Healing the Loss

06/01/2026

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04/01/2026

Yes. This.

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There’s something important that often gets misunderstood: being grieving and sad is not the same as being negative.

When someone is hurting, missing their child, sibling or grandchild, or simply carrying the weight of loss, expressing that pain isn’t negativity — it’s honesty. It’s love showing up in the only way it can now.

Grief is a natural response to losing someone precious.
Negativity is a mindset that drags life down.
They are not the same.

Grieving means you’re honouring the depth of your love.
Sadness means your heart is telling the truth about what matters.
Negativity is when someone rejects hope or connection — and most grieving people aren’t doing that at all. They’re simply navigating a world forever changed.

So when someone shares their sadness, don’t label it as “being negative.”
They’re not bringing down the mood — they’re carrying a story that deserves compassion, not correction.

Sometimes being real is the bravest thing a person can do.

Words by: TCFV
Art by: Tarn Ellis

04/01/2026

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03/01/2026

Supporting someone who’s grieving doesn’t require the perfect words. It requires showing up with care, honesty, and follow-through.

Avoid platitudes that rush or minimize.
Say the person’s name. They matter, and so does their story.
Offer concrete help instead of vague promises.
Own the awkwardness. It’s okay to say this is hard.
And stay consistent. Grief doesn’t end when the casseroles do.

You don’t have to fix grief. You just have to be willing to walk alongside it.

02/01/2026

01/01/2026

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Self-Care Tips for a Bereaved Person Facing a New Year

The start of a new year can feel complicated when you’re grieving. While the world talks about new beginnings, you might simply feel the weight of what’s missing. If this time feels tender, here are a few gentle ideas that might help you move through the days ahead:

💙 Keep goals small and kind
There’s no need for big resolutions. A “goal” might be getting through the day, taking a breath when things tighten, or finding one small way to honour your loved one.

💙 Let your feelings be what they are
Sadness, anger, tiredness, or a brief flicker of joy — they all belong. Grief doesn’t run in straight lines.

💙 Look after your body
Eat when you can, drink water, rest when you’re able. Grief drains energy in ways people often underestimate.

💙 Create a gentle ritual
Light a candle, write their name, take a walk at a time that feels meaningful. Small rituals can anchor you.

💙 Reflect lightly
If you look back on the past year, do it without forcing meaning or progress. Notice the ways you’ve quietly endured.

💙 Stay connected where it feels safe
Talking with someone who understands — a friend, family member, or grief group — can soften the edges.

💙 Say no without apology
If something feels too heavy, you’re allowed to step back. Your energy is yours to protect.

💙 Notice moments of ease
A warm drink, a favourite song, a peaceful corner — tiny pockets of comfort matter, and they don’t cancel your grief.

💙 Reach out for professional support if needed
There is strength in asking for help, especially when the load feels too much to carry alone.

💙 Take things in the smallest units you need
A day, an hour, or even a single minute at a time is enough.

The new year isn’t about letting go of your loved one. It’s about finding ways to carry their memory with you while caring for your own heart. Be gentle with yourself. Grief and life can sit side by side. ❤️

Words by TCFV
Artist Credit: Gillian Rule Art

28/12/2025

For your consideration

Healingtheloss.com

25/12/2025

Grief can leave the nervous system raw and depleted.
And when that happens, boundaries often need to change.

You might need more quiet. More space. More time between interactions. You may leave early, say no more often, or stop explaining yourself altogether.

That isn’t selfish.
It’s regulation.

Boundaries during grief aren’t about distancing from people. They’re about creating conditions where your body can feel safe enough to breathe, settle, and slowly recalibrate.

If you’re grieving, you don’t owe anyone access to you at the expense of your nervous system.
And if you’re supporting someone who is grieving, respecting new boundaries is one of the most meaningful ways to show care.

25/12/2025

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23/12/2025

My wish for you

I wish you acknowledgement and validation for your losses, no matter how long ago they may be.
Without platitudes, without “you shoulds” or “at leasts.”

I wish you permission to rest and to be sad.
I wish you boundaries to say no when something does not serve you.

I wish you the honouring of the duality of life
the grief and the sadness alongside the joy and the happiness.

For all that was,
for all that is,
and for all that will be.

Warmly,
Hilary Scott