Whole Hearted Healing Trauma and Relationship Therapy

10/28/2025

Grief isn’t the end of healing; it’s the middle. It’s the bridge between what happened and what’s possible now ❤️

When you allow yourself to grieve, you make space for something new: self-compassion, acceptance, and connection.

As a trauma survivor myself, much of my work now centers on creating spaces where people can safely feel what was once too heavy to face alone.

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10/25/2025

Shame is the legacy of abuse 💔

It’s what keeps us believing we’re broken, instead of realising we were hurt.

Healing means slowly learning to separate you from that voice. To see that the shame never belonged to you in the first place.

And when that happens, we meet what’s underneath it: grief.

Because grief is what shame has been protecting us from all along.

I know talking about shame isn’t comfortable, but it’s how we begin to heal what was never ours to carry.

Let me know if this resonated with you today ❤️

10/23/2025

Coming back to your inner child isn’t about rewriting the past. It’s about letting those younger parts know they’re not alone anymore ❤️

If this resonates, I create spaces (both online and in person here in Spain) where survivors can safely do this work together. Follow along for more reflections on trauma, grief, and the slow, beautiful process of coming home to yourself 🫶

10/21/2025

There’s grief in what happened to us. There’s grief in what didn’t happen because of it. And there’s grief in what never will happen as a result of our trauma ❤️

If you can relate to this and would like to find out more about the RRP model (or experience it in person!) drop a comment below 👇

10/19/2025

Trauma isn’t just the event. It’s how you were met in it, or not met at all 💔

It’s the silence after the shouting stopped.

The look away when you needed someone to see.

Someone saying you’re fine when your whole body was screaming that you weren’t.

You weren’t just hurt by what happened. You were hurt by being alone in what happened.

Because when you’re small and scared and no one comes, your system learns something deep and painful: that safety isn’t available, that comfort isn’t coming, that your pain is too much for other people to bear.

And so you learn to bear it all yourself.

You build walls around the hurt.

You shut down needs before anyone can reject them.

You stop reaching.

You learn to survive in isolation.

That’s why healing has to happen in relationship. Because what was broken in disconnection can only be repaired through connection.

When someone stays with you in your pain (really stays) your nervous system starts to learn something new. That maybe it’s safe to be seen now. That maybe you don’t have to carry it all alone anymore.

That’s the work of trauma recovery. Not erasing the past, but rewriting what it means to not have to face it alone.

If this resonates, much of my work — from online groups to in-person retreats — centers around helping people rediscover safety and connection in the places they once learned to go silent.

Follow along if you want to learn more about what real relational healing can look like ❤️

10/16/2025

I didn’t plan for this moment, but it became one of the most meaningful parts of my work this year ❤️

Recently, something very special happened.

Two of my North American clients flew all the way to Spain.

We’d never met in person before, but after months of doing group work together online, we finally spent a weekend here in Seville, closing our trauma group in person.

It’s hard to put into words how meaningful it was.

Seeing faces I’ve only known through a screen.

Sharing meals.

Laughing together.

Sitting in the same room as people who’ve done such brave, honest work for so long.

There was this moment when we wrapped up the final session and just sat there in quiet… the kind of quiet that feels full. The kind that says we did something important here.

That weekend reminded me why I love this work so much, and why I believe so deeply in group healing.

And it’s also made me even more excited for something that I’ve been quietly working on behind the scenes… an in-person retreat here in Spain, coming Spring 2026!

I can’t say much more yet, but I can tell you this: it’s going to be special.

If that sounds like something you’d want to be part of, follow along so you don’t miss the updates. There’s so much more to come! 🌿

10/15/2025

🌿 New in Seville: Expat Support & Therapy Group (in person!)

Living abroad can be full of contradictions… excitement and loneliness, gratitude and grief, connection and disconnection. I know what it’s like to hold two realities: the pull of home and the challenges of starting fresh somewhere new.

That’s why I’m starting a weekly, English-speaking support and therapy group for expats in Seville.

✨ A safe, supportive space to share what it’s really like to build a life here
✨ Led in person by me, a licensed Canadian trauma and relationship therapist
✨ Held in the Alameda
✨ 90-minute sessions every Thursday afternoon (closed-group format)
✨ Beginning November 2025
✨ Affordable weekly rate

You’ll get emotional support, new tools for coping, and meaningful connection with other expats who understand what you’re going through.

Open to all, whether you’ve been here a few weeks or a few years.

If this sounds like something you’d like to be part of, DM me for more info and I’ll share the details about how to join 🧡

10/14/2025

There’s just ONE space left in the Fall 2025 Online RRP Therapist Training Group!🌿

If you’ve been thinking about joining, this is your sign.

This two-year training offers an in-depth experience in the Relationship Recovery Process (RRP), a model that helps clients move from insight to real relational change.

You’ll learn to facilitate groups safely, work with attachment and inner child dynamics, and guide clients toward healing that’s experiential, not just cognitive.

If you’ve wanted to bring this work into your practice, now’s the time!

Only ONE space remains for the Fall 2025 cohort.

Comment THERAPIST below and I’ll send you the link to apply 👇

10/10/2025

10/09/2025

Creative blocks aren’t always about discipline or motivation. For many of us with CPTSD, they’re trauma responses.

Freezing, perfectionism, exhaustion, or a loud inner critic aren’t proof that you’re not creative! They’re signs your nervous system learned that expression wasn’t safe.

→ Maybe you were ridiculed when you sang.

→ Maybe you were punished for speaking your mind.

→ Maybe your sensitivity or imagination was dismissed as “too much.”

Over time, your body protected you by shutting down the very parts of you that longed to be seen 😔

As adults, those protections show up as creative blocks.

The freeze when you try to start.

The shame voice when others hear you sing.

The exhaustion that follows expression.

The belief that your creative self isn’t “real.”

In the Inner Child and Creative Recovery Group, we explore these patterns gently, together. We practice expression without performance, notice the body’s responses with compassion, and create the safety that allows creativity to emerge again.

If you saw yourself in this list, you can apply for the next Creative Recovery Group at https://www.theboycesisters.com/ ❤️

10/05/2025

When you’ve lived through childhood trauma, your nervous system learns to treat visibility as a threat 👀

That’s why you might feel your chest tighten before sharing your work.
Or why you disappear after posting something vulnerable.
Or why even a kind compliment makes you want to joke, deflect, or shrink away.

This is your inner child remembering what it once meant to be seen.

For a child, visibility could mean criticism, punishment, or ridicule. So your nervous system did its job: it protected you by bracing, hiding, perfecting, or shutting down ❤️

The problem is that those strategies don’t retire on their own. So, as adults, they still show up even when the danger is long past!

The Inner Child and Creative Recovery Group is where we start to untangle this. A place to notice what happens in your body, to experiment with gentle expression, and to learn that being visible can feel safe when the environment is right.

If you recognized yourself in this list, you don’t have to keep carrying it by yourself.

Comment CREATIVE or visit https://www.theboycesisters.com/ to apply for the next Creative Recovery Group 🫶

10/02/2025

Applications for the next Inner Child & Creative Recovery Group are open now!

Comment CREATIVE or visit https://www.theboycesisters.com/ to find out more and apply ❤️