Mary Klovance Consulting & Public Speaking

Mary Klovance Consulting & Public Speaking Go-to keynote speaker on neurodiversity-affirming care in schools, families, workplaces, and community settings.

Award-winning counsellor and consultant delivering pro-d workshops and presentations to support neurodivergent children, teens, and adults.

04/08/2026

You can’t make a child do anything.
And the more you try… the more resistance you get.

Especially with neurodivergent kids.

✨ The shift?
Stop focusing on control → start focusing on connection + direction

Instead of:
“Just do your homework.”

Try this 👇
“What’s something you want right now?”

💡 They want money → they need a job
💡 To get a job → they need a resume
💡 To write a resume → they need English skills
💡 To build that → what’s ONE assignment you can do today?

Now it feels doable.
Now it feels theirs.
Now you’ve got momentum.

Same with:
🧠 “I want to be more organized” → start with ONE drawer
🧠 “I want better grades” → start with ONE task
🧠 “I want independence” → start with ONE small step

This is how we support executive functioning without power struggles.

👉 Break it down
👉 Make it achievable
👉 Build momentum

That’s where the magic happens.

Let me know in the comments how this worked for you or if you have any questions.

Follow for more neurodiversity-affirming parenting & support 💛

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04/03/2026

Sleep & ADHD – Why It’s Tough & How Food Plays a Role 🌙✨

Hey friends! ADHD often affects our sleep, whether it’s falling asleep or staying asleep. 😴 But did you know eating right before bed could make it harder? When you snack late, it can trigger hormone shifts, sugar spikes, and energy fluctuations that tell your body, “Hey, we’re still in energy mode!” when you’re trying to wind down. 🛌

I’m not a doctor or nutritionist—so do your own research—but giving yourself at least an hour after your last bite can help signal your body: “It’s time to rest.” 🌛 Let’s get that sleep routine on point! 🧠💤

03/26/2026

✨ I have THREE book ideas in my heart right now and I need your help deciding where to start…

1️⃣ A book for late-diagnosed ADHD women — the grief, the relief, the identity shifts, and learning how to finally work with your brain instead of against it.

2️⃣ A book for ADHD moms raising neurodivergent kids — real-life, compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming parenting without the pressure to “fix” your child while also navigating your own brain.

3️⃣ A more “woo-woo” workbook — think inner child healing, shadow work, and powerful journaling prompts ✨
→ This could be a standalone or something that pairs with either of the other books.

Honestly… I feel lit up by ALL of them 🔥
But I want to create what will support YOU the most.

💬 Tell me:
Which one would you read first?
Which one do you need right now?

Your voice will help shape what comes next 🤍

02/26/2026

Self-care isn’t a luxury.
It’s an ADHD hack. 🧠✨

If you have extended medical benefits, STOP waiting until you’re burnt out.

Do the math.
✔️ How much coverage do you get for RMT?
✔️ Acupuncture?
✔️ Counselling?

Now divide it up and pre-book those appointments for the YEAR.

Every 2–3 weeks.
Non-negotiable.

Because here’s the truth:
ADHD brains struggle with initiation, decision fatigue, and future planning.

So remove the decision.

Put it in the calendar.
Automate your care.
Let structure hold you when motivation won’t.

This isn’t indulgent.
It’s nervous system regulation.
It’s executive functioning support.
It’s preventative mental health.

Make yourself accountable.
Show up for yourself first. 💛

Your future regulated self will thank you.

02/15/2026

TEDx Victoria is accepting applications… and I think this might be my year. 🔥🎤

It’s been on my bucket list for YEARS to give a TED Talk — and thank you to Blanche for letting me know applications are open 🙌

Here’s where I need your help…

I have SO many ideas.
Neurodiversity affirming support.
ADHD women.
ADHD women and high functioning codependency.
Parenting ADH(D) teens.
Neuro affirming School systems.

But how do you know what’s TED-worthy?

What idea is powerful enough… universal enough… clear enough… bold enough?

If you’ve given a TEDx Talk — or know someone who has — can you connect me?
And if you’ve watched my work over the years… what topic do you think I was born to stand on that red dot and speak about?

Let’s make this the year I cross “Give a TED Talk” off my list. 🔥

Drop your thoughts below or DM me.
Big dream energy activated. ✨

PublicSpeaker VictoriaBC BigDreamEnergy

02/05/2026

✨The importance of self compassion ✨

If you’re struggling to start, focus, or “perform” today —
that doesn’t mean you’re lazy, broken, or failing.

It means your nervous system might be asking for support.

Instead of beating yourself up, try this:
🤍 Place a hand on your chest
🤍 Take a breath
🤍 Ask yourself: “What do I need to get started right now?”

Maybe it’s rest.
Maybe it’s clarity.
Maybe it’s movement, reassurance, or fewer expectations.

Self-compassion isn’t giving up —
it’s meeting yourself where you are without judgement
and giving your brain what it actually needs to move forward.

Your worth is not measured by productivity.
You are allowed to pause, check in, and care for yourself 💫





💛 Feeling so grateful and excited to be connecting with community over the next few months 💛One of my favourite parts of...
02/02/2026

💛 Feeling so grateful and excited to be connecting with community over the next few months 💛

One of my favourite parts of this work is getting to show up with parents, caregivers, educators, and service providers — learning together, sharing real conversations, and building more neurodiversity-affirming spaces for kids, youth, and families.

I’m really looking forward to these upcoming parenting support sessions and professional development workshops, and I’d love to see familiar faces (and new ones!) along the way.

