10/22/2025
Illuminating Barriers and Cultivating Connections.
It is time we really start to talk about our lives. Our struggles, our heartache, the pain we endure, the tears we have been taught to suppress and not show as they may reveal weakness. Or God forbid someone might realize that there was anything else outside of the perfect image we have so carefully tried to maintain for far too long trying to convince ppl we were strong and could handle it all. When really it's a lie !!! Ladies, moms, aunts, female identifying individuals, men, everyone really but most importantly moms are likely to relate cause we all know what mom guilt is like.
Each kid slowly chips away at the image you thought life would be like and the kind of mom you would be. Yet, trying to juggle everything and keep up just as many of us had watched our mothers do. Unable to figure out what it was that they did and how the hell they found the energy to do everything that they did.
Yet, what many of us have begun to realize and provide ourselves with compassion, love, and care that they didn't give to themselves. We started to heal, we started to mature and we started to recognize that we were not meant to raise children on our own. We are meant to have support systems, we are meant to have community. Yet, so many of us come from homes where we are behind on the knowledge of new advancements or modern knowledge and still clinging to outdated beliefs that dont belong in the world today. The world is evolved and with it we as a species are also meant to grow along with it and adapt to the changes happening. Clinging to outdated ideas keeping on stuck in a world that doesnt exist anymore is only making us sick. Our emotions are trying to tell us something.
Let's air our emotional laundry but in a positive way where we recognize that we aren't meant to be shamed for struggling or feeling. That there is strength in talking about our emotions. If we want to truly heal then we need to do the work. Stay tuned. It's time to get real and impress the messy, real, chaotic lives we have and stop living in fear of others judgement, ridicule or differences. Instead lets love and accept each other for the human beings we are. Each of us our own glorious mess of chaos. Do our best each day to raise holistically strong independent thoughtful generous empathic, kind, considered, well mannered children that grow to be able to contribute and give back to this planet. Its time we stop repeating the hurt done from those of our past and continuing wars that were never ours to begin with. We need to learn acceptance for ourselves and each other. Really if your struggling to handle someone. Picture them as a toddler trying to learn to walk!! Cause they may be bigger and mouthier over the years for some more then others but theres a good chance that they truly just really need a hug. See them not as an adult having an emotional tantrum but instead of a child that needs support, care, assistance to regulate a nervous system that they have yet to come to understand. And if they dont or arent open to it. Thats okay children need time as well sometimes. Speak softly, give chance, stay caring if you can and in times we cant cause lets face it. We are human to. And if we are committed to being honest. Emotions are hard to deal with even for those recognize and understand their significance but may not know it yet. Protect yourself from these tantrums and arm yourself with boundaries so to know what its time to see the person as an adult and not a child. Cause while some of us are wounded healed children waiting for someone to recognize our pain and help us find our way. There is many among us that wish to remain as they are and that is okay to. Each of us is responsible for our own journeys but that doesnt mean we cant pour from our cup if we have overflow to give.
Its time we realize that we arent meant to live in fear of others greed so much that we shut ourselves off from the world but instead lead by example and put a door in the fence. Ppl need to know the code if they want to get in otherwise they might be left waiting outside until they can figure it out for themselves. Its not your job to carry anyone not willing to do the work for themselves !!
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