The Roaming Psychotherapist

26/09/2025

I know what you may be secretly wondering when you first come in...
- Will she think I'm weird if i cry right away? Crying is the best release so no, I won't.
- Can I trauma dump on the first visit? Yes!
- Will she judge me? Hard no bc we all have our s**t and I'm definitely included in that.
- Will she know if I don't do my homework? Yes. No hard feelings tho, promise!
- What if I got nothing to say? No worries! Come as you are.
- Do I say thanks at the end? Up to you, I'll definitely say it.
- What happens when I start feeling better? We can unpack that too.

Here's my thoughts: deciding to seek therapy is a huge step and kudos to you if you're there! It's very normal to have a lot of questions/doubts and I'm here for all of it so please, dump it all on me and let's unpack together. You don't have to know what to say or do. Your only job is to show up.. with or without a weekly crisis.

In my experience, most of the growth happens in the awkward, messy middle.. especially when you think it's not going anywhere and you're feeling dazed and confused. 🌿

25/09/2025

I dream big. Always have. Probably always will.

Since we moved, I've been wanting a kitchen island. Our teens basically live in their rooms now and we only have a few years left with them and I thought that maybe if we had a big ass island, it could become the heart of our home. A place to gather, eat, talk, do homework.. even if it’s just for ten minutes before they vanish again.

The best quote we got was $4K. Hard no. So deflating. So what did my husband do? He built us a damn island. Because the years are short. And this was so important for our family. And because we’re stubborn as hell. Is it perfect? Hardly. Is it amazing? 💯

Mental health is kind of the same. People will tell you what you can’t do, what they think is best for you, will point out your flaws, your limitations. It's all bulls**t. Our DIY island is proof that where there's a will, there's a way. 🙌

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24/09/2025

Couples therapy truth bombs.💣

Long term relationships are fu***ng hard. You don't just coast through years together on "love". You wake up everyday and (hopefully) choose your partner, even on the hard days when you want to strangle them with the throw blanket they never fold.

A common pattern I see in therapy is the logical vs emotional dynamic. Logical partner: wants to fix things. Emotional partner: wants to feel things. Logical brain meets emotional brain during arguments and 💥 ..both walk away feeling unheard, misunderstood and disconnected. Suddenly you're fighting about the dishwasher and it's not even about the damn dishwasher!

Sound familiar?

Here's my 2 cents: there's no better or worst way of being, no one is right or wrong for being logical/emotional, it's differences in wiring and temperament.. and probably a big reason why you got together in the first place (opposite attract, anyone?) When you start seeing your couple fights as the problem and not your partner, you can actually work together.

Couples therapy isn't about deciding who's right or wrong, who's the problem.. bc newsflash, it's both of you! Therapy can help shine a light on your mess, your triggers, miscommunications, and remembering why you picked each other in the first place. Sometimes a neutral set of eyes (me) can help you see the patterns your stuck in.

So no, it's not just you. It's not just your relationship. Long term love is messy. With awareness, humor and a willingness to meet each other halfway, who knows, you might find your way back to being friends again. And I'm so here for it! 🌿

23/09/2025

Honestly, with me? Nothing in particular. There's no script. You don't have to hand me your life story in bullet points (unless you want to). You don't have to "start at the beginning" (unless you want to). You don't even have to make sense!

Here's what I expect from you tho: That you show up. And say whatever the f**k you want. I'll take what you give me and we will start there. Then through raw, messy, honest and scary convo's, I'll start reflecting back patterns I notice.

I'm not here to tell you what to do. I don't have the answers. You do. They're just buried under burnout, fear, shame, bulls**t and others expectations.

Can you come in and bulls**t me because your partner/parents told you to? Sure. I'll still try to help, but let's be real, that's not going to get you very far.

The more you put in, the more vulnerable and honest you get, the more you'll get out of the experience. The "work" looks different for everyone and that's where my therapist knowledge comes in - to guide you through the weeds and dig your way back to yourself.

So no. I don't need you to draft me a power point presentation of your past traumas (unless you want do to that - bc I'm so here for it!) You don't even need to know what to say. You just need to show up. We'll start there. Curious? Let's chat.🌿

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22/09/2025

Monday wisdom. ✨

It’s a weird thing to realize that one little pill can change so much.

For years I was trialed on antidepressants, antipsychotics, mood stabilizers... Nothing helped. I spent my whole life feeling scattered, overwhelmed, anxious, constantly fighting my own brain.

