11/12/2025
Separations are brutal in ways no one warns you about. One minute, you're with your kids all the time and know every detail of their lives... and the next, you're having to adjust to seeing them half/some of the time and suddenly you're missing bedtimes, meltdowns, inside jokes.. it's hard. And it hurts. A lot.
Because it's something you never anticipated when you decided to start a family. You didn't plan to rebuild your life in halves. You never pictured holidays split down in the middle. You never imagined moments with your kids becoming scheduled, negotiated or shared. And while shared parenting can be healthy for kids, it almost never feels fair to the parent who carried most of the load, most of the nights, most of the emotional labor.
We like to believe that separations end with two adults co-parenting smoothly, communicating openly, and working as a team. But let's be real, that's the exception nowadays. Most separations come with conflicts, tension, power struggles, and hurt feelings that don't magically disappear just because co-parenting is the goal.
I see this often in my practice. Parents grieving invisible losses while trying to stay afloat, put on a happy front for the kids, navigating a dynamic that's anything but simple or peaceful... parents trying to accept a new reality that no one ever dreams of, while still showing up with love, consistency, and a steady presence for their children.
If you're in this transition and feeling lost, please hear this: separations are HARD. It brings on an identity shift that you don't plan for. It takes time to adjust. You don't have to figure it all out alone. I'm here to help you brace yourself, build coping skills, and navigate rough waters while you find your footing in a situation that can feel overwhelming and unfair.
I'm here for all of it! ❤️🩹