Chaos to Calm Counselling & Consulting Ltd.

Chaos to Calm Counselling & Consulting Ltd. We help kids 2-12 & their caregivers deeply understand & effectively respond to big feelings & behaviours, to transform their lives from chaos to calm.

06/14/2025

If your child’s behaviour is getting worse—
Even with consequences and punishments—
This might be exactly why.

I see this all the time with the families I work with.
They’re trying to be consistent.
They’re following all the mainstream advice.
And yet… the behaviour keeps coming back—or gets even more intense.

Why?
Because punishment teaches fear, not responsibility.

Here’s the truth:
If the focus is on control, shame, or “making them pay,”
you might win the battle…
But you’ll lose the trust—and the learning.

What kids actually need is accountability.
Calm. Predictable. Consistent.
No yelling. No shame. Just leadership.

Swipe through this post to see the difference between punishment and real accountability.
Then ask yourself:
❓ Am I being stricter—or just steadier?

👇 Let me know what resonated most in the comments.

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Are your kids running your entire schedule, your energy, and your sanity?Because you’re not alone. I see this with almos...
06/12/2025

Are your kids running your entire schedule, your energy, and your sanity?
Because you’re not alone. I see this with almost every parent I work with.

Boundaries aren’t selfish.
They’re what keep you grounded, clear-headed, and calm when parenting feels like a tornado.

Let’s rethink what “being a good parent” actually looks like.
Hint: it doesn’t mean saying yes to everything.

Here are 3 boundaries that protect your mental health and make you a stronger parent:
→ Say no to overload
→ Guard your grown-up time
→ Honour your non-negotiables

Each one helps you lead with more clarity, energy, and intention—and that changes everything.

🧠 Which one do you need to work on most right now?
Comment below 👇 and let’s normalize this.

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📣 8 Command Tweaks That Skyrocket CooperationIf your child constantly pushes back, melts down, or flat-out ignores you -...
06/09/2025

📣 8 Command Tweaks That Skyrocket Cooperation

If your child constantly pushes back, melts down, or flat-out ignores you - your commands might be part of the problem.

The way we give directions matters. A LOT!

Especially for kids with big feelings and behaviours, certain ways of speaking actually make compliance less likely.

But with a few subtle (and totally doable) shifts, you can turn commands into something your child actually listens to.

👇🏼Here’s how to give directions that actually get results:

1️⃣ Be direct.

“Please pick up your toys” beats “Can you pick up your toys?” every time.

2️⃣ Say what TO do, not what NOT to do.

“Walk, please” works better than “Don’t run.”

3️⃣ One at a time.

Too many instructions = confusion, overwhelm, or shut down.

4️⃣ Get specific.

“Put your toys in the bin” > “Clean up.”

5️⃣ Keep it age-appropriate.

Use words they understand, and expectations they can actually meet.

6️⃣ Watch your tone.

Firm and kind > harsh and irritated. Tone sets the tone.

7️⃣ Explain before or after, not during.

Avoid giving airtime to delay tactics like “But why?” They know why. They just don’t want to do it.

8️⃣ Only give commands you’ll follow through on.

Every ignored command teaches your child they don’t have to listen.

These aren’t just for kids who struggle - these are good practice for all kids. But if your child tends to push limits, resist, or blow up… these tweaks are ESPECIALLY powerful.

Let me know which one makes the biggest difference for you.

What looks like defiance is often something deeper: a skill gap, a stress response, a pattern that’s been reinforced ove...
05/28/2025

What looks like defiance is often something deeper: a skill gap, a stress response, a pattern that’s been reinforced over time.

Your child isn’t trying to make your day harder.
They’re trying to get their needs met — the only way they know how.

If we want to see different behaviour, we have to model it, teach it, and reinforce it.
That starts with calm leadership, clear expectations, and consistent follow-through.

They don’t need more punishments.
They need more coaching.

This isn’t about letting things slide.
It’s about shifting from control to teaching.

And that shift?
That’s what changes everything.

