Nate Torhjelm Counselling

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Nate Torhjelm Counselling

I offer counselling services for adult individuals and couples grappling with a variety of challenges.

in-person sessions in White Rock, Langley, and New Westminster. If you are ready to take the next step, request a free 15-minute consult.

09/11/2025

In relationships, it’s rarely the grand gestures that create lasting connection—it’s the small, consistent efforts.

Checking in with your partner after a long day.
Listening fully without planning your response.
Remembering something they mentioned weeks ago.
Offering a hug, a kind word, or a simple “thank you.”

These little actions may not seem like much in the moment, but over time, they build trust, safety, and closeness. When couples only focus on “fixing the big problems” and overlook the everyday gestures, they miss out on one of the most powerful tools for a thriving relationship.

Healthy love is built in the details.
Small efforts, repeated often, create the strongest foundation.

If you and your partner are feeling disconnected, I’d love to support you in finding ways to rebuild through simple but powerful changes. Book a free 15-minute consultation with me today, and let’s explore how we can strengthen your relationship together.

Link in bio to schedule your consultation.

09/05/2025

Once you recognize that you have the power to reconnect with your emotions, release what no longer serves you, reshape unhelpful patterns, and accept yourself as you are—you begin to reclaim your sense of wholeness.

The truth is, no one else can do the work for you. Healing and growth don’t come from someone “fixing” you—they come from your own willingness to step into the process. Therapy creates a safe space where you don’t have to face that process alone. Together, we can uncover what’s holding you back, find healthier patterns, and build more freedom in how you relate to yourself and others.

Change may feel overwhelming at first, but it starts with one step: choosing to show up for yourself.

If this speaks to you, I invite you to book a complimentary 15-minute consultation with me. Let’s explore what working together might look like. You don’t have to carry this alone.

Click the link in my bio to schedule your free consultation today.

08/21/2025

If you’re not able to be honest with yourself, you won’t be able to be honest with them.

So much of the work in both individual and couples counselling comes down to this — self-honesty. It’s not always easy to look in the mirror and acknowledge what’s really going on inside. Sometimes it means admitting we’re hurt, afraid, insecure, or uncertain. But until we do, we can’t fully show up in our relationships in a way that’s open and authentic.

When you’re willing to get honest with yourself — about your needs, your fears, your patterns — you create the possibility for genuine connection. You move from hiding parts of yourself to inviting your partner (or the people in your life) into the full picture of who you are.

In our work together, I’ll help you develop the self-awareness and courage to face what’s there without judgement — so you can bring that same honesty and compassion into your relationships.

If this feels like the work you’ve been avoiding but know you need, I invite you to book a complimentary 15-minute consultation with me. Let’s take that first step together.

08/11/2025

Strong relationships don’t just happen — they’re built through small, intentional choices every day.
These 10 habits aren’t about being perfect partners… they’re about creating a safe, connected space where both of you can grow.

It’s not about avoiding conflict.
It’s about learning to repair, listen deeply, and choose kindness even when it’s hard.

Save this list as a reminder — and try focusing on one habit this week.

If you and your partner are ready to build a stronger connection together, I’d love to help you get there. Send me a message and let’s start the conversation.

07/12/2025

Emotional maturity isn’t about having it all figured out — it’s about being able to stay present with yourself, especially when things feel uncomfortable.

In relationships, we often expect closeness and communication to come easily. But without self-awareness, even the most loving partnerships can get stuck in cycles of blame, withdrawal, or miscommunication.

When each partner learns how to name their emotions, take responsibility, and stay grounded through conflict, something powerful happens:
Safety grows. Clarity deepens. Repair becomes possible.

Because you don’t have to be perfect to build a strong relationship —
You just have to be willing to look inward, and show up with care.

If you and your partner are ready to understand your dynamic more clearly — and shift toward more connection — I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore whether therapy might be a helpful next step.

Link in bio to book.

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07/08/2025

It’s easy to lose touch with yourself.

Sometimes it happens in the stress of everyday life.
Sometimes it happens in a relationship, when you’re so focused on keeping peace or meeting someone else’s needs that your own voice gets quieter.

