Julie Calvé - intervenante/consultante

12/07/2025

04/06/2025

Mon livre du matin. ♥️

We are so excited to bring a revised and updated version into the world! With 365 daily meditations, this book inspires growth and renewal, and reminds us that caring for the self is where healing begins.

Grab your copy!
https://www.spiegelandgrau.com/the-language-of-letting-go

29/05/2025

Besoin d'une consultation? J'ouvre de nouvelles plages-horaires. Fais-moi signe.

09/05/2025

À lire et à partager! Mon premier article pour Divan bleu - Thérapie & Coaching. Quelle belle équipe! ♥️

Voir quelqu’un qu’on aime se faire du mal… ça fait mal. Et c’est normal. Que peut-on faire pour l’aider? Pour s’aider?

30/04/2025

"Dysfunctional families tend to cater to the most toxic person. The other family members do everything in their power to keep the toxic person happy." This pattern becomes a deeply ingrained survival mechanism, especially in families where open communication, emotional safety, and healthy boundaries are lacking. The toxic person—whether a parent, sibling, or even an extended family member—gradually becomes the emotional center of the household. Their reactions, moods, and desires govern the behavior of everyone around them.

Instead of challenging this toxicity or setting limits, the family adapts by prioritizing the toxic individual’s comfort over the wellbeing of the group. Family members begin to walk on eggshells, constantly monitoring their own words and actions to avoid triggering an outburst, silent treatment, manipulation, or emotional punishment. Conflict is not resolved—it's buried. Accountability is not encouraged—it's feared. And love is not unconditional—it's earned through compliance and emotional self-erasure.

Often, the more empathetic or emotionally attuned members of the family take on the role of peacekeeper, caretaker, or scapegoat. They may internalize the dysfunction, believing they are the problem, while the toxic person continues unchallenged. This imbalance reinforces a harmful dynamic where the most destructive person receives the most attention and power, while others are neglected, silenced, or emotionally dismissed. Over time, this leads to deep psychological wounds, such as low self-worth, anxiety, chronic guilt, and a distorted understanding of love and loyalty.

This dysfunction can also ripple across generations. Children raised in such environments may carry these patterns into adulthood, repeating them in friendships, romantic relationships, or as parents themselves. They may struggle to set boundaries, speak their truth, or recognize what healthy relationships look and feel like.

Healing begins when the cycle is named and interrupted—often by the very people who have suffered the most. It takes immense courage to stop enabling the toxic person and start honoring your own emotional reality. This may mean establishing boundaries, limiting contact, or seeking therapy. It may mean facing the grief of what the family could have been but never was. But with this honesty and effort, healing becomes possible—not only for the individual, but potentially for the family system as a whole, if others are willing to confront the truth.

31/03/2025

"I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become." – Carl Jung

13/03/2025

Voilà.

03/03/2025

Bon pour le cœur, le vin rouge? Possible, mais cet effet bénéfique ne l’emporte pas sur les risques de cancer, et ce même si on boit modérément. « On ne peut pas parler de niveau de consommation d’alcool sans danger » (OMS, 2023).

Les risques et les dégâts liés à la consommation d'alcool ont été systématiquement évalués au fil des ans et sont bien établis.

24/02/2025

« Moi, quand je fume, je suis plus concentré. » Une impression qui ne colle pas du tout à la réalité. La consommation de THC affaiblit les facultés cognitives et motrices et augmente significativement le risque de traumatismes routiers. (SAAQ, 2022).

17/02/2025

Je ne consomme jamais… de fort, plus qu’une bouteille de vin, au travail, avant de conduire, le matin, en spm, avec telle personne ou en telle occasion, etc… Si ta façon de consommer est remplie de conditions, es-tu certain que ça va si bien?

29/01/2025

Consommer... pour s'automédicamenter.

You don’t just “treat addiction.”
You end up treating anxiety, depression, PTSD, loneliness, rage, despair, toxic secrets, regret, undiagnosed head trauma, untreated ADHD.
Then you realize addiction is often someone’s best attempt to cope when they don’t see other options.

Truth or not?

07/11/2024

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