05/02/2026
What if body confidence didn’t come from the size of your body at all?
What if it was found in the small, everyday things; the foods you eat, how you hydrate, the way you move, the thoughts you repeat, the people you spend time with,
and the beliefs you choose to hold as true?
For a large part of my teen and adult life, my weight stayed relatively the same. But after having kids, I watched that number fluctuate - up, down, and back up again. And for the first time, my confidence in my body began to waver.
I was eating well. I was moving my body.
And still, the scale refused to move in the direction I thought it needed to.
I was frustrated.
One day, after finishing a workout, I lay on my mat trying to catch my breath. In that quiet moment, I asked myself a simple question:
What do I need to do differently?
And then, almost unexpectedly, I heard a gentle inner voice say,
“Keep doing what you’re doing.”
That was the moment everything began to shift.
What I needed wasn’t another plan, rule, or adjustment.
What I needed was patience. And trust.
A few weeks later, I noticed something had changed, not on the scale, but inside of me. I felt different. Lighter. More grounded.
Out of habit, I stepped on the scale.
Nothing had changed.
I felt the familiar wave of shame begin to rise. And like I had done so many times before, I looked in the mirror expecting to make myself feel even worse.
But what happened next surprised me.
The person staring back at me looked… different.
Yes, the number was the same … but her body looked different. And more importantly, the way she carried herself had changed entirely. She was standing differently. Radiating differently. Seeing herself differently.
In that moment, something clicked.
She had transformed her beliefs.
Her identity.
And the rules she had been living by around food, movement, and worth.
I realized then that body confidence isn’t built by chasing a number.
It’s built by showing up for yourself in the ways your body actually needs.
By listening instead of forcing.
By attaching to how you want to feel instead of how you think you should look.
For me, that meant becoming aware of the things that made me feel my best:
• Foods that left me feeling energized instead of depleted
• Movement that felt supportive, not punishing
• Moments of stillness through prayer and meditation
• And deep connection with the people I love most
These are the things that transformed my relationship with my body. Without relying on the scale to validate me.
Now, when I feel off or disconnected, I don’t reach for rules and restrictions.
I return to awareness. To intention. To the things I know will bring me back home to myself.
Because body confidence doesn’t come from doing everything perfectly.
It comes from trusting yourself enough to listen.
How do you reconnect with your body and boost your confidence when you need it most?