04/22/2026
Often in south Asian diaspora culture, especially in immigrant households, there can be the pressure to be productive.
Our parents moved to this country and they worked hard. Whether it was overtime at work to bring in a wage, making a fresh dinner to put on the table or looking after us, they were always busy.
Subconsciously, they transferred this pressure to always be busy to us.
To them, if we were busy studying for a good job, cleaning the house, or something in that vain, we were doing something positive. "Useful" hobbies like learning to sew may have been passable.
But candle-making, doing a puzzle, a pottery class...these pursuits seem a little frivolous to them. Doing something we really enjoy is amazing for our wellbeing though - and for theirs. Much like south Asian daughters growing up, they were never given permission to use their time for just enjoyment.
Not only can this recharge us by promoting relaxation and increased levels of happiness, having hobbies can reduce feelings of depression and isolation.
So pick up that pencil and start colouring.
What hobby brings you joy?