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01/19/2026

"Am I still attracted to my partner?"

A common question.
A vulnerable one.
And not always a sign the relationship is over.

Stress, life changes, unresolved resentment, and disconnection can all influence attraction. Attraction starts in the mind, with emotional safety, trust, and connection.

When it comes to long term relationships, sustaining attraction requires more than physical looks. Attraction can also stem from:

• Emotional attraction: kindness, empathy, safety, reliability, feeling seen and supported.
• Intellectual attraction: meaningful conversations, curiosity, ambition, openness to growth.
• Mental attraction: shared mental load, initiative, planning without being asked, noticing when your partner needs support and stepping in.

Take some time to reflect. What parts of your relationship could use attention to help attraction grow?

If you’d like support exploring this, you can book a session online. Link in bio.

01/14/2026

Counselling can be hard but you owe it to yourself to heal, grow, and feel empowered.
You deserve the support, the breakthroughs, and the chance to create a life that feels happier and more aligned with who you truly are.

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12/22/2025

Differences in relationships, including s*xual desires, are normal and healthy. Exploring those differences with curiosity and communication can deepen s*xual intimacy and connection.

This can look like:

• Knowing your own and your partner(s) different arousal triggers (what turns you/them on) and taking turns intentionally incorporating them into your s*xual relationship.

• Welcoming and accepting your own s*xuality, as well as your partner(s)

• Avoiding shame. Shaming a partner for their desires is often rooted in personal fear or discomfort and can be deeply damaging to the relationship.

Important: Accepting your partner’s s*xual desires does not mean agreeing to act on them. It simply means not shaming your partner for having those desires.

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12/16/2025

Gaslighting happens between people. It’s when someone repeatedly dismisses, minimizes, or denies your experiences in a way that makes you question your reality.

Self-gaslighting happens within yourself. It’s when you internalize those messages and start invalidating your own feelings and experiences, often without realizing it.

Knowing the difference between gaslighting and self-gaslighting can be powerful. Awareness of both is an important step toward rebuilding self-trust and emotional safety.

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12/10/2025

We often talk about stress in terms of burnout, anxiety, or feeling overwhelmed, but we forget the impact it can have on our s*xual connection and intimacy.

When couples struggle with their s*x life, they often blame themselves or each other, rather than the stress they’re carrying. Thoughts like, “My partner must not want me,” or “I must not be attractive,” can feel so real, but they’re often stress talking, not the truth.

Stress increases cortisol, and cortisol decreases desire. It’s one of the most common (and overlooked) reasons couples experience a dip in s*xual connection.

Long-term stress affects everyone differently. For many women, it can reduce s*xual pleasure and physical arousal. For many men, it can make it harder to achieve or maintain an er****on.

The most important part? Approaching intimacy as a team. When couples work together to manage stress, they tend to feel more connected, emotionally and physically.

Try viewing the issue through a physiological lens rather than a personal one. Stress impacts hormones, arousal, focus, and performance. When couples understand this, they can respond with compassion instead of self-blame.

If this is something you’d like to work on, I’m here to help. I offer individual and couples counselling, and you can book a session anytime through the link in my bio.

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12/07/2025

Attachment styles describe how we relate to others. How we seek closeness, navigate conflict, and feel safe in relationships. These patterns begin in childhood through our early relationships with caregivers, and they often carry into adulthood:

• with parents
• in friendships
• in romantic relationships
• in professional or social dynamics

It’s also completely normal to have different attachment styles in different relationships.

The good news? Attachment styles can change. With awareness and consistent effort, patterns like anxious attachment can shift toward a more secure style. It takes time and hard work, but the growth is absolutely worth it.

Do you know what your attachment style is?

If attachment styles are something you’d like to explore further, don’t hesitate to book a session. I would be happy to work with you! Link in bio to book online.

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12/05/2025

Holiday events can be fun, and they can also feel like a lot.

These six strategies can help you navigate family dynamics, reduce stress, and actually enjoy the season.

Remember to be patient with yourself, this time of year can be overwhelming. You got this!

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12/01/2025

New Blog Post is Live!

Surviving the Holidays: Tips for Families and Individuals Managing Mental Health

Read the blog here: https://www.newperspectivecounselling.com/post/surviving-the-holidays-tips-for-families-and-individuals-managing-mental-health

December is here, and with it comes a season full of social events, family dynamics, financial pressures, and holiday expectations.

In this blog, I share practical strategies to help you navigate the holidays with more ease whether you’re managing stress, setting boundaries, or supporting yours or your loved one’s mental health.

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11/25/2025

Guilt or shame around s*xuality can come from many places such as, societal expectations, past experiences, or deeply internalized beliefs. These feelings might show up in your thoughts or behaviours related to:

• S*x (oral, penetrative, or other forms of intimacy)
• Ma********on
• Kinks
• Fantasies
• S*xual orientation

I support clients in exploring their s*xuality with compassion and curiosity. Together, we work to reduce shame and guilt, build a healthier mindset, embrace self-acceptance, and help you feel more empowered in your s*xual self.

If this is something you'd like to discuss further, don't be shy to book a session - link in bio to book online!

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11/09/2025

You know yourself best! It’s okay to tell your counsellor when something doesn’t land quite right, your feedback helps shape the process. A good counsellor values your voice and welcomes your input.

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09/23/2025

Intimacy is much more than s*x. It’s about closeness, trust, and emotional connection. Some examples of intimacy outside of s*x include:

• Emotional intimacy: Sharing fears, dreams, and vulnerabilities; feeling safe to be your true self.

• Physical intimacy (non-s*xual touch): Holding hands, cuddling, hugging, resting your head on your partner’s shoulder.

• Intellectual intimacy: Deep conversations, exchanging ideas, feeling stimulated and understood.

• Experiential intimacy: Doing activities together: traveling, cooking, tackling projects, or even just running errands side by side.

• Playful intimacy: Inside jokes, teasing, laughter, dancing in the kitchen, flirting, enjoying each other’s silliness.

• Supportive intimacy: Being there for each other in hard times: listening, offering comfort, showing up consistently.

It’s the sense of being known, accepted, and connected that makes something intimate, not just physical closeness.

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09/05/2025

Those “perfect counselling sessions” on TV? The instant breakthroughs, the counsellor’s wise one-liners, trauma being fixed in one session.

Real counselling isn’t like that. Sure, there are breakthroughs (and the occasional one-liner your counsellor secretly pats themselves on the back for).

But most of the work is slower. It’s rewiring. It’s small shifts you barely notice until one day you respond softer. Calmer. More you. Sometimes it’s messy, with tears that come from finally letting out what you’ve held on to for so long.

So if you’re wondering, “Why isn’t counselling working for me?” …it might be because TV, movies, and social media created unrealistic expectations.

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