02/26/2025
Have you ever poured your heart and soul into somethingâan important event, a big meeting, a life-changing opportunityâonly to watch it fall apart before your eyes?
You prepared. You anticipated. You worked so hard.
And yet⌠it didnât go the way you hoped. It went badly.
You felt crushed. Defeated. Like a failure.
It happens to all of us. Even the best of us. Because failure doesnât just happen to those who sit back and do nothingâit happens to those who try, relentlessly.
And when it does, the questions flood in: Why did it have to go this way? Why did I perform so badly? Why did no one help me?
It happened to me last night. And honestly? It hurt. I was disappointed. Frustrated. Angry at myself. I wanted to cry. Why?! Why canât things just go smoothly?
But then, I remembered a powerful truth:
âYou learn nothing from success.â (Who said this first? If you know, tell me!)
Because the truth is, success doesnât teach us much. It feels good, yes, but it doesnât force us to reflect, to question, to grow. Failure, on the other hand, is our greatest teacher.
But hereâs what I really want to talk about: what exactly are we meant to learn?
Itâs easy to assume the lesson is surface-levelââNext time, do this instead of that.â But is that all there is? Or is failure serving a deeper purpose in our lives?
Hereâs something we often overlook: the real lesson isnât just about what to change. Itâs about who we must become.
And the way we get there? Emotions. The ones we hate.
The disappointment, the anger, the sadnessâthey exist for a reason. Our first instinct is to suppress them: Donât cry. Donât be mad. Just move on.
But listen to me: you must allow the emotions.
Why? Because emotions are powerful. They are the biological and chemical forces that drive us to change. They feel awful because they are meant to push us forward.
So the next time you failâwhen you mess up the meeting, lose the opportunity, or fall short of your own expectationsâask yourself:
How should I change?
Because change is the whole point of this human journey. If you failed today, then tomorrow, a new you must step up. A different version of you must take action.
And thatâs how we grow.
So take a deep breath. Go for a walk. Reflect. Cry if you need to. And remember: you are human. We all fail. This is how we evolve.
Youâre doing just fine, love.
Hugs â¤ď¸