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Breastfeeding Father

Father of 2
Wife breastfeeding
Clinical Psychology PhD candidate
Focus on children in vulnerable populations
Supporter of fathers around the world

01/23/2023

Just wondering how you guys are doing

01/03/2023

Happy New Year

07/28/2022

Sometimes the things we feel about our children are not their responsibility at all. We need to manage our own expectations and not place those demands on our children and allow them to just be. Here’s what I mean.

We were in a department store (Canadian Tire) and our daughter was running around the store. Originally, I tried to put her in a cart right away. My partner said to let her just be, she’s fine. My anxiety immediately shot through the roof. I didn’t want our toddler running around e tearing s**t up. Those were my own feelings and my own anxiety.

I made myself take some deep breaths and allowed her to do her thing and explore the store just like her parents were doing. Guess what she tore up, broke, screamed over, ran away from?

Not one got damn thing.

I went from being anxious to being upset with myself. My 18 mos old didn’t even know the unrealistic expectations I put on her. Not only that she probably didn’t give a s**t. Once I was able to manage my own expectations I was able to be in the store with my family and do what we needed to do and have an enjoyable time. Who knew!

What’s a time when you managed your expectations out f yourself and your little one surprised you? Comment below.

07/21/2022

I had the opportunity to go on a podcast about moms with and from the to she’d some light on dads perspectives. I love when I get to show how dads are part of the development of our children just as much as moms are. How dads are out here doing their thing and showing up.

We also talked about postpartum struggles in both moms and dads, pregnancy, development, and attachment. It was a super good and fun episode to record. Go check it out where ever you get your podcasts.

Comment below and tell me what you thought of the show.

07/19/2022

Sometimes the people in our village may take their jobs too seriously. Grandparents are far different caregivers for some reason than they were with us. That can go either way, they can be so relaxed and allow kids to put forks in the outlet, or they helicopter and the kid can’t breathe. Neither of them are a good thing.

Grandparents help children with relationship building, feeling love outside of their primary caregivers, practicing social skills on other people. Sometimes grandparents worry so much about kids getting hurt, or some unforeseen accident happening that they turn into helicopters.

Give your grandparents permission to let those kids breathe. They aren’t going to break and their manners aren’t going to suddenly disappear. It’s ok that they are all over the place, their children, they should be. They won’t be able to sit still and watch tv with you, and they probably don’t want to. Let them be kids, everywhere, not just at home.

07/15/2022

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07/14/2022

I understand that I am a father now. I understand that we are in charge of raising a human being. I also know that we have a responsibility to give our family the best we possibly can and then do better. I can see that breastfeeding is causing a strain on her. I see her struggling and I know that weaning will alleviate all of it.

Before I became a dad I was a husband. Before that I was a boyfriend a fiancé a best friend. Now our baby is a toddler. I want to be those things again. I want to feel like I am taking care of my family and providing for them. I want us to be normal.

The best thing to do is be supportive. The physical toll of breastfeeding is the visible part. The emotional toll of breastfeeding is the invisible struggle that we may or may not see. Adding to that stress will only make that struggle harder. This is a case where it’s important to listen and not talk. Listen to your partners needs, listen to their heart, and listen to their body language.

Take all of that information and have a conversation. Not a conversation about why you think weaning is a good idea. A conversation about what’s best for your family. Decide mutually what you want to do and should do. It’s ok to express your concerns but it’s important to make it clear that they are concerns, not reasons.

Be the conduit between the hardship of a letting go of a long cultivated relationship and bond. Be there to listen, console, and support. If weaning is not the right choice for now, it’s not the right choice for now. This is when being a supportive partner will really count. Don’t f**k it up.

Comment below what is the most important aspect of the decision to wean or not.

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