Now? A few weeks on Vyvanse, everything feels… regulated. My thoughts are organized. I’m not constantly overwhelmed. My anxiety is quieter. Even my heart rate has slowed down. It's making me wonder what life could’ve been like if I had this kind of regulation years ago.

Medication isn't gonna fix your life. But the right cocktail can be a game changer. And we need to talk more about this without shame.

I'm here for it! ❤️‍🩹

19/09/2025

BIG NEWS!

In a few weeks I'm leaving my window less therapy cave and getting an upgrade. By upgrade I mean I'm getting a WINDOW! 🌞

You don’t realize how glorious a window is until you don’t have one. Current office: no window and located beside the main entrance. Cue loud hallway greetings, part time door greeter role, random interruptions, and me squinting at a sad little lamp pretending it’s the sun. New office: a few steps down the hall, actual daylight, fewer distractions, and privacy! 🙌

So. In a few weeks, you can find me in office #270 down the hall, bathing in vitamin D, and enjoying some peace and quiet. Huge shoutout to Al for making this happen for me! 💛

18/09/2025

I swore I’d never get a Keurig. I was loyal to my instant coffee and boiling kettle for years (shoutout to Mémère Duguay for raising me right). Then I graduated to a coffee pot and told my family I’d never cave to the Keurig cult.

Welp. Guess who’s sitting here this morning sipping a fast, easy, pod coffee like it’s the best thing on earth? 👋

Here’s what I’m realizing: sometimes we overcomplicate life when the simplest solution is right in front of us. Simplifying isn’t laziness. It’s survival. It’s wellness. It’s sanity.

I know it’s not the most eco-friendly option. But you know what? I’ll recycle harder later. For now I’ll take the mental health win.

So here’s your Thursday reminder that if something makes your life easier, take it. Don’t overthink it. Don’t guilt yourself. Just make the damn pod coffee. ☕🤎

17/09/2025

Pulled out my jean jacket today for the first time since the service. Reached into my pockets for change and found her cards still tucked inside.. her face staring back at me. My heart sank and warmed all at once, and the memories just came rushing in.

It’s been a month now. The days keep moving forward, but her absence stays sharp. She was such a presence. So full of life. So important. So loved. It’s hard to look ahead and imagine a future without her in it.

That tiny discovery in my pocket stopped me in my tracks. A reminder that grief doesn’t stay in neat boxes.. it lingers in the smallest places, waiting to be found. Now here I am, walking back to work with my coffee, missing her, reminiscing, wishing she was still here. 🤍❤️‍🩹

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16/09/2025

Finally upgraded my EMDR kit, and I'm pretty sure my clients will be more relieved than I am. The old wired version had me basically third-wheeling their trauma processing because I had to sit way too close to fiddle with wires and k***s. Not exactly the vibe.

Now? Wireless headset, wireless buzzers, wireless everything. Which means clients no longer have to smell my breath while they do the hard work. (And yes, I'm bragging bc I’m SO proud of being at a stage in my private practice where I can invest in these upgrades.. therapist toys ain’t cheap!)

On a serious note though: EMDR is one of the most powerful tools I use in my practice. I’ve seen it help people move through stuff they’ve carried for years.. grief, trauma, the “ugh” memories that won’t leave them alone. It’s not magic, but sometimes it sure feels like it.

So here’s to progress. For me, for my clients, and for not tripping over wires in the middle of someone’s breakthrough. 🙌✨

15/09/2025

Six bites down my neck, 5 days of feeling like my nervous system was short-circuiting, and a bonus sense of impending doom.. maybe I'm now part of some exclusive spider hazing ritual?

10/10 do not recommend.

I’ve spent most of my living in the bush, camping, outdoorsy.. move to the city and this happen? Mind blown. We all grieve in different ways and for me, slowing down is never an option. The Universe had other plans for me the past week tho. Now I'm crawling back into Monday, hoping this week doesn’t have fangs.

If you’ve been knocked down lately (by spiders, grief, stress, life, or just sheer bad luck), here’s to dragging ourselves up again.. a little shaky, a little annoyed, but still standing. May the hits this week be softer than last. 🤞

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12/09/2025

AMAZING PROGRAM! 🤩✨

North

12/09/2025

I finally took the leap! I’ve been eyeing this sand tray therapy kit for a while. I can already see how powerful it will be with kids and adults. Sometimes the hardest part is finding words for what’s going on inside, and sand tray therapy can help bring those hidden pieces to the surface in a way that feels safe and creative. I’m looking forward to weaving more of this into my sessions.