Brooks & Clover Wellness

02/24/2026

It’s tempting to think respect, patience, and self control are things we can demand from kids.

Most of the time, they’re things we teach.

Not in a lecture.
In the way we speak when we’re stressed.
In the way we handle frustration.
In the way we recover after we lose it.

Kids are watching how we do:

disagreement
disappointment
anger
mistakes
repair

If you want your child to speak respectfully, start with your tone.
If you want your child to pause before reacting, let them see you pause.
If you want your child to be kind to themselves, let them hear kindness from you even when they mess up.

This doesn’t mean you have to be calm all the time. Real families are messy.

It means you model what to do when you’re not proud of how you showed up.

And if you’re thinking, “Okay… but how do I actually lead like that when my strong-willed child pushes every button?”

That’s exactly what I’m teaching in my free live class:

Discipline Without Damage
🗓 Wednesday, March 4th
Live on Zoom (replay available)

You’ll learn how to set firm, calm limits without yelling, punishing, or losing your mind.

Comment DISCIPLINE and I’ll send you the details.

02/22/2026

Our actions are what matters.

Taking steps to heal ourselves should be for us first, not for others.

The beauty is that taking care of ourselves has positive benefits for those around us as well.

If we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t
Be there when our loved ones need us the most.

Your family absorbs your actions, not words.

Learn how to become the unbreakable leader your family deserves in my latest podcast episode: "Id Die For My Family" Listen Here:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gIDGLCgU2SAScGXgkS6wY?si=9FlP6UFDSTO1G53zEbfeGg&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A7s6HAB1kPJiycxfjPnabJL&t=0&pi=AxLaWSNbQCCYX

02/18/2026

I’m spending more time listening to the birds these days.

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02/18/2026

I accept this season of my journey

02/17/2026

Adulting is not for the faint of heart.

Find the silver linings, the glimmers, and gratitude along the way. Trust me it will keep your head above water.

Adulthood: crisis subscription never canceled.

02/09/2026

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02/06/2026

Just having had christmas, followed by a family vacation and my Moms birthday in heaven, the grief is heavy.

Over the years the grief has shifted from ugly and painful to a more peaceful quiet sadness. I wish I could hug her and have her talk back to me with words but her presence is so strong these days, we know she is still walking along side us and that brings so much more softness to the grief.

If you are missing someone you love. I see you. Give yourself a hug, they are still with you.

01/28/2026

Just be you and your people will arrive.

01/28/2026

We are all human and will make mistakes or hurt our loved ones unintentionally.

The repair, empathy for the impact even when unintentional, and commitment to change is what truly matters.

Never perfection.

Real repair has three parts: ownership (I see what I did and I’m not defending it), empathy (I can feel what it was like for you), and a plan for change (here’s what I’ll do differently when we get back here). Without ownership, apology feels hollow. Without empathy, it feels cold. Without a plan, it becomes a loop.

01/18/2026

01/17/2026

In the work I do with youth I see the consequences of screens daily.

I also see the effects in some of my adult relationships.

If you or your child are experiencing increased anxiety, low motivation, bigger stress responses, evaluating how you utilize screens throughout your day is a great starting point.

The creators of these tools want us to be addicted, there’s profit in it for them, but how is it effecting our brains?

Screens calm children fast. One video, one game, one scroll, and the stress melts away. For a tired or overwhelmed child, that relief feels instant and powerful.

The problem is what comes after. The brain gets used to fast rewards. Real life moves slower. Homework, meals, conversation, and play can start to feel boring, irritating, or overwhelming. When screens stop, emotions often surge. Children may become restless, angry, tearful, or shut down. This is not bad behaviour. It is a nervous system struggling to cope without quick comfort.

This pattern shows up in many children and young people. It is common in children with anxiety, ADHD, ASD, sensory sensitivities, or emotional regulation difficulties. It also affects children who spend all day holding it together and using their energy to cope. Their behaviour is communication, not defiance.

What helps is not blame or constant battles over screen time. Children need connection, movement, outdoor time, creativity, and shared moments with calm adults. Slower activities help the brain reset and relearn how to cope with everyday life.

When adults understand this, responses change. Less punishment. More support. Less conflict. More connection.

Comment "SCREEN" and we will send you a message with a link to a free PDF of this resource.

01/16/2026

Live life on purpose.

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