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Quyn Lê Therapy, Surrey, BC (2025)

10/29/2025

Your Skin Tells Your Story—Let It Shine with Confidence

Your skin is the first thing people notice. It's like your personal canvas. Long before you speak, your skin speaks for you. It tells others how rested, vibrant, or confident you feel. Healthy skin radiates self-love. It reflects how you care for yourself on the inside and out.

For years, I struggled with mild to moderate acne. I tried so many products that were harsh, stripping, and intense. I thought expensive meant effective. I used to spend $100 on a single jar of moisturizer, believing it would fix everything. It didn’t. What transformed my skin wasn’t luxury. It was gentleness, consistency, and choosing the right ingredients.

Now people often compliment my skin, sometimes even strangers. I don’t have perfect skin, but it’s healthy, calm, and glowing. That’s what true beauty looks like.

These days, my skincare routine is intentional and affordable. Most Korean products are under $20 and last 2-3 months, delivering incredible results.

In the morning, I cleanse gently to refresh my skin and start the day feeling clean and alive. At night, I always double cleanse. First with a nourishing oil cleanser to melt away sunscreen and makeup, then with a mild cleanser to purify without stripping. This helps prevent dullness, congestion, and breakouts.

In the morning, I use:

✨ Gentle exfoliating toner – This helps dissolve dead skin cells and unclog pores without irritation, brightening your complexion and allowing other products to absorb better. It smooths texture and gives that “glass skin” clarity without being harsh.

✨ Vitamin C serum – Packed with antioxidants, it fades dark spots, evens out tone, and adds a natural luminosity. It helps your skin look more awake, like you’ve had a full night’s rest, even when you haven’t.

✨ Eye cream for both morning and night — The delicate area under your eyes needs special care. I use one that hydrates deeply, smooths fine lines, and reduces puffiness, so I can look refreshed and vibrant.

✨ Peptide cream – Firms and smooths the skin while deeply hydrating, helping to improve elasticity and maintain a youthful, healthy glow.

✨ Sunscreen – The most important step. I love a soothing, probiotic-infused SPF that calms irritation while shielding against UV damage. It prevents premature aging and keeps your skin tone even and radiant.

✨ BB cream instead of foundation — A breathable layer that blends skincare with coverage. It smooths imperfections while protecting and brightening the skin naturally, giving that effortless “your skin but better” look.

At night, I use:

✨ Niacinamide serum – This is a game changer for calming redness, balancing oil, and strengthening the skin barrier. It makes your skin look more refined and serene—less reactive, more resilient.

✨ Retinol serum – I use a gentle formulation that helps boost collagen, smooth fine lines, and refine pores. It encourages skin renewal without dryness or peeling.

✨ Premarin estrogen cream – Supports skin thickness, elasticity, and hydration by replenishing estrogen levels, helping reduce dryness, crepiness, and loss of firmness—especially for mature or menopausal skin.

✨ Nourishing moisturizer – I use a lightweight yet rich cream that keeps my skin plump, hydrated, and glowing all day.

Although it sounds like many products, but when you alternate them between day and night, they take about 5 minutes to apply. Skincare doesn’t need to be expensive to be effective. What matters is choosing gentle, consistent care that honours your skin’s natural balance.

Your skin tells your story. Let it speak of confidence, calm, and care.
If you want to chat about skincare, reach out! I truly love helping women discover how radiant their natural beauty can be.

10/29/2025

When Giving Becomes the Bridge — or the Barrier — in Love

John Gray once said, “As men mature, they learn to give more. As women mature, they learn to give less.”
At first, it sounds unfair. But there’s deep wisdom behind it.

Men, in their younger years, often focus on proving themselves — their success, strength, or independence. Yet as they emotionally mature, something shifts. They discover that true fulfillment doesn’t come from achieving alone, but from giving — protecting, supporting, and contributing to the happiness of someone they love. When a man feels trusted, appreciated, and respected, it awakens his desire to give more. It fuels his masculine purpose.

Women, on the other hand, often grow up believing love means giving endlessly — nurturing, fixing, accommodating. But as they mature, they begin to understand that overgiving depletes their energy and creates imbalance. They learn that giving less isn’t about withholding love. It's about giving wisely, from a place of fullness, not exhaustion. Mature feminine energy knows how to receive, set boundaries, and trust that she is worthy without overextending herself.

