15/05/2025
🌸6 years ago today.
🌸I have the full story on my page for anyone who wants to listen, but here are the main points:
-I developed severe eclampsia at 41 weeks (no symptoms beforehand so therefore no way we could have avoided or prevented it). When I got to the hospital my blood pressure was 275/174 (normal is around 120/80).
-from my first symptom to my son being born was only 3 hours.
-the staff had the medication for my blood pressure ready, but never actually gave it to me.
-after the epidural wore off (about 30 minutes post surgery), my blood pressure spiked back up and caused a seizure, which turned into HELLP syndrome (certain bodily systems begin to shut down, amongst other things).
-My husband was shoved out of the room and put in a dark room alone with our newborn, not given any information on what was happening.
-my family was told I had a 50/50 chance of surviving.
-I was transported to a larger hospital and spent a full week in the ICU. I had swelling in my brain and kidney failure, amongst other things.
-My baby spent his first night in the NICU even though he was healthy. He got to stay with me afterwards, but only if someone else stayed with me.
-I had two CT scans and an MRI, and was seen by every specialist in the hospital.
-The care I got from the doctors was awful, and I eventually left against medical advice so I could heal at home (which I did).
🌸Yes this birth was an emergency, but so much of the aftermath could have been avoided had I been treated properly.
🌸I am forever grateful that my son was safe and healthy, but will forever hate the fact that I didn’t get those first moments with him, and that my husband and I never got to experience the bliss of becoming new parents. It still hurts to this day, but it has helped me become the mother and doula I am now.