Segovia Family & Couples Counselling Centre

03/11/2023

Family Therapy: Parenting is hard, but by engaging in small moments of connection with your child often, you can build a bond that will set them up for success for a lifetime.

03/13/2022

03/10/2022

Talking to other people can help reduce stress and help you find ways to cope better. That may not be easy: you may not feel like being socially connected when your mood is low, but do let family and friends know that they can help by reaching out to you.

01/15/2022

What is a boundary?

A boundary is a limit you can set on what you will accept of another person’s words or actions. Boundaries can be:

Material
Physical
Mental
Emotional
A common misconception about boundaries:

Myth: “Boundaries are BAD because they keep people apart!”

Fact: Healthy boundaries are for keeping bad elements (such as cruelty, abuse, harassment, and manipulation) out of your life and relationships.

Boundaries keep people together in a healthy way!

Healthy boundaries and respect help people communicate more effectively and work together, making people less likely to fight or want to leave the relationship.

“Good fences make good neighbors” and it’s true for all types of relationships!

Take care of yourself first!

Part of a flight’s safety instructions include putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others. This is good advice for other aspects of your life. Not taking care of yourself first can cause dissatisfaction and burnout. It can also lead to resentment—so taking care of yourself is not only good for you, it’s good for your relationships.

12/29/2021

12/28/2021

Families are multi-faceted, complex and confusing at times. Access Support at mswsegovia@gmail.com

11/28/2021

11/27/2021

Take the quiz - https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

11/27/2021

Family Therapists Corner: Van der Kolk's directive to an effective trauma therapy involves the following steps (not in order and overlapping) for clients to achieve (p. 203-204):

1) finding a way to become calm

2) learning to maintain that calm and focus when triggered with past thoughts, emotions, reminders, etc.

3) finding a way to be fully alive, in the present, and engaged with others

4) not having to keep secrets from self including the ways the person has managed to survive.

His position is clear that the trauma has to be revisited in more than the logical brain "The fundamental issue in resolving traumatic stress is to restore the proper balance between the rational and emotional part of the brain."

11/26/2021

Appreciation is at the heart ♥️ of relationship repair.

11/25/2021

Family Therapist Corner: The goal of family therapy is to help family members identify how specific behaviors affect others, learn new ways of relating to each other, resolve conflicts, and open lines of communication between all family members.