The Growth Approach

02/11/2025

Not me 3 years ago thinking my almost perfect ACEs score didn't mean I would have chronic dysregulation 🙃

This video was developed to give a basic introduction and overview of how trauma and chronic stress affects our nervous system and how those effects impact o...

10/24/2024

A few old favourites 💌

03/08/2024

Irreducible Rascality: the potential wrench in every plan, problem in every solution, or possibility that can disrupt any 'perfect' situation. The constant possibility of s**t getting fu**ed.

When Alan Watts wrote about Carl Jung, he described perfectly what an integrated Shadow Self looks like:

“There is a nice German word, hintergedanken, which means a thought in the very far back of your mind,” says Watts. “Jung had a hintergedanken in the back of his mind that showed in the twinkle in his eye. It showed that he knew and recognized what I sometimes call the element of irreducible rascality in himself. And he knew it so strongly and so clearly, and in a way so lovingly, that he would not condemn the same thing in others, and would therefore not be led into those thoughts, feelings, and acts of violence towards others which are always characteristic of the people who project the devil in themselves upon the outside, upon somebody else, upon the scapegoat.”
~Alan Watts discussing Carl Jung

02/16/2024

We cannot pour from an empty cup and feel loved. We must water ourselves first. When we love ourselves our boundaries grow. And so do our standards and self worth.

Love yourself so much that you don't need another person's love. So that way the cup you pour into overflows into yours, so neither of you are empty. When we don't love ourselves we pour and pour, not realizing their cup has holes.

Photo: L.E. Bowman | Author of What I Learned From the Trees and The Evolution of a Girl.

02/16/2024

Morning routine ⛅️🌷

02/15/2024

10/31/2023

Happy Halloween 🎃

10/24/2023

The data doesn’t lie…👇🏼

Since it’s inception over 100yrs ago (!!!) researchers consistently find that secure attachment styles highly correlate to successful relationships.

Why?! What’s so special about secure attachment?

In a nutshell:

🌰 A secure person balances their relationship to themselves and their values with their relationships to others.

✨This means they don’t hyper-focus on a partner and accidentally neglect their own lives…

✨While *also* being emotionally present and vulnerable in order to get on the same page and deepen the relationship.

✨They make an effort to understand the other person, compromise, and work through challenges when they inevitably happen, while taking their own happiness and wellbeing into consideration.

It’s tough to learn if this isn’t your default, but coming from a once INTENSE fearful-avoidant attachment style, and now largely healing & secure in a relationship beyond my imagination..

I’m telling (actually, promising!) you it is possible.

Reference:
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/get-attached/

08/27/2023

Mindfulness is known to temper negative reactions by both victims and perpetrators of injustice. Accordingly, critics claim that mindfulness numbs peo…