04/02/2020
Happy World Autism Awareness Day!
My son was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 3. He is very high functioning, very verbal and very smart. I have had many people say to me, he looks "normal". This always makes me laugh and silently say to myself, "well you look normal too!". One of things we're not supposed to say out loud! Like my son, I sometimes I don't like to have to filter my thoughts, haha. What is normal and who gets to deem what normal is and does anyway? At any rate, yes Erich looks normal and speaks normally. He can swear, drink and eat like any other 20 year old. Since the moment he entered my life I have loved him and embraced him. Erich has an amazing sense of humour, quick wit, sharp tongue and a passion for debate. He will debate anything. He knows about everything, and yet one of things he I frequently debate is how smart he is. He doesn't think he's smart! But he has something to say about everyone else's intelligence....or lack thereof! Again, the wit, which I love so much. You see despite all the wonderful qualities, one of things I learned early on was Erich learned many coping skills....he would hold it together all day and then when he came home, when he knew he was safe, he would then fall apart. Even though my son is 20 now, I still feel the same, actually no. I feel even more pride and love for him. It isn't easy for me as a single mom, as he is currently struggling with depression, trying to figure out his place in this world. Trying to cope with his struggles of not being able to cope with the demands of College. Each day he gets up and he shows up. I celebrate each of his wins still the same way I did when he was younger because the challenges don't go away. They're bigger and scarier once you're an adult. The supports aren't there anymore. I accept, embrace my son and am his biggest advocate. It isn't easy. Believe me. But I will forever be there cheering him and guiding so long as he needs. Erich is amazing and I am forever grateful to have been able to learn everything that he has taught me. Let's celebrate all kids and adults with Autism.