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“Children who are apologized to, learn how to apologize.” J. Milburn ⁣
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I am asked quite frequently how we teach children to feel remorse. I don’t think we really teach remorse, I think it’s intrinsic. I think we can be taught shame and guilt which looks a lot like remorse but is much harder on us from a psychological perspective. Offering genuine apologies to your children, letting them see you apologize with grace and humility, when you hurt someone else, is how we teach what to DO with our feelings of remorse. They will experience feelings of remorse, it’s what meaning they make of it, what they do with it. Do they feel so much shame they shut down, struggle to express their remorse? Do they become a puddle of shame, apologizing and apologizing, fearing upsetting others? Or do they feel and then express genuine remorse? Able to move on… rupture and repair. ⁣
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There are some situations where it really isn't worth the fight. In these situation let your child live with the natural consequence. If your child refuses to wear a jacket, let them go out and experience the cold. This way they learn for themselves and you didn't have to enter into a yelling match. Obviously you can't do this if the consequence is dangerous, but if it is discomfort then let them make the decision.

You need to work out what your core values are and what behaviours you really need them to do and then let some of the smaller things go. Is it wanting your children to be kind? That they are helpful? That they give you some space when you need it? When you realise what is really important to you, then you can let go of other battles like them wanting to wear a superhero cape everywhere or mismatched clothes.

More information on my blog

https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/cooperation-not-obedience-as-a-goal-of-parenting

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Obedience has long been the goal of parenting, but I challenge this belief. Obedience can bring more harm than good. Our goal as a parent is to help our children grow and develop their own values, beliefs and convictions. We want them to grow to be independent adults who will make right decisions and not blindly follow. We therefore can’t enforce obedience, we have to develop cooperation.

More information on my blog

https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/cooperation-not-obedience-as-a-goal-of-parenting

12/10/2022

Skills take time to develop. If we want them to build their mastery of skills, we have to be willing to let them fail and try again. ❤️

📸: Therapist Parent

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