12/10/2025
šAncestral Heart Healing
A Soul Journey Coaching Reflectionš
One of the most tender (and often unspoken) parts of adulthood is this:
At a certain age, every single one of us has to reckon with the emotional imprint left by our parentsā¦
whether they are still with us or not.
I see it in my clients.
I hear it in my friends.
And if Iām honest, Iāve been walking through my own version of it too.
As our parents age, relationships shift.
Roles change.
Dynamics surface.
Old wounds resurface.
And sometimes, the healing we wish we could do with themā¦
is healing we must do without them.
Not because we donāt love themā¦
but because many of our parents are simply not in a place (emotionally, mentally, or spiritually) to participate in our healing in the way we long for.
Some have passed.
Some are unwell.
Some shut down emotionally.
Some donāt have the capacity for repair.
Some still see us through the lens of who we were as children.
And yet⦠our hearts still carry the imprints.
šæ The hard truth Iāve been sitting with:
There are old patterns ā fear of abandonment, mistrust around consistency, guilt around cancelling or disappointing people, difficulty believing good things can last ā that didnāt start in adulthood.
They were planted in childhood.
And hereās the deeper layer:
We canāt always fix those wounds through the parent-child relationship itself.
But we can heal how they live inside our bodies, behaviours, boundaries, relationships, and choices today.
That part is ours to work with.
š What healing looks like NOW
In my own journey ā and in the journeys of so many clients ā the work becomes:
⨠Understanding the behaviours and beliefs that formed when we were young
⨠Naming the patterns that still echo in our adult relationships
⨠Allowing grief, anger, confusion, compassion, and truth to all coexist
⨠Ending the cycle of self-blame and over-functioning
⨠Learning to trust our own needs and signals
⨠Re-parenting the parts of us that never felt chosen, respected, protected, or understood
⨠Honouring the good in our parents without erasing the harm
⨠Holding nuance: āThey did their bestā and āIt still hurt meā can both be true
⨠Creating a new internal foundation that no longer depends on what our parents could or couldnāt give
š A gentle invitation
If youāre working through a complicated relationship with an ageing parentā¦
If youāve lost a parent you still have questions aboutā¦
If your childhood wounds still pull on your adult heartā¦
Please know: š
You are not ābehind.ā
You are not broken.
You are not alone.
You are simply waking up to the truth that your healing no longer depends on their participation.
It depends on your awareness, your courage, and your willingness to meet yourself with honesty and compassion.
And that is where the real transformation begins.
This is the soul work Iām doing for myself ā
and the work Iām honoured to support my clients through every day.
šæ And when we heal these deep-rooted parental imprints, everything changes:
your boundaries,
your relationships,
your sense of safety,
your self-worth,
your ability to receive,
your capacity to thrive.
Our parents shaped usā¦
But we decide what shapes us next.
With love,
Klee ā Soul Journey Coaching
ššWhere Real Life Becomes Sacred Medicinešš