Total-Self Therapy

10/05/2024

10/05/2024

08/12/2024

Trauma closes our hearts, robs us of our authentic expression, and disconnects us from those we love, leaving us in isolation. But healing can change that. ❤️

Imagine a life where we:
👉 Feel deeply connected without fear of isolation.
👉 Live fully in the moment, not haunted by the past.
👉 Understand and share genuine empathy.
👉 Protect our energy with healthy boundaries.
👉 Express ourselves openly instead of withdrawing.
👉 Welcome change with open arms.
👉 Find balance in relationships.
👉 Let go of resentment through forgiveness.
👉 Trust our instincts without constant doubt.
👉 Lead with empowerment, not control.
👉 Respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.
👉 Truly love and accept ourselves.

Healing isn’t about fixing something that’s broken—it’s about unlocking the best version of us. Our hearts deserve to be open, our connections authentic, and our lives lived fully. 🌟

06/25/2024

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞: 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 “𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅”

Moving from stress, confusion, arguments, isolation, illness, and anxiety to a regulated state requires us to have this compassionate, attuned connection and radical ownership to rewrite our own stories and be our own healers. Imagine stepping out of the blame game, victimhood, and old patterns of behavior and thinking.

𝑯𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏𝒗𝒊𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝒖𝒔 𝒕𝒐:

👉 Embrace self-compassion and allow ourselves to grieve and be witnessed.

👉 Break free from old habits and dysregulated ways of showing up in life and relationships.

👉 Commit to time, patience, and a journey of never giving up.

Breaking free from what is sometimes generations of conditioning takes time and dedication. Every day is a chance to step into a new reality and sense a greater reward in a better way of being.

06/19/2024

𝑫𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒈𝒈𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒙𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇?

You’ve come so far and worked so hard to become 🆃🅷🅸🆂 🆅🅴🆁🆂🅸🅾🅽 🅾🅵 🆈🅾🆄. Every past version of yourself has brought you here, so cheer yourself on and don’t give up. Your present self is laying the foundation for your future self. You are doing your best, and that is enough.

Often, we get too harsh, pushy, and critical with ourselves on this healing journey. Instead, let’s invite curiosity and compassion. Allow yourself to rest and integrate. Healing isn’t just about pushing forward; it’s a dance between effort and rest.

𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧. Every step you’ve taken has shaped who you are today. Don’t be at war with your past; honor it as part of your unique journey.

Here are a few ways to extend compassion to yourself:

1. 𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙍𝙚𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣: Take time to understand your feelings without judgment.

2. 𝙎𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙠 𝙆𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙡𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛: Use affirming and gentle language in your self-talk.

3. 𝙎𝙚𝙩 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙘 𝙂𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨: Acknowledge your efforts and celebrate small victories.

4. 𝘼𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙩𝙤 𝙍𝙚𝙨𝙩: Recognize when you need a break and take it without guilt.

5. 𝙎𝙚𝙚𝙠 𝙎𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist when you need support.

You deserve kindness, especially from yourself. 💖

06/11/2024

💛 Do therapists and psychologists get depressed from hearing everyone’s problem?

From the outside it might look like you are “hearing everyone’s problem,” but it’s not like that at all…you are seeing potential every single day.

It’s one of the coolest jobs in the world.

It’s like you have this secret knowledge that no one sees. That they don’t see in themselves just yet…but they will.

*Everyone* has the potential to be better than they are right now…but we get to see just *how much* potential each person has, the better we get to know them…it’s incredibly exciting to watch them progress…

But please don’t think therapy is a drag - while you do sit with people who have incredible pain and struggle…you go on a journey with them, and it’s the privilege of your life to help, support, heal, and be a part of it. 🥰

06/03/2024

Breathwork at its core helps us unearth our deeper sense of how we can be in the world.
You can become conscious of how you hold yourself back and start to make friends with your shadow aspects.

I find the practice truely liberating and exciting.

05/25/2024

As a therapsit I witness on a regular basis my clients struggling with self-love and self-compassion. They often fear that self-love might make them selfish or self-centered, and self-compassion feels out of reach.

Experiences of neglect, abuse, betrayal, and abandonment have led them to believe they are not worthy of love or compassion. 💔

It’s 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩 to demystify self-love and self-compassion, as they are often seen as interchangeable. Recognizing their differences is crucial.

𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 is vital, especially when someone hasn’t shown themselves any love in a long time or doesn’t even know how to. A common trait among those who become chronically ill is a tendency to neglect themselves. Through self-love, we can change this narrative, setting boundaries and prioritizing our happiness. However, it’s essential to remember that self-love should not lead to isolation. In our hyper-individualized society, we need to feel more connected.

𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 on the other hand, reminds us that we are not alone. It involves responding to our experiences with kindness and acceptance. This approach allows a sense of connectedness by embracing our common humanity, recognizing that others may have walked this path too. It encourages us to acknowledge and embrace our imperfections, allowing us to be imperfect humans who are part of a greater whole.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝, 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞, 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐧𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐲.

Cultivating BOTH self-love and self-compassion helps us heal and grow. 💗

05/19/2024

ᴄᴏᴍᴘᴀꜱꜱɪᴏɴ > ᴊᴜᴅɢᴇᴍᴇɴᴛ

Validating our loved one's pain, even when we don't fully understand it, is a profound act of love. 💖

It's involves acknowledging their feelings as 🆁🅴🅰🅻 and 🅸🅼🅿🅾🆁🆃🅰🅽🆃, and not allowing our own judgements, values, beliefs cloud our ability to support them.

Let's spread compassion and understanding. 🤗

05/16/2024

𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒚, "𝑰 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒚𝒐𝒏𝒆"? 𝑰𝒕 𝒎𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒔 𝒂 𝒍𝒐𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒉𝒖𝒓𝒕. Here’s why some of us feel this way:

1. "𝙄'𝙫𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙡𝙚𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙩𝙤𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙨." – When we get disappointed a lot, we start to guard our hearts.

2. “𝙈𝙮 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙗𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙮𝙚𝙙." – Getting hurt by someone we trusted makes us wary of opening up again.

3. “𝙄'𝙫𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙞𝙜𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙢𝙮 𝙤𝙬𝙣.”– If we've always had to rely on ourselves, asking for help feels strange.

4. “𝙄 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙧𝙚𝙟𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙗𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩." – Being left alone or pushed away makes us afraid to get close to others again.

5. “𝙄 𝙝𝙖𝙙 𝙣𝙤 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙄 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙤𝙣." – If we’ve always had to be our own support, leaning on someone else feels risky.

6. “𝙄 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙝𝙖𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚."– When you’re the rock for others, showing your own needs can feel weak.

If this resonates and sounds like you or someone you know, ​🇷​​🇪​​🇲​​🇪​​🇲​​🇧​​🇪​​🇷, healing begins when we admit we're hurt and start to gently work through our feelings. In therapy, like Somatic Experiencing, we take it slow. We learn to notice how our body reacts to stress and find small, safe ways to deal with it, helping us feel more balanced and strong inside. 💪🏽💖