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04/06/2023

A beautiful reminder. And image to go along with.

"Words matter. Three parenting tips to remember about our words:
1. Let your children overhear you saying nice things about them
2. Remember that your words become their internal voice. Be kind.
3. Talk nicely about others. When we point out the good in others, it becomes easier to see the good in others."
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Via The Danish Way 🇩🇰🇩🇰🥰

04/04/2023

Bring some zen to your life...even if for a moment. Your body likes to be settled. If we don't practice putting on the brakes, how can we learn how nice this feels?

04/04/2023

💖Sparkle on

heck ya ~

03/27/2023

My 4 year old drew these today.

He wanted to learn how to draw an angler fish and so I found him a video.

1st version and 2nd version of the angler fish from the video tutorial in the photos.

He BEGGED me before starting the second one to help him draw it. I refused (politely and respectfully) and explained (probably with too many words as usual 🤷🏻‍♀️) that he wouldn't be able to learn and improve on his drawing of an angler fish if I drew it for him. That would only result in me learning to draw an angler fish.

But mama I won't be able to do it just like him.

And of course, I need to impart some motherly wisdom (which as I can imagine many of you can feel even your kiddos eyes rolling back into their heads).

Honey. No matter what you do you will never be able to draw the same as him. And even if you did, that wouldn't really be your art, would it?

I held up his first drawing and said, sweetheart, this is the scariest angler fish I have ever seen. No one will ever draw an angler fish like this. Do you see how this is YOUR art? If someone walked up and copied this angler you drew, exactly the same way, and said look its my art! Would that be true?
In art, we need to let what we create be from us and our version. I held my stance kindly, but firmly.

He eventually said, ok, fiiiiiiine (eye roll). And proceeded to do his version two. Which he loved even more than version one. And was proud of himself for drawing more like the video 🤦‍♀️🤣. But it is still definitely HIS art. And it is so beautiful. (He even added his own little extras!).

And of course my mama brain says maybe the video was a bad idea ..maybe I should've just shown him a picture...and on and on.
But despite this I truly believe this was one of those moments. Where I was really proud of myself as a mom. For doing something hard, because I knew it was right. Trusting myself. Trusting my child. And witnessing the beautiful moments, learning, and growth that blossoms.

Trust in yourself and your kiddos, mama. You have GOT THIS.

Let the sunshine in.

Warmly,
Karelia