Soul Connection Counselling

11/20/2025

Today’s reminder is simple, but it might be the most important one of the week:

Men need consistent support, not just crisis support.

Yes, check on them when they’re struggling —
but also check on them when they’re quiet, when they’re busy, when they say “I’m fine,”
and even when they seem to have everything handled.

Because sometimes the strongest-looking men are holding the heaviest pieces together.
And sometimes the ones who never ask for anything
are the ones who need gentleness the most.

Support isn’t always big conversations or emotional deep-dives.
It can be:

• “How’s your energy been lately?”
• “You’ve had a lot on your plate — how are you holding up?”
• “I’m here, even if you don’t know what you need yet.”
• “Just checking in because I care.”

Small consistencies build trust.
And trust is what gives men permission to finally exhale.

Let’s keep showing up not only when the alarm bells ring —
but in the quiet spaces where their unspoken needs live.
They deserve that steadiness, too. 💙

Read my latest blog on the subject:https://soul-connection.ca/unfolding%3A-therapy-chair/f/if-last-week-hit-home-this-one-is-for-you

11/19/2025

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11/19/2025

The men in our lives are important. They deserve and need our support, softness and love.

International Mens Day.

The day appreciates men for what they do in families and society. It also highlights men’s health and the problems men face.

Often, Men’s mental health is crucial yet often overlooked. Many men feel pressure to appear strong, hide emotions, or “tough it out,” which can lead to unaddressed stress, anxiety, and depression. Prioritizing men’s mental health encourages open conversations, reduces stigma, and helps men seek support when they need it. When men take care of their emotional well-being, it improves their relationships, work life, and overall quality of life—and can even save lives.

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11/19/2025

We don’t talk about this enough: Men often feel like a burden for having feelings at all. Not because anyone told them that directly, but because they grew up watching the world reward their toughness and ignore their tenderness.

So today’s reminder is this: You are not “too much” for needing support. You are not weak for having emotions. You are not a burden for being human.

If anything, it’s the opposite.
Your honesty is a bridge.
Your vulnerability is a doorway.
Your truth is a chance for deeper connection, not a threat to it.

And for those of us who love the men in our lives:
We can help soften that shame.
We can respond with patience, not panic.
Validation, not fixing.
Presence, not pressure.

Sometimes the most healing words a man can hear are: “You’re not too much. I’m right here.”

Let’s keep making it safe for men to take up emotional space.

Read more on this weeks blog: https://soul-connection.ca/unfolding%3A-therapy-chair/f/if-last-week-hit-home-this-one-is-for-you

11/18/2025

Masking is a huge thing with school aged kids.

Masking can make a child look perfectly fine at school while quietly burning through every bit of emotional and sensory energy they have. This visual explains why so many children — especially autistic girls — hold it together all day but unravel the moment they feel safe at home.

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11/18/2025

Today, I want to remind you of something simple but important: Men don’t open up when they feel pressured. They open up when they feel safe.
Safety doesn’t mean silence or pretending everything is fine. It means being met with curiosity instead of judgment. It means being asked, “How are you… really?” in a way that feels genuine. It means knowing the door is open — even if they’re not ready to walk through it yet.

So today’s reminder is for us, too: We can be the people who make it easier for the men we love to talk. We can slow down, soften our approach, and create the kind of space that doesn’t rush or demand.

Sometimes healing starts with one gentle moment.
Sometimes it starts with one safe person.

Let’s be that.

Read my latest blog that dives deeper into this topic: https://soul-connection.ca/unfolding%3A-therapy-chair/f/if-last-week-hit-home-this-one-is-for-you

11/17/2025

Last week, I wrote a letter to the men who carry their pain quietly, the fathers, brothers, partners, and friends who were taught to “be strong” long before they ever learned how to ask for help.

So this week, I wrote a follow-up. A letter back to the men who read those words and felt something shift inside. A letter for the ones who want to show up but don’t always know how. A letter with tools, compassion, and real steps toward emotional health, not fluff, not judgment, not pressure.

Just honesty, humanity, and space to be more than the roles you perform every day.

If last week made you pause… If you saw yourself—or someone you love— this week’s letter is for you.

📖 Read it here: Last week : https://soul-connection.ca/unfolding%3A-therapy-chair/f/if-last-week-hit-home-this-one-is-for-you

Let’s keep talking about men’s mental health.
The quiet ones deserve gentleness too.

11/13/2025

I love this post about stimming.

Let’s talk about stimming.

You may notice a child flap their hands when excited, tap their pencils repeatedly, hum softly, rock back and forth, or pick at their fingers. These movements are known as self-stimulatory behaviours — or ‘stimming’.

Stimming is not attention-seeking.
It’s not misbehaviour.
And it’s certainly not something to be 'trained out'.

Stimming is a regulation tool.
For many neurodivergent young people, it helps calm the nervous system, release built-up energy, manage sensory overwhelm, or express joy.

When we understand stimming as communication and regulation, our response changes.
Instead of “stop that”, we move towards curiosity, support, and providing safe forms of sensory expression.

Save this and share with anyone who supports a young person.

11/13/2025

We break cycles not by blaming the past,
but by choosing peace where once there was pain.
Every calm response, every gentle pause,
is a step toward generational healing.
Your child’s future can look different because you chose to heal.