Healing Mandala Psychotherapy

18/07/2023

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29/04/2023

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One of the most pervasive understandings of discipline is the idea that authoritarian or power and control focused techniques "work" because children stop crying and comply in some way to a parent's wishes or will.

This ideology gets passed down in families with generational trauma woven into their attachment patterns. It becomes accepted and typical for parents to punish, blame, shame, and react with scorn when their children are in struggle mode.

Unfortunately, when we use control approaches to our children and focus on behavior modification and not relational co-regulation, we instill dissociation as the primary mechanism of coping. Instead of learning to tolerate emotions and find words to share and verbalize feelings and needs, these kids have to check out, numb out, and disconnect from their body states.

Guess what else mirrors that coping process? Substance abuse. Yup. Eating disorders? Yup. P**n addiction? Yup. Isolating from close relationships? Yup.

The goal is not to teach our children to ignore what they feel, it is to teach them that they have support and that you care about what they are going thru.

Can that be a challenge as a parent? Oh yea. Especially when they are toddlers, or teenagers, or at bedtime when you are exhausted, or in the midst of a hard personal season, or if you grew up with trauma and no one ever offered you co-regulation.

But will it be worth the challenge? yes.

And do you have to do it perfectly all the time? NOPE. NOPE. NOPE.

But do apologize when you lose your cool, and do your best to learn from your mistake and improve from that moment onwards as best you can.

Love on.

If you want more support, come join the Attachment Nerd Herd at attachmentnerd.com, I've got loads of guides and goodies for you there. You belong in my village if you are working on this and have days and seasons when you feel really lost at how to do it on the hard days.

01/03/2023

Accepting this reality is the first step towards making it right for yourself and your near and dear ones.

12/02/2023

Remember that self-disclosure makes you more likeable, not less.

28/01/2023

If you’re like most people, you’re never sure what to do or say when someone you love is in pain. That’s why we made you this handy “care and feeding” guide. Many of these tips are useful for helping people in all sorts of different difficult situations.⁣⁣⁣
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Be sure to share this comic, friends. Helping people get better at giving support is going to take a team effort.⁣
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Looking for more tips and suggestions about how to support someone you care about? Visit refugeingrief.com
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02/01/2023

30/12/2022

Our experience of grief may change with time but rarely does it completely go away. No matter how much time has elapsed since your loss(es), you are entitled to honour your grief, and there is no shame in seeking support.

21/12/2022

Reappraisal, acceptance, and more.

12/12/2022

Is it my body, or my mind? Understanding and overcoming health anxiety

Have you ever felt “off”, unwell and worried that something might be wrong with your health?
Many of us have had this experience at one time or another. For some, the worry about sickness or poor health is constant - this is known as “health anxiety”.

Symptoms may include:
* Belief or fear that any signs or symptoms they experience might be catastrophic to their health
* Hyper-focus on body sensations
* Regular checking of one’s body for signs of illness
* Excessive anxiety or worry that is out of proportion to the reality of the situation.
* Avoiding or seeking medical care – some individuals may avoid medical care due to heightened fear of what may be identified, while others may visit the physician’s office frequently or undergo tests to seek reassurance.

Thankfully, there is hope! To learn more about how to combat health anxiety, read our latest blogpost: layla.care/post/health-anxiety

10/12/2022

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07/12/2022

An amazing fun way to explain and practice breathing with kids by The Therapist Parent

07/12/2022

29/11/2022

1. Loss of identity, such as a lost role or affiliation.

29/11/2022

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29/11/2022

By turn hilarious and haunting, poet Shane Koyczan puts his finger on the pulse of what it's like to be young and ... different. "To This Day," his spoken-word poem about bullying, captivated millions as a viral video (created, crowd-source style, by 80 animators). Here, he gives a glorious, live re...