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We love a label.It can bring language to pain, a sense of validation, maybe even relief. But sometimes, the label become...
23/07/2025

We love a label.

It can bring language to pain, a sense of validation, maybe even relief. But sometimes, the label becomes a cage. A shortcut we use to explain ourselves (or others) without doing the deeper work.

The truth is, most of us aren’t just anxious or avoidant, people pleasers or narcissists. We’re humans with nervous systems shaped by relational wounds. And the path to healing isn’t found in memorizing traits… it’s in meeting the parts of ourselves we’ve disowned… the ones that learned to survive in ways that no longer serve us. And maybe finding people and spaces that have the capacity to see those parts of us too.

This post isn’t anti-diagnosis, it’s a an invitation to go deeper. Healing doesn’t end when we name the thing. It begins when we face it - with honesty, compassion, and accountability 🤍

Let me know your thoughts below 👇🏽


Let’s talk about what public shame does to us.We like to think we’re just “witnessing” when a scandal breaks… but often,...
20/07/2025

Let’s talk about what public shame does to us.

We like to think we’re just “witnessing” when a scandal breaks… but often, we’re performing. Rehearsing our own sense of moral high ground. Reposting with captions like “yikes” or “I’d never.” Laughing, analyzing, gossiping…all while hiding from the parts of ourselves we’d never want caught on camera.

We use their mess to avoid our own.
But self-awareness means asking: What part of me feels seen in their fall?

And healing?
Healing can be choosing something deeper than performance…

Even when no one’s watching.

This is an invitation to hold up a mirror and reflect on the part of you that reacts when someone gets caught…the part that judges, distances, or even secretly finds relief in their downfall. What does that part need to feel safe, seen, and human?







Let’s talk about what public shame does to us.We like to think we’re just “witnessing” when a scandal breaks… but often,...
20/07/2025

Let’s talk about what public shame does to us.

We like to think we’re just “witnessing” when a scandal breaks… but often, we’re performing. Rehearsing our own sense of moral high ground. Reposting with captions like “yikes” or “I’d never.” Laughing, analyzing, gossiping…all while hiding from the parts of ourselves we’d never want caught on camera.

We use their mess to avoid our own.
But self-awareness means asking: What part of me feels seen in their fall?

And healing?
Healing can be choosing something deeper than performance…

Even when no one’s watching.







You know it’s not about your worth…but your body doesn’t always get the memo.This is part two of a conversation that beg...
18/07/2025

You know it’s not about your worth…
but your body doesn’t always get the memo.

This is part two of a conversation that began with a common phrase in the self-help world:
“It’s about their capacity, not your worth.”
And while that may be true, it doesn’t always land when you’re activated.

So what do you do when the trigger is already here?

This post offers a moment-by-moment roadmap for staying with yourself when your nervous system wants to spiral. No bypassing. No shame. Just honest self-compassion in real time.

Because healing doesn’t mean you never feel abandoned or unworthy…it means you now have the tools to stay present when those feelings surface.

Let me know if this lands 🤍




“It’s about their capacity, not your worth.”We love that line. Until we’re crying in the bathroom, wondering what’s wron...
17/07/2025

“It’s about their capacity, not your worth.”
We love that line. Until we’re crying in the bathroom, wondering what’s wrong with us.

Here’s what most miss:
When we were young, it wasn’t safe to acknowledge our caregivers couldn’t meet our needs.
So we turned on ourselves.
We made it about our worth…
Not because it was true, but because it was easier to control… sigh ❤️‍🩹

That strategy doesn’t disappear just because you know better now.
Healing means recognizing why your system personalized it.
And then doing the brave, slow work of unlearning that reflex.

You’re not wrong for taking it personally.
You’re just meeting an old part of you that once had no other choice but to respond to feelings of rejection that way-
And now, with care, compassion, and deeper connection…you do. How? Stay tuned for part 2.

🤍 Alisha





There’s a version of healing that fits nicely on Instagram.It’s curated. Calm. Aesthetic.But deep healing? The kind that...
15/07/2025

There’s a version of healing that fits nicely on Instagram.
It’s curated. Calm. Aesthetic.
But deep healing? The kind that changes how you show up in relationships (not just how you look online) that’s a different story.

That’s nervous system repair.
That’s emotional accountability.
That’s letting go of stories that once protected you.

It’s quiet work. Lonely, sometimes.
But it’s the path back to you.
And that’s what we need most for the peace we crave.

🤍

Compassion is the starting point. But it’s not the end. Part 2 ♥️The next step is choosing a new response when the old p...
11/07/2025

Compassion is the starting point. But it’s not the end. Part 2 ♥️

The next step is choosing a new response when the old pattern is calling your name.

