01/19/2026
This is probably my most vulnerable blog post to date.
Looking back, it’s hard to admit just how much I struggled in my first year of motherhood, especially knowing that, in many ways, I was making an unconscious decision every day not to seek support. Not because I didn’t need it, and not because I wasn’t capable, but because asking for help felt uncomfortable and unfamiliar. It was so deeply tied to my sense of identity as a new mom.
I hold that version of myself with so much love and grace. She was doing the best she could with the tools she had at the time. And still, the truth is… that first year of motherhood could have looked very different if I had understood how essential support really is.
This blog isn’t written from a place of regret, it’s written from reflection. From learning that knowing when to ask for help is a skill, and one that so many of us were never taught. A skill that can quietly change everything when we finally allow ourselves to build it.
If you’re in a season of motherhood that feels heavier than you expected, I hope this reminds you that you are not alone and that support is not a failure, it’s a foundation.
You can read the full blog here: https://tia-heinrichs.themamacoach.com/learning-to-ask-for-help-the-most-underrated-skill-in-motherhood/
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I carried my overwhelm like a badge of honour, believing that doing it all on my own made me strong. It wasn’t until much later that I learned the truth: knowing when to ask for help is one of the most essential skills and the one I initially lacked the most in motherhood.