Whole Hearted Healing Trauma and Relationship Therapy

04/30/2026

These patterns don’t have to be permanent ❤️

Follow me if you’re fed up of feeling like you have to force yourself to fit in.

04/29/2026

Just a thought ❤️

04/28/2026

Your voice is allowed to take up space

You don’t have to perform being easy, agreeable, or low-maintenance to be safe in connection anymore ❤️

Follow along if this is something you can relate to.

04/23/2026

If you grew up feeling like you didn’t quite belong in your own family, that feeling often doesn’t stay neatly in childhood 💔

It follows you.

It can show up in friendships, romantic relationships, group spaces, work dynamics, and even in the quiet stories you tell yourself about whether people really want you there.

A lot of survivors learned very early that connection was uncertain. That love could be inconsistent. That being fully yourself might lead to criticism, exclusion, dismissal, or shame. So adulthood can become a place where you keep looking for signs that it’s happening again.

That doesn’t mean you’re needy, difficult, or stuck.

It means your body learned something about relationships a long time ago, and it’s still trying to protect you.

A lot of healing isn’t about becoming less affected. It’s about understanding why closeness feels the way it does. It’s about recognizing the old wound underneath the present reaction. It’s about learning that safe love may feel unfamiliar at first, and that unfamiliarity does not mean it’s wrong.

When you’ve been made to feel like an outsider, belonging can feel almost suspicious.

But that doesn’t mean you’re incapable of it.

It means the part of you that learned not to trust connection may need time, safety, and new experiences of being met differently.

Which one hit hardest for you? 👇

04/22/2026

When the place that was supposed to feel safest felt lonely, unpredictable, or emotionally confusing, we don’t just move on from that because we got older. We carry it with us…

We carry it into friendships, relationships, group spaces, work, and even the small moments when we’re asking ourselves where we fit and whether we’re really wanted.

A lot of childhood trauma survivors grew up feeling tolerated rather than truly known. Included on the surface, but not deeply seen. Loved in ways that were conditional, inconsistent, or tied to who they had to be in order to keep the peace.

That kind of experience shapes us.

It can leave us constantly scanning for signs that we don’t belong.

It can make closeness feel uncertain, even when we want it.

It can make us feel like we have to earn our place, prove our worth, or shrink ourselves to stay connected.

Because our earliest experiences of connection taught us that belonging wasn’t something we could fully trust.

And a lot of healing is about recognizing that this ache came from real experiences. Real dynamics. Real loss. And when we start to see that clearly, we can stop treating our struggle with belonging like proof there’s something wrong with us!

We can begin to build something different 🫶

We can start choosing relationships where we don’t have to perform to be loved. We can start noticing where we still abandon ourselves to stay connected. We can start creating the kind of safety that allows belonging to feel possible.

If you relate to the feeling of not belonging, follow for more on relational trauma and healing ❤️

04/21/2026

04/21/2026

Childhood trauma survivors don’t need more pressure to be less affected!

They need language for what happened, space to tell the truth about it, and support that does not shame them for the ways they learned to survive.

Reshare if this is something you wish more people understood 🔄️

04/15/2026

2 local spots at The Inner Child Immersion: An RRP Retreat for people living in Spain. €2,000. Applications close April 17th.

Apply now at https://www.wholeheartedhealingbc.com/inner-child-immersion-retreat ❤️

04/14/2026

I talk to English speakers in Spain all the time who tell me the same thing. They love their life here but they feel completely cut off from any kind of trauma-informed therapeutic community. English-speaking therapists are hard to find. Trauma-specialised ones even harder. Group work in English? Almost nonexistent outside the major cities.

So when we started planning The Inner Child Immersion: An RRP Retreat, we knew we wanted to make space for people who are already here. People who have been doing this work alone because the alternative meant flying back to Canada or the UK or the States to access it.

You don't have to do that. Not this time 🫶

Two local spots. €2,000. A full week of RRP inner child work in Andalusia with trained facilitators and a small group of people who get it. Applications close April 17th.

https://www.wholeheartedhealingbc.com/inner-child-immersion-retreat

04/13/2026

We’ve opened 2 spots just for people living in Spain 🙌

A full week of inner child work and RRP group processing in an Andalusian farmhouse. Private room, all meals, daily sessions, everything included for a special locals' rate of just €2000.

April 28 to May 5 · Andalusia

Apply for The Inner Child Immersion: An RRP Retreat at https://www.wholeheartedhealingbc.com/inner-child-immersion-retreat ❤️

Applications close April 17th.

04/09/2026

When I first visited the farmhouse where we're holding this retreat, I could have cried… 😭

The hills, the quiet, the warmth in the stone walls. It felt like the kind of place where a nervous system can finally stop scanning for danger 👐

And I thought about my own inner child.

How long it took me to find spaces that felt safe enough to do real work.

That's what this retreat is. That's what we built.

The Inner Child Immersion: An RRP Retreat offers a full week of deep inner child work and RRP group processing in a 150-year-old Andalusian farmhouse surrounded by olive groves and mountains.

We wanted the land to be part of it. We wanted people who know this place, who live here, who walk these hills on a Tuesday afternoon, to be sitting in the circle too.

So we're opening two spots specifically for people living in Andalusia or wider Spain, at a local rate of €2,000.

You’ll get the same experience as everyone else. Private room, all meals, daily RRP group sessions, two individual therapy sessions, somatic and embodiment practices, the Granada excursion, the nature hike, firepits in the evening. Everything 🙌

Two spots. Applications close April 17th: https://www.wholeheartedhealingbc.com/inner-child-immersion-retreat ❤️

04/08/2026

You don’t need to travel all the way to Bali when you already live somewhere so beautiful 🙌

We’ve opened 2 spots at The Inner Child Immersion: An RRP Retreat for people living in Andalusia or wider Spain. We always wanted local energy in the room and now we're making space for it.

Two spots. €2,000. Applications close April 17th. Apply at https://www.wholeheartedhealingbc.com/inner-child-immersion-retreat