SEEK Therapeutic Counselling

02/20/2026

There’s a stretch in adulthood when what used to stay neatly contained begins showing up in the body. Sleep shifts. Sensitivity increases. The strategies that once worked don’t land the same way.

It can feel unsettling, even alarming. Especially if you’ve been competent, steady, and good at holding things together.

Often it isn’t collapse. It’s capacity. The nervous system registering more than it used to, sometimes because there’s finally enough stability for that to happen.

Not everything needs to be interpreted immediately. Sometimes the work is learning how to stay with what’s arising without shutting down or flooding.

02/18/2026

The responses to my last post were thoughtful and honest. Many people (particularly on my Facebook account) shared that going numb was what allowed them to get through certain periods of their lives.

That’s real. People survive in different ways, at different times, with different resources available to them. What’s protective in one season may not be what’s needed in another. There isn’t a single right way to move through hard things, and there isn’t a single timeline for how people relate to feeling, not feeling, or finding their way back into contact with themselves.

I appreciate the range of perspectives that came in. It’s a reminder that language lands differently depending on what someone has lived through and what they’re living through now. There’s room for all of it here.

Thank you. 🙏

02/14/2026

There’s a push right now to toughen up and move on. To stop reacting. To stop noticing. To keep functioning no matter what’s in front of us.

I’m not convinced that hardening is the answer.

You can stay aware and still live your life. You can feel what you feel and still have boundaries around it. Caring doesn’t require you to carry everything. It also doesn’t require you to shut down.

Some people have always felt things more deeply. They register tone, tension, what’s underneath the surface. That isn’t a flaw. It’s a form of contact. And contact matters.

It’s possible to keep your capacity for feeling without letting it consume you. It takes more intention than numbness, but it leads to a steadier kind of footing.

You don’t have to become numb to get through this.

02/13/2026

Awareness can feel heavy. For some people, it always has.

There are those who have moved through life with a strong sense of things. Atmosphere. Tone. Underlying tension. The parts of the world that don’t quite sit right. That sensitivity isn’t new. It’s a way of being.

Lately, though, the weight can feel closer to home. Less abstract. Less distant. Things that once felt far away now feel personal, immediate, harder to set down at the end of the day. It can catch people off guard, even the ones who are used to carrying more than most.

When that happens, it helps to remember that awareness isn’t only a burden. It’s also a form of orientation. It helps you recognize what’s actually in front of you. It sharpens your sense of what matters. It gives you a way to stay present without needing to numb out or shut down.

If the world feels heavier than usual right now, you’re not imagining it. Some seasons ask more of our nervous systems than others. The work is to stay clear without becoming overwhelmed. To let yourself register what’s real, while still keeping your footing in your own life.

Awareness can be heavy. It can also be clarifying.

02/08/2026

Jung wrote about the shadow as if it lived inside individuals. He also warned that it gathers in groups. (Collective unconscious).

When a culture has no tolerance for grief, rage, fear, or shame, those feelings don’t disappear. They go underground. They wait. They find other ways to show up. You can see it in the tone people use with each other. In the quickness to dehumanize. In the appetite for spectacle. In the way indifference gets dressed up as strength.

This isn’t abstract theory, because it’s playing out in real time, everywhere.

The goal isn’t to harden yourself just to cope with it. It’s to stay conscious. To know your own shadow well enough that you don’t need to throw it onto someone else. Personal work has a ripple effect. It always has.
When one person takes responsibility for what lives inside them, there’s a little less projection in the room. A little less acting out. A little more clarity.

That kind of work matters more than we tend to admit.

02/05/2026

I cannot and will not be silent about the atrocities I am seeing in the world. The microcosms I see with my clients are a result of the macrocosms that the world imparts.

What is happening is not ok.

Social media may have its flaws, but it certainly shares and reveals knowledge we all need to know. The Epstein Files are telling us an absolutely horrifying reality that some of the elite are participating in, hiding, and protecting.

This is not okay. This is beyond not okay. It’s effing horrifying.

These acts trickle down onto all of us. The abuse of minorities. The abuse of women. The abuse of children. The abuse of animals. The abuse of the economically challenged. If we accept this, then we are part of the problem.

So, we need to stand up.

This post is one of the only ways I know how.

Wishing you strength. 🙏

02/05/2026

I spend my days sitting with people as they try to make sense of their inner worlds. But the inner world is not sealed off from the outer one. We are shaped by the emotional climate we live in. By what we see. By what we hear. By what we try not to feel.

There are moments in history when the level of harm, cruelty, or disregard for human dignity is impossible to ignore. When images and stories reach us and something in the body says, this is not right. This is not humane.

From a depth psychology lens, none of this stays “out there.” Jung wrote about the collective unconscious, the shared psychological field that connects us. When inhumanity happens in the world, it reverberates through that field. People feel it in their nervous systems, their dreams, their anxiety, their grief, even when they can’t fully name why.

I don’t believe therapists are meant to be neutral in the face of dehumanization. Calm, yes. Grounded, yes. Thoughtful, always. But not numb. Not indifferent. Not pretending that what happens to others has no psychological or moral impact.

At SEEK, I believe in dignity. In the basic worth of people. In the importance of noticing when harm is being normalized. In helping people stay connected to their humanity rather than shutting down to survive what they’re seeing.

You can tend to your own healing and still care deeply about what is happening beyond your front door.
You can regulate your nervous system and still refuse to accept cruelty as normal.
You can want peace and still feel anger when something is unjust.

Awareness changes what we can live with.
And once we see clearly, it becomes harder to pretend we don’t. That tension is not a failure of coping. It’s a sign that your humanity is intact.

02/04/2026

Some of the things I write about aren’t light.

Projection. Early attachment. The way our first relationships leave fingerprints on the ones we choose later.

This piece came from sitting with a simple question:
Why do some connections feel like recognition instead of meeting?

If you like psychology that doesn’t rush to answers, you might enjoy this one.

Link in bio.

02/04/2026

01/30/2026

Sometimes the pull toward someone feels instant. Familiar. Almost like recognition rather than discovery.

That feeling can be beautiful. It can also be revealing.

I’m in the midst of writing a new blog about how attraction, memory, and early relationships shape what we experience as “love.” Carl Jung called it projection and it can be a wild ride, making us fall in love for reasons we don’t even understand.

But once we do understand, the healing begins and often, our choice in romantic partner changes.

Stay tuned! 🙏❤️

EmotionalAwareness

10/31/2025

For those of us who are conflict-avoidant, holding a boundary can feel brutal.

People don’t always receive our words with grace. Sometimes they get defensive, or the conversation turns into an argument, and every part of you wants to take it back.

But boundaries aren’t about control. They’re about clarity. They’re about showing up as who you really are, even when it’s uncomfortable.

The moment you hold your ground, you step into authenticity. You stop negotiating your worth. You start trusting your own voice.

That’s the quiet power of self.

10/31/2025

The first time you hold a boundary, it can feel like you’re risking everything: connection, approval, belonging. Especially if you’ve spent years avoiding conflict to keep the peace.

But boundaries create peace. They tell the truth about what you can hold, what you need, and what you’re no longer willing to carry. Over time, that honesty becomes safety. And that safety becomes freedom.