next explosion, the next insult, the next shift in mood. And your body responds by staying in a state of tension, even when they’re not around.

But here’s the good news: what trauma wires, healing can rewire. Through therapy, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming peace, survivors can retrain their bodies to relax, to hear safety again, and to separate the past from the present. The scars are real—but so is the possibility of recovery.

29/08/2025

🕊️ On Conflict, Compassion, and Collaboration

I recently listened to a podcast by Tara Brach on maintaining presence and compassion in a violent world. It struck a chord with me, because in my own work I’ve been exploring how to move beyond judgment and blame into communication that is rooted in empathy and collaboration.

In conflict, we often think there are only two outcomes:

1️⃣ Submit and lose
2️⃣ Impose and win

But there’s a third path: listen, collaborate, and create win–win solutions.

Unfortunately, most of us were never shown this option. Our nervous systems, shaped by past experiences, default to survival mode. We fight, flee, or freeze—because true safety wasn’t modeled for us. And from that state, the other person becomes “the enemy.”
This is why compassion is such a transformative tool.

As Marshall Rosenberg, founder of Nonviolent Communication, said:

👉 “Behind every act of violence, there is only a desperate cry for help.”
Compassion doesn’t mean excusing harm—it means seeing more clearly. It means recognizing the pain beneath the mask, which opens the possibility for softness, respect, and authentic dialogue.

This is not just personal—it’s also professional. In leadership, teams, and organizations, shifting away from blame and power struggles toward empathy and collaboration leads to healthier communication, more resilient relationships, and more effective conflict resolution.

✨ This is the heart of my work as a Communication Coach.

I help people regulate their nervous system using the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), and I support them in developing new ways of communicating and managing conflict—with themselves and with others.

I currently have a few 1:1 coaching spots open. If you’d like to explore how I can support you in your journey—whether it’s nervous system regulation, conflict transformation, or authentic communication—send me a message or book a call.

Together, we can build a new way of relating—based not on fear, but on empathy, collaboration, and respect. 🌍💛

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27/08/2025

✨ Discover the Power of Nervous System Regulation with the Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP) ✨

💡 What is SSP?
The Safe & Sound Protocol is a gentle, science-based listening therapy developed by Dr. Stephen Porges (Polyvagal Theory). It uses specially filtered music to help your nervous system shift out of survival mode and into safety, balance, and connection.

🌿 Who is it for?
SSP is for anyone who feels stuck in stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm — and for those who want to:

🌱 Heal from past trauma

🌱 Improve emotional resilience

🌱 Strengthen relationships

🌱 Enhance creativity and focus

Feel more joy and safety in everyday life

💖 Benefits you can expect:
✔️ Deep relaxation and stress reduction
✔️ Better sleep and emotional balance
✔️ Greater capacity for connection and intimacy
✔️ Relief from anxiety, burnout, and overwhelm
✔️ Access to more creativity, clarity, and presence

🚀 How to work with me
I guide you through the SSP journey online or in person, providing a safe, supportive space for your system to gently reset and regulate. Sessions are personalized to your needs, and you’ll receive integration support throughout.

✨ Contact me today to learn more about the SSP program and start your journey of regulating your nervous system — for a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life.

25/08/2025

Why does nervous system regulation matter so much for our mental health, relationships, and overall wellbeing?

Because when our nervous system is stuck in survival mode (fight, flight, or freeze), it shapes the way we think, feel, and connect:
Anxiety and depression increase
Confidence and self-esteem shrink
Relationships feel harder, full of conflict or disconnection
We struggle to trust, rest, or feel safe in our own skin

💡 Healing doesn’t start with “thinking differently” — it starts with creating inner safety in the body.
That’s where the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) comes in.

The SSP is a non-invasive listening therapy that gently retunes the nervous system. All the client needs to do is listen to specially filtered music — relaxing, enjoyable, and profoundly regulating.

Through this simple yet powerful process, clients often experience:
✔️ Decreased anxiety and emotional reactivity
✔️ Greater resilience in daily life
✔️ Improved self-confidence and self-esteem
✔️ More capacity to be present with loved ones
✔️ Healing from depression and burnout
✔️ The ability to build authentic, fulfilling relationships

When your nervous system feels safe, everything changes.
You can meet your own needs more effectively, show up with more authenticity, and create deeper connections with others.

✨ Nervous system regulation isn’t a luxury — it’s the foundation for living a grounded, joyful, and connected life.

If you’re curious about how the SSP might support your own journey of resilience and healing, I’d love to share more.

📩 Feel free to message me to explore if this could be right for you.

11/08/2025

✨ Big news — I’m now a certified Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP) provider!

If you’ve ever felt stuck in stress, easily overwhelmed, or like your body just won’t “switch off” — it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because your nervous system has learned to stay on high alert.

The Safe & Sound Protocol is a gentle, evidence-based listening therapy created by Dr. Stephen Porges, founder of the Polyvagal Theory. Through specially filtered music, the SSP helps your nervous system shift out of survival mode and into a state of calm, safety, and connection.

That means you can:
🌟Feel more grounded and resilient in daily life
🌟Reduce anxiety and overwhelm
🌟Improve your ability to focus and listen
🌟Feel safer and more open in your relationships

This is not just “music to relax” — it’s a targeted way of working with your vagus nerve to retrain how your body responds to the world.

The sessions can be done online or in person, and they’re suitable for both adults and children. SSP has shown remarkable benefits for people experiencing trauma, anxiety, burnout, sensory sensitivities, and difficulties feeling safe in their own skin.

💬 If you’re curious about how SSP can help you or someone you love, message me and let’s talk. Your nervous system is the foundation for everything — when it feels safe, you feel free.

03/06/2025

The Rise Of Shakti Women Circle.

What a beautiful experience.
When women get together with their hearts open and their guards down, miracles happen. ✨🙏🏼

May this be one of many more women gatherings we will be co creating, full of love, curiosity, respect for each other, openness to learn and grow. 🫶🏻

Love heals all. 💞