Positive Change Counselling

02/26/2026

"Repair is often a process, not a one-time event. A single conversation can spark healing, but lasting change comes of ongoing openness: 'I want you to know the door is always open if you’d like to talk again.'"

Want your golden years to be happier? Expressing sincere regret for misdeeds can lead to emotional healing, stronger relationships, and a greater sense of peace.

02/24/2026

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02/23/2026

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It’s not uncommon for those who didn’t get all of their relational needs met as children to fantasize about finally finding the perfect partner or job or friends who will love and support you unconditionally, and finally meet all of your needs.
But adult relationships are and should be conditional.

Disney doesn’t help with this fantasy - of making it seem like suddenly, when things are “right,” we’ll suddenly have everything we want, and we’ll live life happily ever after.

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works, and really, it’s not how we’d *want* it to go - we’d still end up feeling very empty & insecure if something outside of ourselves did all of the work for us. That’s not what it actually looks like to be in a healthy, balanced relationship.

Secure relationships still have moments of doubt, people will still disappoint one another, they can feel boring at times, and conflict will still be a normal part of life.

But it’s HOW we look at and navigate these moments with these people that make our relationships safe & secure.

Are we focused on growth or blame?
Do we run from conflict or work to vulnerably share our feelings and needs?
Do we make the relationship a priority and work to stay connected?
Are we each individually attuned to our needs and feelings?
Can we stay present to and support each other in hard moments?
Do we laugh, play, and invite each other into our worlds regularly?

These things are much more important than perfection, because they show us that we can navigate the difficulties of life together and weather storms when they come our way.

If you’re working to develop healthier relationships and show up with more agency in your relationship with yourself first and then others, then the Cycle Breakers program beginning this Wednesday can absolutely help.

This is a year long program for those committed to intentionally meeting themselves with more safety, generosity, compassion, and accountability as they begin to break old cycles and patterns of relating to themselves, others and the world.
And it’s done in small, supportive, heart-centered community.
This is the last time I'll be running this cohort, so don't miss out!

https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers

02/21/2026

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02/20/2026

Going through some handouts of mine today and I found this diagram I made years ago, inspired by my Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples training. Thought I’d share it here today! 💜

02/20/2026

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02/18/2026

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02/13/2026

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Healthy relationships aren’t conflict-free. What matters is how you repair 🌟

As Valentine's Day approaches, we want to talk about normalizing disagreement — and celebrating the skill of coming back together.

Visit https://loom.ly/XcKKdK8 to explore resources for strengthening these skills through EFT 🫶

02/11/2026

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You can’t bully yourself into the life you want.

Digital illustration of an older white fem sitting in the drivers seat of a car. The sky is orangey pink, and there’s a red canister labeled, ‘self half’ in the passenger seat. There’s text that reads, 'If self-hate is the fuel you use to get there - you’re gonna probably still hate yourself when you arrive.’