This is literally where I sat when I was in your shoes… for hours. Sometimes fuming.Sometimes crying.Always exhausted, o...
05/27/2025

This is literally where I sat when I was in your shoes… for hours.

Sometimes fuming.
Sometimes crying.
Always exhausted, overwhelmed, and feeling like I was failing.

Here’s what I wish I knew back then about tantrums.

I used to do all the “right” things.

I’d get down on my child’s level.
I’d ask them to use their words.
I’d try to reason.
I’d stay calm (until I couldn’t).

And every meltdown still exploded.
And when they turned completely out of control, they ended here… With him in the bathroom, and me standing outside the door or sitting on the steps.
Because I just didn’t know what else to do.

I followed all the parenting advice.
I thought I was helping.
But I was actually making it worse.

Here’s what I didn’t know then:
🚨 In the middle of a tantrum, the thinking part of the brain is offline.
They can’t listen.
They can’t reason.
They can’t use their words.

And when I kept talking, correcting, guiding—I wasn’t helping him calm down.
I was overwhelming his nervous system even more.

Here’s what I do now:
✔ I say less.
✔ I stay nearby.
✔ I focus on BEING calm instead of just SOUNDING calm.
✔️ I hold firm boundaries.
✔ I wait for the storm to pass before I try to teach anything.

And it’s not perfect.
But it’s so much better.
Because now I understand what’s actually going on under the surface.
And meltdowns stopped turning into hour-long battles or him getting completely out of control.

If you’re stuck in tantrum chaos—know this:
It’s not about being perfect.
It’s about understanding the brain behind the behaviour—and responding like a leader, not a referee.

And that changes everything.

👇 Drop a 💛 if you’ve ever felt stuck in tantrum land.
📌 Save this if you’re trying to do it differently.
🔁 Share it with a parent who needs to hear this today.

05/23/2025

🎈The 2025 Rise Up Schedule!
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Ever been told, “They’ll figure it out,” or “You’re coddling them”? Or heard, “No one taught me to handle my feelings an...
05/22/2025

Ever been told, “They’ll figure it out,” or “You’re coddling them”? Or heard, “No one taught me to handle my feelings and I turned out fine”—as you silently think, but did you though?

I hear this a lot when it comes to parenting and emotions.

But telling a child to “figure it out” is like tossing them into the deep end and hoping they learn to swim. Some might. Many won’t. And at what cost?

Coping skills aren’t a luxury. They’re essential.

We weren’t meant to just survive life’s storms—we’re here to grow through them.

That’s why we breathe together when meltdowns hit.
That’s why we name feelings and teach problem-solving.
That’s why we model calm, even when we feel anything but.

Because it’s not just about today’s tantrum—it’s about who they become. And who we become too.

You’re not just managing behaviour.
You’re building resilience.
You’re doing powerful, life-shaping work.

We weren’t meant just to cope. We were meant to flourish.

Who’s with me?

If you’ve ever found yourself explaining, negotiating, or repeating yourself while your child is melting down—you’re not...
05/16/2025

If you’ve ever found yourself explaining, negotiating, or repeating yourself while your child is melting down—
you’re not alone.
But here’s the truth most people miss:

When emotions are high, more words don’t help.
They overwhelm.
They escalate.
They add fuel to the fire.

What actually works?
Calm leadership.
Clear limits.
Consistent follow-through.

Kids with big feelings and big behaviours don’t need perfect scripts.
They need grounded leadership.
They need you—calm, confident, and steady.

Say less. Lead more.
That’s where the real change begins.

Special time for the win 🙌🏼 If you’re parenting a child with big feelings and behaviours, there’s more to it than just c...
05/16/2025

Special time for the win 🙌🏼

If you’re parenting a child with big feelings and behaviours, there’s more to it than just connection. But WITHOUT connection, everything else falls apart.

Spending just 5 minutes a day of uninterrupted one-on-one time with your child is the best investment you can make - in your child, your relationship, and their emotion regulation and behaviour change.

When you make it non-negotiable, and practice it with intention, it can become one of the most powerful tools in your parenting toolkit. 💞

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