06/18/2025
There is far too much gender bashing going on, and it’s not helping our society or culture.
Let’s be real on infidelity and trustworthiness. Men cheated far more than woman in the 1800’s, 1900’s and through to the 1980’s. Men controlled the finances and had the power. It was very difficult to obtain a divorce in those years, and until the laws changed in the 70s, men most often initiated divorce. Women were in a lower position of economics, power, and status. Men were more often the abuser and cheater, and we are now suffering from the choices and selfish actions of our fathers, grandfathers, great grandfathers, etc. boys raised by women with no fathers for role models. Children raised by women who were abandoned by their husbands and could not get work, working multiple jobs to support their children (who are us). Children (us) raised in homes with only a mother in poverty. Boys becoming men not knowing how to be a man or father. Families having no role models for healthy families and structure. Epigenetics plays a big role.
So here we are now as a society, pointing our fingers and blaming. Thinking so short term that we cannot even see that the fault lies squarely on the shoulders of our own fathers, grandfathers, and forefathers. It becomes our job collectively to heal our society and our families. We have to each stop walking away from our marriages and families, and placing ourselves as the most important. If we continue to prioritize our own selves and our own happiness above all else, then our responsibilities to our children, to teach them about integrity and honour, will continue to be compromised and destroyed. We then continue to teach our children to be selfish and walk away from our grandchildren, walking this path of destruction…. Which is what our own parents and forefathers did. Here we are now. We are “waking up”? No we aren’t.
Until we are real with ourselves and do the work on ourselves, there will be no healing.
