25/03/2026
When kids are âacting out,â itâs often not a lack of discipline, itâs a nervous system under stress. As my friend says, âkids arenât acting out, theyâre reaching out!â
A child who is yelling, hitting, or refusing is outside their window of tolerance, where reasoning and impulse control are less accessible. In those moments, more control or consequences simply adds pressure to an already overwhelmed system.
To deeply meet our children, a shift is toward regulation first. Human beings return to safety through co-regulation! So when we focus on the nervous system, weâre not excusing behavior, weâre supporting the conditions that make change possible.
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