So, ask yourself: Is your man growing more generous and giving in your relationship?
Or does he still revolve around his own needs?
Are you the woman who gives and gives until there’s nothing left?

The good news is, the dynamic can shift.
It starts with awareness.
It deepens when you begin valuing your own needs.
It blossoms when you stop trying to earn love through effort and start allowing love to flow through balance, where giving and receiving feel natural and alive again.

If you’re ready to shift this pattern and create a relationship that feels more reciprocal, reach out. Let’s work on bringing that beautiful balance of giving and receiving back into your life.

10/28/2025

Breaking Free from Anxious Attachment

If you’ve ever felt that deep, sinking fear that your partner might leave, even when things seem fine, you might have an anxious attachment style. It’s not your fault. It’s a pattern that often begins in childhood when love felt uncertain or inconsistent. As adults, it shows up as overthinking, people-pleasing, seeking constant reassurance, or feeling uneasy when your partner needs space.

The pain runs deep. You might feel your chest tighten when a message is left on “read,” or spiral into anxiety when your partner grows quiet. You replay conversations, trying to figure out what you did wrong. You give more, love harder, and end up feeling emotionally drained, because the love you crave always feels just out of reach.

Ironically, anxious attachers often attract avoidant partners. The connection may have felt magnetic at first. The chemistry was intense, the pull undeniable. But soon, the avoidant partner begins to withdraw just when you reach out. You chase closeness; they crave distance. The more you pursue, the more they pull away. And deep down, you start believing that maybe you’re “too much” or “not enough.”

But you are neither. You’re simply someone whose nervous system has learned to equate love with uncertainty.

Healing starts when you learn to soothe your own anxiety instead of depending on your partner to do it. When you slow down, breathe through the panic, and whisper to yourself: I am safe. I am loved. I am enough. I am whole.

Over time, you’ll begin to feel more grounded and less reactive. You’ll attract partners who can meet you halfway—consistent, open, and emotionally available. Or you can shift the dynamic with your current partner to a more secure love. Because when you stop trying to earn love, you start to receive it.

You deserve a relationship where you can finally exhale and feel at peace.

Reach out! I can help you heal your attachment patterns and create a love that feels secure, nurturing, and real.

10/28/2025

When His Attraction Fades — Don’t Chase, Rise

It’s painful when you sense the spark fading. When the man who once couldn’t get enough of you now feels distant. You can feel it in small ways.
He doesn’t look at you the same. His hugs feel brief. The playful teasing, the long conversations, the little compliments — they’ve all become rare. He no longer initiates plans, doesn’t seem excited to see you, and you start feeling like you’re the only one trying.

You wonder, What happened? Did I do something wrong?
You overthink every word, every silence, every action or lack there of. You might even find yourself trying harder — asking him what's wrong, doing things to get his attention, hoping to spark what’s been lost.

But attraction can’t be forced. It can’t be earned by effort alone.
The more you chase, the further he pulls away. Because the energy of trying to be enough pushes love away.

Instead of focusing on how to make him desire you again, turn that energy inward.
Reconnect with yourself — the confident, radiant woman who existed long before this relationship.
Do the things that make you feel alive. Spend time with people who lift your spirit. Learn, grow, laugh, move your body, feed your soul.

When you shift your energy from needing to be chosen to choosing yourself, everything changes.
Sometimes, he’ll feel the shift and reawaken his attraction. Other times, you’ll realize you’ve outgrown the version of love you were trying so hard to hold onto.

Either way, you win. Because you’ll rise back into your power, your confidence, your magnetism.

Reach out if you’re ready to shift from fear and overgiving to power, self-love, and peace within yourself.

10/27/2025

Thriving Through Perimenopause — My Health & Beauty Rituals in My 40s

As I move through my 40s, I’ve learned that what works for one woman may not work for another. These are things that have worked beautifully for me. I share them because I see so many women—clients, friends, and loved ones—struggling with pain, weight gain, mood swings or low mood, fatigue, brain fog, sleep difficulties, hormonal changes and more. They remind me daily how essential it is to nurture our health with awareness and intention.

1. Nourishing Foods
I avoid sugar, refined carbs and processed foods as much as possible. I instead focus on protein, healthy fats, and fiber to stabilize blood sugar and reduce inflammation. I imagine nourishing my body with love—fuel that energizes and heals.

