Ending Abuse Media

Ending Abuse Media Using media to expose the crime of DV, sharing vital resources, & encouraging family peace. Every woman deserves a life free from fear.

Alison Soroka is the Founder and Executive Director of Smiles and Laughter Entertainment/Ending Abuse Media which was established in March 2011 and is an innovative media organization with the goal to increase awareness and knowledge about domestic violence. We also assist the public in identifying and accessing the resources available to victims and their families. Smiles and Laughter Entertainme

nt/Ending Abuse Media aims to stimulate action by sharing stories, providing referrals, connecting critical resources, assisting in how to identify the risk factors of domestic violence, and displaying where victims can go for help. We are aligned with the City of Surrey's goal to "improve public awareness around the reality and perception of crime." Alison’s vision, "to leverage media to expose the crime of domestic violence, share vital resources, and encourage family peace," came from a combination of her experience in the film industry and being a thankful survivor of domestic violence. Being well-versed on the dynamics of this crime after having fled an abusive living situation (nearly losing her daughter's life and her own in the process) and also knowledgeable of media options, Alison is able to apply media as a primary tool of focus, using video, radio, print, and internet to reach the largest audiences. It is through this avenue that she seeks to promote the organization's motto of "Together We Can Break the Cycle of Abuse." As a mother of three children and a human welfare advocate, Alison passionately wants to contribute to "breaking the cycle of abuse" while making communities safer, more informed, and prouder places to live. She is disciplined and committed to assisting in the eradication of domestic violence. She believes this is possible as long as we, as a society, unite with strong, active, unified, and persistent voices to expose and ultimately annihilate this cowardly act and crime. There are no communities that are immune; therefore, making it all that much more important for us to reach the largest of audiences and inspire every one of use to do our part. Our future generations deserve the opportunity to enjoy a childhood filled with peace and innocence; not pain, suffering, or emotional trauma. Every child deserves to grow up knowing no threat of violence in their home. When we as a society can say that we feel safe and loved, then we know our work is done. Why we chose Smiles and Laughter Entertainment as our organization's name? Because this is the aftermath of what can be if we work together in providing love, support, and assistance to victims of domestic violence. If you believe in this vision, or even if you are just willing to consider it, please support Smiles and Laughter Entertainment/Ending Abuse Media in whatever way possible so we can work together towards our common goal.

05/10/2026

Mother’s Day can be a painful reminder of what has been stolen. While social media is filled with celebrations, we stand with the “unacknowledged” mothers—those who have been demonized, threatened, and silenced.

Parental alienation is a silent form of abuse. It is the deliberate manipulation of attachment bonds, designed to wipe away a mother’s presence. But we are here to say it clearly: No mother should ever be erased.

A mother is not a label. You are not “crazy,” “a bad mother,” or “a liar”. You are the biological and emotional foundation of your child’s life, and that truth cannot be deleted by a smear campaign. No good mother should have to spend this day estranged from her children because of a toxic dynamic.

To the moms spending today alone: Your worth is not defined by the lies told about you. Your bond is eternal, even when it is being hidden. Today, we honor your strength, your endurance, and your unbreakable love.

Hold onto your truth and be gentle with your heart. You are still here. You still matter. 🌹

Drop a ❤️ in the comments if you’re sending love to a mother who needs it today.

👇 VIEW THE TOP COMMENT for the reality of how these labels are used as tools of erasure in the BC family court system.





04/26/2026

Imagine that your child was taken from you — not by a stranger, but by someone you once trusted.

Now imagine that this person slowly, deliberately, teaches your child to fear you… to reject you… to believe a version of you that does not exist.

And then imagine the unthinkable — that this person is your child’s other parent.

This is parental alienation.

Children are not born with hatred for a loving parent. They are taught. Conditioned. Pressured to survive in an environment where love is manipulated and truth is distorted.

Parental alienation is not conflict. It is emotional and psychological child abuse.