✨ What’s coming up:
FREE - Register through Family Smart
📅 Feb 18 – FamilySmart (Online)
Parenting ADHD(D) Children: A Neuro-Affirming Approach

Professional Development Workshops:
📅 Mar 10 – CFIA Women’s Circle (Online)
ADH(D) in Mid-Life: Understanding Ourselves & Supporting How We Work

📅 Apr 7 – School District 72 (Campbell River)
Full-Day PD: Working One-to-One with Neurodivergent Children & Youth

📅 June 18 – Saanich Rec Summer Camp Staff (In-Person)
Supporting Neurodivergent Campers

These sessions are all about connection over compliance, understanding nervous systems and how the neurodivergent brain thrives and offers practical, compassionate strategies that actually support real humans in real life.

Thank you to the organizations partnering with me — and to the families and professionals who keep showing up, asking thoughtful questions, and doing this work with so much care. 💛

I am so grateful to be doing this work!

FREE✨ Upcoming Parent Workshop – Parenting ADHD Children: A Neuro-Affirming Approach ✨I’m really excited to be offering ...
01/27/2026

FREE
✨ Upcoming Parent Workshop – Parenting ADHD Children: A Neuro-Affirming Approach ✨

I’m really excited to be offering this upcoming workshop in partnership with FamilySmart for parents and caregivers of children with ADH(D).

This session is designed for parents of school-aged children (ages 5–18) and focuses on building a deeper understanding of how the ADH(D) brain works. We’ll explore how ADH(D) can show up as both a strength and a challenge, and how understanding your child’s nervous system can reduce power struggles and increase connection at home.

We’ll cover:
• What’s actually happening in the ADH(D) brain
• Neurodiversity-affirming communication (including declarative and low-demand language)
• Supporting task initiation and follow-through without relying on rewards or consequences
• Practical strategies to help your child hone their gift and thrive

Parents will leave with specific tools they can use immediately, greater compassion for their child (and themselves), and a clearer roadmap for supporting ADH(D) in a way that builds confidence, autonomy, and success.

📅 February 18 @ 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm PST
ONLINE
👉 Register here: https://familysmart.ca/event/parenting-adhd-children-a-neuro-affirming-approach/

I’d love to see you there — and feel free to share this with any parents who might find it helpful 💛

01/17/2026

✨ Let’s reframe “over-sharing.” ✨

What if what we call over-sharing—especially in ADHD folks—is actually vulnerability?

We’re taught to keep things surface-level.
To stay palatable.
To avoid making others uncomfortable.

But real connection doesn’t happen through small talk.
It happens when someone is brave enough to go first.

Vulnerability is how we recognize ourselves in others.
It’s how trust forms.
It’s how deep, authentic relationships are built.

So maybe the issue isn’t that some people share too much…
Maybe it’s that society hasn’t made enough room for honesty.

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too open,”
I see you.
Your openness is not a flaw—it’s a bridge. 💛

I’m so excited to finally share that I’m officially a published author in the first-ever Canadian textbook for school co...
12/23/2025

I’m so excited to finally share that I’m officially a published author in the first-ever Canadian textbook for school counsellors, created by City University 🇨🇦📚

I’m incredibly grateful for the opportunity to contribute a chapter focused on how school counsellors can advocate for gender-diverse, disabled and neurodivergent students within the school setting. This includes recognizing students’ unique support needs, responding in meaningful and practical ways, creating more inclusive school environments, and navigating advocacy within the school system—so every student feels seen, supported, and valued.

A heartfelt thank you to everyone who poured their time, care, and passion into bringing this textbook to life. I truly hope it makes a difference in schools across Canada and has a positive, lasting impact on the lives of diverse students. 💛

✨ This is only the beginning — in 2026, I plan to focus on writing my first book. Stay tuned, folks! ✨

⭐️Self- Compassion & Self Regulation Strategy⭐️💛 Hand-on-Heart Practice 💛 When you notice you’re feeling stressed, overw...
12/12/2025

⭐️Self- Compassion & Self Regulation Strategy⭐️

💛 Hand-on-Heart Practice 💛

When you notice you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or activated, pause for a moment.

Take 2–3 slow, satisfying breaths.

Gently place one hand over your heart, noticing the warmth and pressure of your hand.
If it feels supportive, try both hands and notice the difference.

Feel the touch.
You might even make small, slow circles on your chest.

Notice the natural rise and fall of your breath as you inhale… and exhale.
Stay here for as long as feels good.

✨ A gentle reminder: not everyone finds hand-on-heart soothing — and that’s okay.

If placing a hand on your chest feels uncomfortable, you might explore other forms of gentle, grounding touch:

• One hand on your cheek
• Cradling your face in your hands
• Gently stroking your arms
• Crossing your arms and giving yourself a soft squeeze
• Gentle circular movements on your chest
• Hand on your abdomen
• One hand on your heart and one on your belly
• Cupping one hand in the other in your lap

Over time, you may begin to build the habit of physically comforting yourself when things feel hard — using simple, accessible tools that remind your nervous system: you are safe, and you are supported.

💛 This is one small way to practice kindness toward yourself.

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✨ New Article! ✨I’ve written a new piece on shifting from compliance-based teaching to low-demand, connection-focused co...
11/25/2025

✨ New Article! ✨

I’ve written a new piece on shifting from compliance-based teaching to low-demand, connection-focused communication—an approach that reduces pressure, increases engagement, and supports neurodivergent learners in truly meaningful ways.

If you’re an educator looking for practical, compassionate strategies to help students thrive, you’ll find lots of tools inside. And if you’re a parent, this is a great article to share with your child’s teacher to help advocate for a more supportive approach.

👉 https://www.teachermag.ca/post/from-compliance-to-connection-shifting-how-we-support-neurodivergent-learners

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