2. Exercise That Supports Hormones
Resistance training keeps me strong and toned, and helps me build muscle mass, which is vital for women. Regular walking soothes my mind. My cardio sessions are short—about 20 minutes with light jogging or some sprinting. Long, intense cardio can stress the body during perimenopause, so I move my body smarter, not harder.

3. Fasting Mindfully
I use fasting to activate autophagy—the body’s natural way of cleansing and repairing cells. It helps me maintain a healthy weight and feel renewed. Because fasting affects women differently, I listen closely to my body’s cues.

4. Supporting Hormone Balance
I’ve started using estrogen cream for my face and a low dose of HRT for my whole body. Estrogen starts to decline sharply in women in their 40s. Yet estrogen helps protect heart, bone, brain, and skin health. Progesterone improves mood and reduces anxiety. For me, it has restored my deep sleep. HRT has given me steadier energy, clearer focus, and a greater sense of emotional balance. I use it preventatively, not waiting until symptoms worsen.

5. Reducing Stress and Elevating Joy
I limit time with negativity and prioritize peace. Learning and growing as a therapist fuels my joy. I dance, move, and listen to music each morning. It uplifts me instantly.

You deserve a healthy, radiant, and happy you! Small changes today can transform your future! 💛
If you’d like support around your health and wellness goals, reach out to me!

10/26/2025

The 3 Ls That Reveal How Much a Man Is Into You

A relationship expert once said, if you want to know how much a man is into you, look at the 3 Ls. What are they and what are some ways you can shift if one of them is missing or low??

1. Lust.
This isn’t just about sex. It’s about the spark—the way he looks at you, touches you, and feels drawn to you. Physical attraction plays a big role in keeping intimacy alive. But let’s be real. A man can sleep with a woman without being deeply attracted to her. Sometimes, that spark fades not because he’s changed, but because you’ve stopped feeling good about yourself. When you neglect your body or self-image, that energy shifts. The most powerful thing you can do is rekindle how you feel in your own skin. Confidence is magnetic.

2. Labour.
How much effort does he put into the relationship, emotionally or physically? When a man consistently invests in you, his brain builds neural pathways that reinforce emotional attachment and desire. Every time he focuses on you, through acts of service, affection, or protection, his mind wires you deeper into his emotional map. It’s the psychology of effort: what we work for, we value more. When he puts in effort, his brain releases dopamine, oxytocin, and testosterone—chemicals that bond love with action.

3. Loyalty.
Loyalty is the quiet but powerful proof of love. When a man is loyal, you’re the only woman he truly sees. His loyalty reflects emotional maturity, self-control, and respect. If he’s constantly distracted by others, something is off in his emotional connection, not just his discipline.

When any of these 3 Ls is missing or low on the continuum—lust, labour, or loyalty—the relationship begins to feel disconnected. You can’t force him to change, but you can shift the energy by returning to your own power:
✨ Reconnect with your body.
✨ Nurture your confidence.
✨ Communicate your needs calmly and clearly.
✨ Set standards that honour your worth.

When you glow from within, the right man won’t just want you. He'll rise to meet you.

10/26/2025

How to Draw an Avoidant Man in Love?

Being with an avoidant man can feel like reaching for someone who’s there, but not fully there. He may say the right words, yet you feel the invisible wall. You sense his love, but also his distance. You crave closeness, but he retreats just when you start to feel connected. It’s painful, confusing, and lonely.

When I met my husband, he hadn’t been in a committed relationship for ten years. He was warm, caring, yet deeply avoidant. And still, from day one, he’s shown up consistently, choosing connection, honesty, and presence. Through my personal journey and my work as a therapist, I’ve learned what truly keeps an avoidant man plugged in.

There are two emotional experiences that anchor an avoidant man.

✨ 1️⃣ Deep pleasure and safety in your presence.
This usually happens in the beginning — that magnetic pull when he feels drawn to you beyond reason. He’s captivated by your laughter, your light, your confidence. Maybe it’s your softness that melts his edges. Maybe it’s your independence, your passion, your mystery. Around you, he feels strong, desired, admired — like he’s winning at life. You don’t have to be perfect. Just keep the spark in you alive — your joy, playfulness, and aliveness — so he keeps feeling that spark for you.