But the truth is — you’re still in there.
Your needs, your feelings, your truth… they don’t disappear. They just wait for your attention.

Reconnecting with yourself doesn’t require a big transformation.
It starts with a pause. A breath. A willingness to get curious instead of critical.

What am I feeling right now?
What might I need?
What would it look like to honour that — just a little?

If you’re ready to come home to yourself again, or you feel like you’ve been carrying too much alone, therapy can help you find your way back — gently and at your own pace.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore what working together might look like. Link in bio.

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06/27/2025

No relationship is free from conflict, miscommunication, or hurt.
What matters most isn’t whether things go wrong — it’s what you do afterward.

Real connection is built in the moments when you pause, take a breath, and choose to come back to each other.

Repair doesn’t mean pretending nothing happened.
It means naming what did, taking responsibility, and making space for understanding — even if it’s messy at first.

If you and your partner are ready to strengthen your ability to reconnect — especially when things feel tense or distant — therapy can help.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore if we’re a good fit. Link in bio to book.

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06/21/2025

Starting therapy doesn’t require having all the answers.
You don’t need the perfect words, a clear plan, or even certainty that it will help.

Sometimes, the most important step is simply showing up — with your questions, your hesitation, your hope, or your discomfort.

Therapy is a space where you don’t have to know exactly where you’re going.
You just have to be willing to begin.

If you’re feeling stuck — in yourself or your relationship — I offer a free 15-minute consultation to help you explore whether therapy might be the right next step.

Link in bio to book.

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06/16/2025

In the day-to-day stress of life and relationship challenges, it’s easy to lose sight of the connection you once shared — the laughter, the small gestures, the “us” that existed before the tension.

But healing doesn’t always start with a breakthrough. Sometimes, it starts with remembering.

💬 What first drew you to each other?
💬 What made you feel safe, seen, or alive in their presence?
💬 What were you building together — before the conflict, before the distance?

Couples therapy isn’t just about working through the hard things — it’s also about reclaiming what’s been good and building on that. Because when we remember what brought us together, it gets easier to find our way back.

If you and your partner are ready to reconnect, I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore if we’re a good fit. Link in bio to book.

06/15/2025

We often expect communication in relationships to “just work” — especially if we love each other.

But healthy communication isn’t something we stumble into.
It’s something we build — with practice, patience, and intention.

It’s built in the moments when we choose to listen instead of react.
When we slow down and try to understand instead of defend.
When we make room for emotions — our own and each other’s — even when they’re hard to hear.

This kind of communication doesn’t always come naturally.
Especially if we didn’t grow up with healthy models of it.

But the good news? It’s a skill. And skills can be learned.

Whether you're working through conflict, struggling to feel heard, or just wanting to strengthen your connection — therapy can help you rebuild the foundation together.

If you’re ready to work toward more honest, compassionate communication, I’d be glad to talk.
Book a free 15-minute consultation via the link in my bio.

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06/07/2025

Starting therapy can feel overwhelming — especially if you’re not sure what to expect.

If you’re feeling unsure, you’re not alone. Many people worry they’ll “say the wrong thing” or that they need to have everything figured out before walking through the door.

Here’s the truth: you don’t need to have it all together to begin. Your first session is a chance to slow down, feel heard, and take a small step toward clarity.

You set the pace. You bring what’s real for you. And I’ll meet you there — with curiosity, compassion, and care.

If you're wondering whether therapy might help, I invite you to book a free 15-minute consultation with me. No pressure, just a conversation.
Link in bio to get started.

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06/01/2025

There’s nothing weak about wanting more connection, more clarity, more care.

It takes real courage to say:
“I love us — and I think we could do better.”
Or even:
“I don’t know where we are anymore, but I want to find our way back.”

Whether your relationship feels strong but stuck, or strained and uncertain — the desire for more is a powerful beginning.

If you’re ready to have new conversations, with the support of someone who can help hold the process gently…

Book a free 15-minute consultation. The first step doesn’t have to be perfect — just honest. Link in bio.

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http://natecounselling.com/

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