28/08/2020
As new parents, we all want to be excited and proud about what our kids are doing even as infants. However, oftentimes when parents start showing off :
âHey, here is my daughter/son doing this! At this age, isnât it awesome?â, in return they hear from us âUmmm⌠No. Not awesome. I would be very worriedâ
Right after that we have to answer millions of questions from a confused parent, who all of a sudden has the ground kicked from his feet and isn't sure what to think/do next.
We decided to put together a list of possible responses for these parents and educate them on what their babies are actually trying to say and do. It is by no mean an exhaustive list, but it gives a good coverage of common points that you should watch out for and shows the thinking behind our worrisome responses.
What you, as a parent, want to pay attention to:
- If your newborn holds head right from birth. Please, donât think that your baby is so strong and cool. They have no coordinated nervous system to operate muscles properly at this age. Itâs a huge stress that their little bodies try to deal with by spasming!
- Same if your baby grabs your finger like a vise and never lets go. This isn't a gift of awesome strength at birth, this grabbing could very easily be from stress and anxiety!
- If your baby never cries and sleeps a lot, or is very sleepy even if awake â there is something to look out for. Nervous system of a child needs stimulation to develop. Refusing any stimulation can mean that this nervous system is incapable of processing it properly
- If you notice that your newborn is scanning for your presence all the time and is always watching you â just as much as it can make you happy that you are so important in this little human life, you should ask yourself âwhat kind of fear is this baby experiencing that he/she is afraid of losing sight of me?â
- If a breastfeeding mom doesn't produce enough milk, and/or constantly suffers from plugged ducts or even mastitis, oftentimes the cause is not just the mom, it's actually your newborn. Because the baby canât latch efficiently, this leads to your disrupted milk production. Further down the road inefficient latching can lead to all kind of issues, from the overbite/underbite to developmental delays, dyslexia, ADHD, etc.
- If your baby falls asleep right in the middle of breastfeeding, it's a warning sign that the baby spends too much energy eating and literally passes out from exhaustion until nutrients break down and refuel her.
- If your baby is 10 days old and he is holding very tight fists that are hard to open â it is time to worry. If the baby is over a month and the fists are still very tight â it is time to panic. When the baby looks like a little boxer holding fists under the chin â go get her checked.
- If the opposite happen that the baby lies flat with very little tonicity â you should also have it checked out.
- If baby arches the spine and refuses tummy time viciously â watch out as it can be an indication of dural tension (spinal membrane)
- Colics, night screaming, excessive burping, and projectile vomiting are not the norm, but rather signs that the baby may have issues that he/she needs help with. A lot of people may tell you âitâs a stage, they will grow out of it", however unless these issues are addressed, they may manifest into something entirely different later on in life. Anxieties, depressions, hyperactivity, dyslexia, are all related to untreated baby issues.
- A quick note to new dads out there, because they are very prone to think this way â if baby wants to be held very often, refuses to fall asleep in the crib, or can only fall asleep while being held â it DOES NOT mean that this is a spoiled child that needs to be disciplined! At this age they donât get spoiled yet!!! It can mean that something bothers the baby, on physical, emotional, psychological level, so they resort to the ONLY safe place that they have at this stage of their lives â your hands!
- Pay attention to the milestones from 0 to 6 months. You can look up a chart, and if something doesn't match, define how far your child is from the chart. If they are just slightly off, it can be nothing to worry about, if its more than one milestone delay, or the milestones are off quite a bit, please don't wait for your baby to grow into the next stage, act asap.
To conclude, PLEASE, keep an open mind and don't take this list as a rock solid prescription for personal panic. We wanted to educate you to pay attention to what your baby is doing and to not dismiss the warning signs, if there are any!
We understand that sometimes when we suggest a certain behaviour may be a sign of a bigger problem, parents may not like us very much, but as health practitioners we want to alert you and dismiss the worst case scenario because we know that if we help our little patients in early stages of a potential issue, we can often help alleviate it.
Remember, it is always better to catch and address any issues early rather than late to make life better and easier for everyone. The effort is always worth it!
P.S. Next we will have a similar list for children from 6 months and older. Stay tuned!