🔥 2️⃣ Knowing he could lose you if he stops showing up.
This isn’t about threats. It's about truth. If he senses you’ll stay no matter what, he gets too comfortable. For an avoidant man, too much comfort dulls desire and drive. But when he knows your love is a choice, a privilege, not a guarantee, he values it more. That awareness awakens his masculine drive to show up, protect, and commit.

We work hardest for what we deeply value and risk losing.
Love thrives when it inspires and challenges both hearts. 💞

If this resonates with you, reach out to me for online or in-person support.

10/25/2025

Stop Mothering Men — Start Inspiring Them

You cook for him, remind him of appointments, check if he’s eaten, even pack his bag before a trip. You tell yourself, “I’m just being caring.” But deep down, you feel unseen, unappreciated, and emotionally exhausted.

Here’s the truth: When you mother a man, you take away his chance to step up. You start carrying both the masculine and feminine energy in the relationship. He relaxes, you overfunction, and the spark fades.

Most women don’t realize they’ve been trained to do this — to earn love by doing, fixing, giving, managing. It feels natural, but it slowly kills attraction and partnership.

You may be mothering when you:
– Remind him constantly of what he needs to do.
– Clean up his messes, literally or emotionally.
– Take on his responsibilities because “he won’t do it right.”
– Feel anxious unless you’re in control.

So how do you stop?
Start by noticing the impulse. Breathe before jumping in. Let silence do the teaching. Trust that discomfort won’t destroy connection. It builds respect. Allow him to experience natural consequences. Don’t rescue, remind, or fix.

Shift from doing for him to being with him.
From managing his world to inviting him into yours.
From caretaking to connection.

As you step back, you’ll notice a powerful change. He begins to rise. He makes decisions, initiates, shows up. You feel lighter, more feminine, more desired. The relationship regains balance.

Stop mothering. Start receiving.
Because the woman who stands in her power doesn’t need to raise a man. She inspires one.

If this speaks to you, reach out. I can help you create that shift in yourself, and in your relationship.

10/23/2025

The Power of Asking and Allowing Help

There’s a quiet strength in asking for help, and an even deeper one in allowing others to show up for you.

When I was 12, living in a refugee camp in Indonesia, my family failed the screening process to come to Canada. At that time, we were still considered asylum seekers, not yet refugees, because our reasons for leaving Vietnam weren’t “political enough.” Failing that screening meant that, eventually, we would have to return to Vietnam, a terrifying thought for my family.

One scorching afternoon, as we were walking home after receiving that devastating news, I became sick and almost fainted from the heat. My mom waved at a car that was usually driven by important officers. The man inside happened to be the head of the screening department.
I gathered all my courage, pointed to my eyes, and in my broken English said, “Please help my family." That simple act changed our lives forever. Miraculously, he overturned the decision. And that’s how we were able to come to Canada.

Since then, I’ve learned that asking for help can open doors we never knew existed. Before attending Tony Robbins' event, I reached out to ask about bringing my guide dog and whether someone could care for her during the sessions. That small request connected me with a trainer who is also blind and deeply involved in Tony’s work. He shared how this community has transformed his life. He has agreed to be my mentor. His encouragement and strategies helped me overcome my fear and walk across the fire.

So I ask you: how are you at reaching out for help?
Do you find it hard to ask, or to receive?

Sometimes allowing others to help isn’t weakness. It's a gift. I once heard a stranger say after helping me, “You made my day!"

When we let others in, we create connection, kindness, and shared humanity. You draw out compassion, kindness and softness in others that they may have not been aware of about themselves.
If you’re struggling to ask, to receive, or to let others in, you don’t have to do it alone.
Reach out to me. Whether online or in-person, I’m here to support you in finding strength through connection.

10/22/2025

Not All Men Respond the Same Way—Know Which Kind You’re With

Have you been expressing your needs and making requests to your man… yet nothing changes?

Over the years, I’ve noticed there are four kinds of men when it comes to love and growth. A man can move from one category to another, depending on what inspires him.

1. The man who changes because he cares.
He listens because your feelings matter to him. When you’re hurt, he feels it too. He steps up—not to please you, but because creating happiness for you gives him joy. 💛 I’m so grateful my husband is like this. He truly listens and cares. Of course, he's not perfect.

