Sparkle Kingdom Warriors

09/05/2025

09/02/2025

Trauma does not care about job title, religion, economic status, ethnicity, age, or gender. It does not care what clothes you wear or how you style your hair or how much makeup you put on. It doesn't care about the number on the scale or the number on the bench press.

Traumatic events can happen to anyone.

And when they do, the sooner the one traumatized can begin to process the event(s) with support, the more likely they are to immediately begin to heal and mitigate the long term effects.

Everyone deserves the chance to heal. Because healing also does not discriminate.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area. This could be me if you are in Ontario, Canada.

09/01/2025

This statement is as true all year as it is in September - the month dedicated to education around the services and supports available for those struggling with choosing to live and educating the support people on how best to be there for the one who is struggling.

As your news feed floods with graphics of information regarding prevention of death by su***de and common causes, I hope there are tidbits that bring you hope and assist you to feel seen and connected. I hope you find the concoction of strategic techniques and teammates that support you to function well in your current reality. I hope you find a way to live.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area. I am an option for those in Ontario, Canada.

08/28/2025

It is an intriguing challenge learning to dance with the dichotomy of holding two seemingly opposing emotions at the same time. As you do, you begin to understand that it is not all or nothing. It is both and...plus all the variations in between.

You are a complex, magnificent being.

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You are valuable. You are loved. You are worth the effort it takes to heal and the strength it takes to keep choosing to live. You have purpose.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area.

08/21/2025

Whether it happened all in one brutal shot or in multiple events with varying degrees of perceptibility over time, there came a point in which your nervous system hit overload.

Think of your nervous system like an electrical grid. A singular, impactful traumatic event is like a main transformer being hit by a lightning bolt. It gets blown up and the whole grid it controls, goes dark. Everything and everyone in that vicinity is affected instantly. Alternatively, the multiple impacts of varying degrees over time is like the insulation around the wires being sliced into on repeat at various times and locations across the grid. The impacts may not be noticeable at first. Then they begin to show up sporadically, but are so isolated that you don't yet notice the pattern. It builds in frequency over time. Services slowly begin to shut down until one day your whole grid is down and it is difficult to locate the source of the issue because there are so many.

In both cases, support is needed to be called in to repair the damage and to ensure that the regions impacted are secure and receiving the necessities they need to survive the down time and recover.

The support you need looks different in these destabilized periods. Your priorities shift to your basic survival needs to maximize the effectiveness of your reduced capacity.

You are not weak. You have sustained damage and are overloaded.

Call in the emergency response team. Get the care and support you require. And recognize that the during crisis stabilization, recovery, and healing are different than when you were thriving before.

You are valuable. You are loved. You are worth the effort it takes to heal and the strength it takes to keep choosing to live. You have purpose.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area. This could be me if you are in Ontario.

08/20/2025

Visions can become reality with effective action.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

08/18/2025

I know it can be the most difficult task in the world to feel safe enough to let your guard down enough to sleep.

Here are 3 tips to support the decompression necessary to relax enough to rest.

🦋 Call someone and talk. It could be a friend or a crisis line worker. Having someone to talk things through with can aid you in feeling like someone has your back and can create a sense of greater security which may support your relaxation.

🦋 Name 10 objects in your room. This assists you in being concretely present in your current environment and can, hopefully, reassure you that you are in a secure location. If you aren't in a safe environment, I hope you can find a way to leave.

🦋 Hug your favourite stuffy. Stuffies are always willing to lend an ear or be squeezed as tight as possible. Having one that feels familiar can be a wonderful way to instantly create a connection between you and something you feel safe with which can assist with nervous system deescalation.

You are valuable. You are loved. You are worth the effort it takes to heal and the strength it takes to keep choosing to live. You have purpose.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area.

08/14/2025

Whether paid or free or both, you are allowed to receive the support you need to thrive.

It does not make you weak or a failure to do better with support. You are designed to do and be in connection with others.

Let's look at this from a different perspective. A business is successful because it networks with other people and businesses to give it more opportunities to build and expand and attract more people to it who will utilize its services. It will not succeed if it is just one person in a basement creating but never showing those creations to anyone or letting people know they are purchaseable. They are going to burn themselves out and feel like an absolute failure because nothing is changing for them other than drowning in their creations. That business needs support from customers, investors, further employees, etc etc to thrive.

You also need to be seen and known and collaborated with to live more effectively and in your functional capacity.

I'm an RN, Psychotherapist. I support people to function well in their current reality. I am an option when you are ready to step out of your basement and connect with your community (Ontario residents only).

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area.

08/13/2025

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08/10/2025

In a culture that tells us we have to be constantly doing outside our comfort zone to be successful, embracing comfort feels like an act of rebellion.

It is allowed. You are allowed to be comfortable.

That cozy blanket? Burrow into it. That book? Enjoy the focus of reading it. Your clothes? Only wear things that feel good and safe against your skin.

Go ahead. Add to the list. What would you do to gift yourself some comfort?

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area.

08/09/2025

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Plucked straight from the description of the episode I'm in on .guru 's YouTube video. Thank you Sheina for giving space for "Voices of the Embodied Leader" to shine and for inviting me to add my sparkle to it.

"Embracing Authentic Leadership with Cher | Personal Growth, Boundaries & Attainable Victories

In this inspiring episode of Voices of the Embodied Leader, Sheina welcomes her dear friend Cherylyn (Cher) Tanner RN, Psychotherapist, for a powerful conversation on authentic leadership, personal growth, and the art of showing up through life’s most challenging moments.

With nearly 20 years of experience in healthcare and mental health, Cher offers grounded wisdom on navigating burnout, setting healthy boundaries, and leading from a place of compassion, even in crisis. She shares her journey of writing her upcoming book, The Adaptable Warrior: Attainable Victories for Even the Darkest Days, a practical and heartfelt guide for anyone moving through darkness.

Together, they explore:

🌿 How to honor small victories during hard times
🌿 Why boundaries are crucial for sustainable growth
🌿 The power of creating sacred, safe spaces for creativity and recovery
🌿 What it means to lead as a Human Design Manifester with a magnetic yet repelling aura
🌿 How to adapt self-care strategies during crisis and transformation

✨ Whether you're a nurse, therapist, healer, or simply someone doing deep inner work, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and empowered."

You are valuable. You are loved. You are worth the effort it takes to heal and the strength it takes to keep choosing to live. You have purpose.

Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist

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Disclaimer: Today's post is for informational purposes and not intended as a replacement for professional help. If you are struggling, please consider seeking services from a licensed therapist in your area.