04/06/2026
In The VoicePed UnDegree and with the student-teachers in the Undergraduate Voice Pedagogy class I teach, we are constantly renegotiating how we deal with the response of uncomfortableness with a new coordination.
Less experienced teachers tend to respond by pivoting away from uncomfortableness because we see our role as always making sure the student is OKAY. And we’re nervous of hurting students, of losing their trust, or what it means about our teaching if they don’t like the sound they’re making.
More experienced teachers tend to go the other way. We override the student’s experience, often using “it’s just the messy middle” or “it’s supposed to feel uncomfortable” or “it’s going to get worse before it gets better” as justification.
Buuuut here’s the thing, :
Neither of those responses actually supports the kind of student learning that allows them to make choices for themselves.
One communicates that being uncomfortable is to be avoided at all costs … so students never learn how to ‘stick with it’ to fully acquire a new coordination.
The other communicates that your perceptions don’t matter … so students learn not to listen to themselves and that only their teacher can tell them if they have acquired the coordination or not.
SO … what do we do instead?
We stay with the experience. We treat the student’s “I don’t like this” as data (not as a problem to fix or to be ignored).
We validate (OH! That’s interesting - thanks for letting me know.)
We get curious (How do you know when you are comfortable? What IS working?)
We help them negotiate it (5% more comfort. Earlier exit. Slower transition.)
The real learning is in developing the capacity to negotiate through the messy middle. NOT in avoiding discomfort. NOT in overriding it.
And when students learn how to do that? They don’t just get the new coordination; they get agency.
Reach out about how to book a VoicePed Consult (or several) and we can map this out in real life.
If consults aren’t on the table right now, start in The VoicePed 101 Library:
➡️ How We Learn 101
➡️ Diagnosis 101
Curious: what do *you* tend to do when a student says “I don’t like this”?