2. The man who wants to change, but doesn’t know how or why he needs to change.
He may love you, but he’s trapped in habits that feel safe. Change means uncertainty, and discomfort. Hence he won’t act until the pain of staying the same outweighs the fear of change. That’s where strong boundaries matter. Stop over-explaining. Stop rewarding poor effort. Step back emotionally, stop initiating connection. Let him experience what life feels like when you’re no longer carrying the emotional load. Sometimes it takes losing your warmth, your presence, or even the relationship itself for him to finally wake up.

3. The man who doesn’t want to change.
He hears your pain but doesn’t care enough to do anything about it. No empathy, no accountability, no effort. If you stay, you’ll need to accept him exactly as he is. If you can't, you may need to choose to walk away for your own peace.

4. The man who grows on his own.
He reflects, takes initiative, and improves without being told. Growth is part of who he is. 💛 My husband also has this quality. He continues to evolve, which inspires me to grow alongside him.

Take a moment to reflect: which kind of man are you with? You can’t force anyone to change, but you can decide how you show up, what you tolerate, and what kind of love you’re willing to create.

If you’re ready to find clarity, strength, and balance in your relationship, reach out. I offer both online and in-person support for women ready to step into their power.

10/22/2025

The Strength Behind the Softness

My husband said to me recently, “On the outside, you seem soft, sweet, small in frame, gentle, and a bit vulnerable as a blind Asian woman. But on the inside, your heart is super strong and well-protected. It’s hard for people close to you to feel you, including me."

I paused and reflected. He was right.

I’ve faced a lot of hardships in my life—up until around the time I met him, about 13 years ago. I’ve learned to fend for myself, to take care of my own emotional needs. Even when I let others help me, I rarely rely on anyone emotionally.

In my family, I've been the one people turn to for emotional support. In friendships, I’m often the listener, the one who helps others make sense of their emotions, who offers understanding and strategies to feel better.

Except for the occasional frustration with my husband (which he knows well 😄), not many things upset me. When something stresses me out, I either find a solution or let it go. Most of the time, I feel grateful, content and happy for all the things I have now, considering how tough my early years were.

But here’s the thing—because I don’t dwell on problems, I often don’t talk about them. To me, they seem insignificant or not worth bringing up. Yet, this can make others feel I’m not being vulnerable, not letting them in.

And when you’re the emotionally independent one in your family or friendships, you might notice that you receive little emotional support in return. Fortunately, my husband is my biggest source of emotional support.

Can you relate to that? Maybe you’re also the strong one, the calm one, the one who helps others heal while quietly carrying your own weight. You don’t have to do it all alone.
Even the strong ones deserve to feel supported, understood, and cared for.

If this resonates with you, reach out. Whether online or in person, I’d be honoured to support you on your journey back to balance and emotional connection.

10/21/2025

💫 Life Is Happening for You, Not to You 💫

This was one of the most profound lessons from Tony Robbins' event. It’s easy to feel like life is unfair when you face heartbreak, loss, or trauma. But when you begin to see that life happens for you, not to you, everything changes. You move from being a victim to becoming the author of your own healing.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is when we stay trapped in resistance.

You might ask, “But what about tragedies? How could something so devastating happen for me?”
I can’t answer that for you. Meaning takes time. It unfolds when you’re ready.

I’ve worked with parents who’ve lost children. One woman I knew lost her 19-year-old son in an accident. Years later, she found her purpose in helping others heal their bodies. I’ve worked with people who lost their sight at the height of their lives. Some remained lost in darkness, others discovered light and freedom beyond what they imagined.

And I’ve personally witnessed men inflicting sexual and physical violence during my childhood and adolescence. That pain shaped me. It ignited a deep desire to co-create empowering and mutually respectful relationships with men in my personal life, and to guide men in therapy toward healing, empathy, and integrity.

Being blind has helped me connect beyond appearances, to truly feel people’s energy and truth. Many who have lost trust in others find safety and openness in our first session. When people doubted my ability to be an effective therapist without sight, it only strengthened my drive to create powerful, lasting transformations.

So I ask you:
What experience still holds power over you?
Can you look again, and find what it might be giving for you?

Your pain can become your power.
Your wounds can become your wisdom.
Take your power back! Let yourself be free! You deserve more! You can do it!

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