It robs children of their sense of safety, their identity, and their ability to trust. It replaces love with fear, connection with confusion, and security with silence. The damage does not end in childhood — it follows them into adulthood, shaping their relationships, their mental health, and their sense of self.

A parent who teaches a child to hate or fear the other parent places that child in a constant state of internal conflict — because rejecting a loving parent means rejecting a part of themselves.

Every child deserves love, safety, and the freedom to have a healthy relationship with both parents.

Every child deserves truth.

And no child should ever be used as a weapon.

Today, on Parental Alienation Awareness Day, we stand for the children — the silenced, the confused, the ones forced to choose.

Awareness is the first step.
Love must remain the answer.
And protecting our children must always be the priority.

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Financial control has existed for generations, but only recently are we beginning to acknowledge the true value of a sta...
03/30/2026

Financial control has existed for generations, but only recently are we beginning to acknowledge the true value of a stay-at-home parent.

When one partner controls all the money, it creates a dangerous power imbalance. Stay-at-home parents are especially vulnerable to having finances used against them — not because they lack contribution, but because they’ve sacrificed their own income, career growth, and financial independence to support the home and family.

Running a household is not “free.” It is labor. It reduces expenses, creates stability, and allows the other partner to earn at a higher level. That contribution deserves equal access, transparency, and respect.

If you are in this position, it is important to protect yourself:
Have access to shared accounts.
Have visibility into finances.
Ensure your name is included on assets, insurance, and long-term planning.

Research shows that financial abuse exists in the vast majority of abusive relationships, with some studies reporting rates as high as 90–99%. It is also one of the most powerful tools used to keep someone trapped — limiting their ability to leave, rebuild, or support themselves.

I’ve lived this.

After leaving, I realized the long-term impact: fewer earning years, lower contributions to CPP and retirement, and the reality of having to work longer just to rebuild what was lost.

This is why financial independence matters — not out of fear, but out of protection.

No one plans for life to take a turn. But when it does, you deserve stability, security, and the ability to stand on your own.

Awareness is empowerment.

Protect yourself,
Alison Soroka
Founder & Executive Director
Ending Abuse Media





We were never on opposite sides.We were just in the same storm.To the child who was told to turn away: You weren’t “bad....
03/30/2026

We were never on opposite sides.

We were just in the same storm.

To the child who was told to turn away: You weren’t “bad.”

You were doing what you had to do to survive a love that felt like a battlefield.

You were conditioned to mirror an anger that wasn’t yours, toward the person who loved you most.

To the parent absorbing that anger: You aren’t “losing.”

You are the lighthouse.

You are taking the hits so the light stays on for when they finally find their way back.

The person who was supposed to protect us used us as shields against each other.

But the truth is, we are the only ones who truly understand what it felt like to live in that house.

I am not the enemy.

You are not the “troubled kid.”

We are two people who were wronged by the same hand, and we are both allowed to heal. 🕊️





Crazy that she stays?Not when you understand what’s happening beneath the surface.When you’re involved with a malignant ...
03/25/2026

Crazy that she stays?

Not when you understand what’s happening beneath the surface.

When you’re involved with a malignant narcissist, the bond isn’t just emotional—it’s biochemical.

The cycle of idealization, devaluation, and intermittent affection creates a trauma bond.

Your brain is flooded with dopamine, oxytocin, and cortisol in unpredictable waves.

That inconsistency is what hooks you.

You start chasing the “high” of the good moments, trying to get back to how it felt in the beginning.

Over time, your stress and reward systems become rewired.

Leaving doesn’t just feel hard—it can feel like withdrawal.

So from the outside, people ask “why stay?”

But from the inside, it’s attachment, confusion, hope, fear—all at once.

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02/16/2026

A Family Day 🇨🇦 Message: Breaking the Silence

Family Day is meant to celebrate bonds, but for many, those bonds have been intentionally and cruelly broken.

Imagine a child being manipulated into hating or fearing a parent who loves them.