You can interrupt the reaction.
You can ask for what you need without panic or demanding something from someone else.
You can be someone who meets your own pain without turning it into someone else’s job to fix.

This is what it means to rewire survival into secure connection.

🪞Which of these new ways of reaching feels hardest for you right now?
I’d love to hear below, if you feel safe to share.

Self-compassion isn’t just how you speak to yourself on a hard day ♥️It’s how you meet the parts of you that you were ta...
04/07/2025

Self-compassion isn’t just how you speak to yourself on a hard day ♥️

It’s how you meet the parts of you that you were taught (implicitly or explicitly) through experience of rejection to suppress, deny, run from and essentially abandon.

It’s nervous system care.
It’s inner child repair.
It’s accountability with tenderness.
It is reconnecting with yourself.

It’s learning to say:
“Even in this moment, I am worthy of my own warmth.”

This is the work. And it’s not always pretty. But it is sacred.

🤍 If this spoke to something in you, I’d love to know. I am there with you, working on it everyday.

Save or share with someone on this path.

There’s a difference between learning about healing and actually living your way into it.We’re in an era where “doing th...
03/07/2025

There’s a difference between learning about healing and actually living your way into it.

We’re in an era where “doing the work” has become part of the identity. Therapy, self-help books, endless reels…and yet so many people still feel just as lost in their relationships, reactive in their bodies, and disconnected from themselves.

Because the real work?
It’s not how much you know.
It’s how honest you’re willing to be with yourself…
It’s how well you can regulate when things don’t go your way…
It’s how deeply others feel seen and safe with you- especially when it’s hard.

A big part of what I do is help people peel back the distortions:
The stories they cling to.
The image they protect.
The parts they deny or disown.
So they can finally see clearly and live with more alignment, intimacy, and integrity.

Because real healing isn’t something you perform.
It’s something you embody.

🖤 If this resonates, you’re not alone. And you’re not behind.
You’re just being invited into the real work.

Sometimes people land on this page and ask:“Who are you? What do you do?”And… it’s not a quick answer.I’m am a fellow hu...
03/07/2025

Sometimes people land on this page and ask:
“Who are you? What do you do?”
And… it’s not a quick answer.

I’m am a fellow human being who has walked alongside others for over a decade in the therapy room.
I have also walked through my own grief, patterns, and growth…and continue to.

This space is where both meet: professional wisdom and lived experience.
A space to explore relational dynamics, nervous system regulation, self-awareness…all of the messy, beautiful work of being human - one post at a time.

Healing, to me, begins with deeper connection- to yourself, your people, and your truth. If that’s what you’re longing for, you’re in the right place.

🤍 Welcome.


You can’t learn to swim from a book you need to get in the water ♥️Self-help offers insight — but for many of us, it has...
02/07/2025

You can’t learn to swim from a book you need to get in the water ♥️

Self-help offers insight — but for many of us, it hasn’t touched the pain we feel in relationships.

You’re not broken.
You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re likely burnt out from trying to heal in isolation. And I have been there too ❤️‍🩹

Books and podcasts can guide us — but they can’t co-regulate us.
They can’t offer presence.
They can’t hold us when we’re hurting.

Healing is meant to be relational.
Along with the skills you learn from the self-help world so the theory can come to life in your relationships, repeated over time, to correct and possibly re-wire our nervous system.

🤍 Let this be a gentle reminder:
If you’re tired of the “work” and still feel disconnected, it’s not just you- I applaud your courage for your calling to heal.

Your nervous system may just be asking for more than insight — it’s asking to be met.

🪞Have you felt this too?
Drop a comment below. Share what this brings up for you. Sometimes just naming it is the beginning of something new.






Sometimes we believe we’re giving freely…that we’re generous by nature, that we’re just “wired this way.”But when the re...
01/07/2025

Sometimes we believe we’re giving freely…
that we’re generous by nature, that we’re just “wired this way.”
But when the relationship shifts —
when we feel unseen, unappreciated, or unmet —
that same giving starts to feel… different.

Heavy.
Draining.
Resentful.

This doesn’t make you manipulative.
It makes you human.

Because even generosity is often tied to something….
A hope. A longing.
A belief that if we give enough, love will stay.
Or that care will be returned.
Or that we’ll be chosen.

We’re not naturally “givers” in every environment.
We are shaped, moment to moment, by how we are being met.
And when our needs go unmet, our generosity often becomes effortful —
a performance of connection, rather than an expression of it.

This is why awareness matters.
So we can give because we want to, not because we’re trying to preserve a sense of worth or closeness.

It’s not about keeping score.
It’s about noticing:
What was my giving connected to?

That’s not selfish.
That’s relational truth.
And it’s a place to begin again — with clarity and compassion.

🤍 Save this if it speaks to something tender in you.
🪞 You’re not alone in this.


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