Nate Torhjelm Counselling

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Nate Torhjelm Counselling

I offer counselling services for adult individuals and couples grappling with a variety of challenges.

in-person sessions in White Rock, Langley, and New Westminster. If you are ready to take the next step, request a free 15-minute consult.

07/12/2025

Emotional maturity isn’t about having it all figured out — it’s about being able to stay present with yourself, especially when things feel uncomfortable.

In relationships, we often expect closeness and communication to come easily. But without self-awareness, even the most loving partnerships can get stuck in cycles of blame, withdrawal, or miscommunication.

When each partner learns how to name their emotions, take responsibility, and stay grounded through conflict, something powerful happens:
Safety grows. Clarity deepens. Repair becomes possible.

Because you don’t have to be perfect to build a strong relationship —
You just have to be willing to look inward, and show up with care.

If you and your partner are ready to understand your dynamic more clearly — and shift toward more connection — I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore whether therapy might be a helpful next step.

Link in bio to book.

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07/08/2025

It’s easy to lose touch with yourself.

Sometimes it happens in the stress of everyday life.
Sometimes it happens in a relationship, when you’re so focused on keeping peace or meeting someone else’s needs that your own voice gets quieter.

But the truth is — you’re still in there.
Your needs, your feelings, your truth… they don’t disappear. They just wait for your attention.

Reconnecting with yourself doesn’t require a big transformation.
It starts with a pause. A breath. A willingness to get curious instead of critical.

What am I feeling right now?
What might I need?
What would it look like to honour that — just a little?

If you’re ready to come home to yourself again, or you feel like you’ve been carrying too much alone, therapy can help you find your way back — gently and at your own pace.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore what working together might look like. Link in bio.

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06/27/2025

No relationship is free from conflict, miscommunication, or hurt.
What matters most isn’t whether things go wrong — it’s what you do afterward.

Real connection is built in the moments when you pause, take a breath, and choose to come back to each other.

Repair doesn’t mean pretending nothing happened.
It means naming what did, taking responsibility, and making space for understanding — even if it’s messy at first.

If you and your partner are ready to strengthen your ability to reconnect — especially when things feel tense or distant — therapy can help.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore if we’re a good fit. Link in bio to book.

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06/21/2025

Starting therapy doesn’t require having all the answers.
You don’t need the perfect words, a clear plan, or even certainty that it will help.

Sometimes, the most important step is simply showing up — with your questions, your hesitation, your hope, or your discomfort.

Therapy is a space where you don’t have to know exactly where you’re going.
You just have to be willing to begin.

If you’re feeling stuck — in yourself or your relationship — I offer a free 15-minute consultation to help you explore whether therapy might be the right next step.

Link in bio to book.

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06/16/2025

In the day-to-day stress of life and relationship challenges, it’s easy to lose sight of the connection you once shared — the laughter, the small gestures, the “us” that existed before the tension.

But healing doesn’t always start with a breakthrough. Sometimes, it starts with remembering.

💬 What first drew you to each other?
💬 What made you feel safe, seen, or alive in their presence?
💬 What were you building together — before the conflict, before the distance?

Couples therapy isn’t just about working through the hard things — it’s also about reclaiming what’s been good and building on that. Because when we remember what brought us together, it gets easier to find our way back.

If you and your partner are ready to reconnect, I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore if we’re a good fit. Link in bio to book.

06/15/2025

We often expect communication in relationships to “just work” — especially if we love each other.

But healthy communication isn’t something we stumble into.
It’s something we build — with practice, patience, and intention.

It’s built in the moments when we choose to listen instead of react.
When we slow down and try to understand instead of defend.
When we make room for emotions — our own and each other’s — even when they’re hard to hear.

This kind of communication doesn’t always come naturally.
Especially if we didn’t grow up with healthy models of it.

But the good news? It’s a skill. And skills can be learned.

Whether you're working through conflict, struggling to feel heard, or just wanting to strengthen your connection — therapy can help you rebuild the foundation together.

If you’re ready to work toward more honest, compassionate communication, I’d be glad to talk.
Book a free 15-minute consultation via the link in my bio.

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06/07/2025

Starting therapy can feel overwhelming — especially if you’re not sure what to expect.

If you’re feeling unsure, you’re not alone. Many people worry they’ll “say the wrong thing” or that they need to have everything figured out before walking through the door.

Here’s the truth: you don’t need to have it all together to begin. Your first session is a chance to slow down, feel heard, and take a small step toward clarity.

You set the pace. You bring what’s real for you. And I’ll meet you there — with curiosity, compassion, and care.

If you're wondering whether therapy might help, I invite you to book a free 15-minute consultation with me. No pressure, just a conversation.
Link in bio to get started.

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06/01/2025

There’s nothing weak about wanting more connection, more clarity, more care.

It takes real courage to say:
“I love us — and I think we could do better.”
Or even:
“I don’t know where we are anymore, but I want to find our way back.”

Whether your relationship feels strong but stuck, or strained and uncertain — the desire for more is a powerful beginning.

If you’re ready to have new conversations, with the support of someone who can help hold the process gently…

Book a free 15-minute consultation. The first step doesn’t have to be perfect — just honest. Link in bio.

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05/27/2025

We often focus on what’s not working in our relationships — but what if we paid more attention to the things that are?

Healthy communication doesn’t mean you never argue. It means you feel safe, seen, and able to come back together after a hard moment.

Here are 7 signs your relationship may be stronger than you think. 💬
Which ones do you recognize in your relationship? Which ones are still a work in progress?

If you’re ready to grow more of what’s working — and explore what’s getting in the way — book a free 15-minute consultation. Link in bio.

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05/20/2025

You don’t need to “fix” your emotions to feel better.

Most of us were taught to fear big feelings — to push them away or shut them down. But when we avoid emotion, we lose connection: to ourselves, to others, and to what matters most.

Learning to feel safe with your emotions doesn’t mean controlling them. It means building trust in your ability to feel them and move through them — without shame, shutdown, or overwhelm.

That’s what healing looks like.

If this resonates, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure it out by yourself. Let’s explore what’s possible together.

🔗 Book a free 15-minute consultation — link in bio.

04/08/2025

Hi, I’m Nate and I’m glad you’ve found your way to my page. As a counsellor, my goal is to be a trusted partner on your journey, offering a space for my clients to feel safe, seen and heard. I support my clients to experience moments where they are grounded and connected to themselves, so they can make life decisions that are aligned with their values.

I invite you to book a complimentary 15-minute consultation with me to explore what working together might look like. You have my respect and admiration for taking this first step.

Nate

03/31/2025

Are you feeling unsettled, unsure, or stuck? Sometimes it can feel like you don’t have much of a choice at all in life decisions you are facing. Indecision can create a sense of paralysis and inner conflict, making it difficult for you to make choices and move forward with confidence in your life.

Let’s work together to discover new perspectives, paths and options, empowering you to have confidence with choices.

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White Rock, BC

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+13655360907

Website

http://natecounselling.com/

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