Imagine that the person doing the manipulating is the one you once trusted most.

Parental Alienation is not a “dispute”—it is a calculated campaign of emotional and psychological child abuse.

It is a tactic often triggered when an abuser loses control—most frequently when the targeted parent files for divorce or leaves the relationship.

To regain that control, the alienator weaponizes the children to destroy the targeted parent, only to discard the children once they are no longer useful tools for revenge.

This is the factual playbook of a narcissist, and while it is a hard concept for society to grasp, the devastation is real.

It destroys childhoods and leaves a trail of devastation that follows a child into adulthood.

The scars are deep and systemic:
• Loss of Identity & Shame: A child taught to hate half of their DNA struggles to ever feel “whole.”
• Emotional Instability: Constant gaslighting leads to a lifetime of confusion and overwhelming guilt.
• Destructive Coping: The trauma often leads to substance abuse, impulsivity, and a total lack of trust in others.
• Lasting Trauma: Deep-rooted anxiety, depression, and PTSD that can take a lifetime to heal.

This Family Day, let’s call it what it is: Child Abuse.

Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child.

A parent who teaches a child to hate is a grave danger to that child’s future.

It needs to stop. 🤍





One continent. One goal: Family Peace. 🕊️✊Seeing the flags of the Americas—including our own 🇨🇦—streaming across the sta...
02/09/2026

One continent. One goal: Family Peace. 🕊️✊

Seeing the flags of the Americas—including our own 🇨🇦—streaming across the stage tonight was a powerful moment of unity. Bad Bunny reminded us that "America" isn't just one country; it’s a massive, diverse family that spans from the North to the South.

But true unity is impossible when our neighbors are suffering. From Canada, we stand in solidarity with those facing inhumane government actions in the U.S. and beyond. Whether it’s systemic injustice or the "silent crime" of domestic violence, we must call out the abuse of power wherever it lives.

At Ending Abuse Media, we believe every family across the Americas deserves to live in safety and dignity. Let's protect each other.





02/07/2026

Cruelty during vulnerability is not misunderstanding — it’s a warning sign.

At Ending Abuse Media, we believe education, language, and truth are tools of protection. And survivors deserve to understand what they lived through.
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01/01/2026

Our wish for you in 2026 is simple: Happiness.

Because when you lead with happiness, anything is possible. 💫

Wishing our entire community a year of peace, love, and new beginnings. 🤍

Happy New Year! ✨

12/30/2025

“I’m a killer.”

That is exactly what a partner says the moment they put their hands around your neck.

Research shows that non-fatal strangulation—even just once—increases a victim’s risk of later being murdered by their partner by more than sevenfold.

This isn’t just “losing control;” it is a rehearsal for homicide.

The numbers don’t lie: Nearly half of all women killed by intimate partners had previously survived an act of strangulation by that same partner.

Whether it’s choking or neck pressure—joking or not—it is never harmless. If it happens, it is a lethal red flag. 🚩

Take it seriously. Document it. Get help.

How to Document (Safely)
• Seek Medical Attention: Go to the ER immediately. Ask for a “strangulation exam.” Internal damage (to the throat or brain) may not show symptoms for days.
• Photographs: Take photos of your neck, face, and eyes (look for tiny red spots called petechiae) over the next 3 days. Marks often appear later.
• Write It Down: Record the date, what was said, and any symptoms (sore throat, difficulty swallowing, or voice changes).
• Safety First: Keep these records in a “hidden” app, with a trusted friend, or at your doctor’s office—never on a shared device or where an abuser can find them.

If this has happened to you, the danger level has changed. Please reach out for a safety plan.

You deserve to be safe.

You don’t have to do this alone.

Reach out to us or a local advocate today. Check out our Ending Abuse Media website link in bio 💜 or contact National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).
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12/25/2025

This Christmas, may we remember that love is the greatest gift of all.

✨Merry Christmas from Ending Abuse Media.
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