Expressive Child & Family Therapies

05/15/2026

Boundaries are your values not your fort 💥🥇

05/10/2026

However Mother’s Day is for you..

And wherever you find yourself

Honour that there is no right way to feel

You can love and celebrate the goodness that is

You can be grateful and still be sad

You can chose not to celebrate and wish things had been different

You can show appreciation and feel gratitude, along with loss and heartbreak

Today, however you need to mark this day, honour what is true for you🩵💗🤍

05/08/2026

When colleagues bring me their kiddos’ toys 🤩

05/06/2026

Neuroscience backs this. Virtually every so-called mental health condition, chronic illness, and recurrent pain is rooted in a dysregulated nervous system.

Nervous systems are dysregulated by insufficient safety in their environments.

So, whatever the diagnosis, the solution is support the nervous system’s innate capacity to regulate.

A regulated nervous system is vital to our well-being and health.

Our culture, with its focus on technology, competition, production, and the next best thing is antithetical to our well-being.

It dysregulates our nervous systems, disintegrates our brains, and puts us in a perpetual state of flight, fight, freeze or collapse.

04/25/2026

04/21/2026

Despite having supportive families, many adolescents feel fundamentally unimportant.

The crucial factor isn’t love; it’s the belief that their presence has value, that they make a difference in the lives of others.

Mattering is that deep seated assurance that others acknowledge you and would feel your absence.
This sense of mattering, transcends, belonging or popularity; it speaks to the unique essence of feeling valued.

Extensive research has drawn, alarming connections between a lack of mattering and issues like depression, anxiety, violence, and su***de.

The good news is that mattering can be cultivated. It grows in the connections we nurture, the impact of our work, and how we engage with those around us.

Let’s go out of our way to help our people know that they make a difference; that they’re not just optional. That their presence is necessary.💞

04/14/2026

Children learn quickly when they sense uncertainty or frustration.

If we can speak once, clearly, and confidently, trusting that authority does not need volume to be effective we create calm leadership.

Calm leadership creates a safer emotional space for children to respond.

Discipline is loving instruction, not anger, driven consequences. Discipline is correction that leads to growth.

Discipline done well teaches children about consequences, responsibility, and grace.

It is not about winning a battle, but about guiding a soul.

Consistency builds trust and clarity. Inconsistency confuses children.
When caregivers follow through consistently, children feel more secure because expectations are clear.

Consistency is not harshness, it is kindness.

Children learn faster and resist less when they know exactly what is expected and what will happen if they choose otherwise.

04/12/2026

From an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) perspective, trauma is not a story someone tells. It is a state the body organizes around when safety has been repeatedly violated.

That organization shapes, perception, reactivity, capacity for trust, and tolerance for closeness.

You cannot heal in an environment that keeps asking your nervous system to perform against its own survival cues.

The bottom line
Trauma recovery does not happen through persuasion, but through safety.

Safety is not created by insisting someone tolerate what hurts them. It is created by adjusting the environment.

04/07/2026

One of those hills🤍

04/06/2026

Compassion is our lifeline.

To heal ourselves and others, compassion is not optional-it is essential.

We meet ourselves and others with empathy and a fierce belief in their humanity.

For someone who has lived their life unseen, being truly witnessed is radical.

Compassion does not erase suffering, but it transforms it-turning shame into dignity and isolation into connection.