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Shelly Sharon - www.shellysharon.com, Zürich (2025)

Helping women who've been around the block with self growth deepen the healing of the mother wound and find new levels of empowerment in their sense of self, in relationships and even in their career success

03/05/2025

Hi. If we haven’t met my name is Shelly and I’m a certified Trauma trained Hakomi therapist and Buddhist psychology coach who specialises in working with women who wants to unpack the way a challenging relationships with their mum inhibits them today in their sense of self, relationships and career so they can find a bigger and freer self expression.

The coming Saturday I’m holding a workshop: What is the Mother Wound.

The workshop weaves together cutting edge knowledge based about mother-daughter attachment wounds and trauma as well as somatic practices to provide first hand experience how they’re helpful in reaching deep release of difficult feelings and limiting believes.

Many women keep the difficulties of the experiences with their mum a secret both because it’s very unacceptable to talk about these things (often met with judgment and shaming) and because of an automatic survival mechanism to normalise such experiences in order to control the emotional overwhelm and be able to function in life.

If you’re:
🌺Curious about learning more about the Mother Wound for yourself or as a professional working with women
🌺Interested in first hand experience of somatic practices and how the work with healing the mother wound
🌺Wanting to discover how the mother wound holds too back today in your adult life

… then this workshop is for you

Or maybe it’s for someone you know — share it with two women in your life, you never know who walks with this secret in their pocket.

✨Women only workshop—10 spaces only
✨Saturday May 10th, 10-13 Biel
✨Light snacks included
✨100chf - one spot in a reduced rate for a woman who’s experiencing financial hardship
✨Light and spacious atmosphere

To save your spot:

https://c2gether.ch/event/what-is-the-mother-wound-2/

19/04/2025

Each time I think
I ran out of tears
few more start pouring.
Their flow erase my voice,
take my breath away,
and for a moment, within that stillness
I’m both hurting and relieved.

Each time I think
I ran out of tears
a new wave shepherds inside me
the lost thoughts that wonder
if you can bury sorrow
with the dead.

Each time I think
I might have no more tears
I panic I haven’t grieved enough,
or pruned the branches of tears
before they had a chance to water
the promised new life.

And for a moment
when the tears run out
and the Earth of sorrow opens its mounts,
threatening to swallow me,
I yearn for them to come back.
Maybe one will carry him to me,
for one more hug
one more caress
to cover his body with kisses
to drink his loving gaze
hoping it could quench the tears’ thirst.

Fistuk Norris-Sharon
Aug 2014 - 15 April 2025 💔

14/02/2025

What is love?

To wake up to a new reality
you didn’t know exited before.

To look fear in the eye.

To raid a whole bag of crisps
while gazing at an empty reality show,
then wipe guilt with fatty, salty fingers
and giggle to yourself in full joy.

To hug the shards of wounded heart,
release them from the guard
that gives them space
so long as they grow,
or tell you something reasonable for repeated questions: “why?!”

To devour a peach—
Juices flow on open lips,
eyes closed,
and nothing within you
holds back.

What is love? —It’s to answer in a thousand and one ways,
and still go around the sun
searching for more,
and discover
how each inhale
gives another chance
for another one.
Shelly Sharon. Helping women heal the mother wound and love themselves whole again.
✨And if you read up to here, I’d love it if you add in the comments a poem or a piece of writing you love✨

In the pic: dancing with the sunset at the top of the hill above my house

30/03/2023

ARE YOUR BOUNDARIES HELPING YOU HEAL YOUR MOTHER WOUND??

Is this familiar?:
You set boundaries with your mum—you finally know what boundaries are, what yours are and work really hard to set them no matter how it makes you feel

And the response is:
“Oh, I’m sorry I’ll never do that again” (and she does right away)
She doesn’t take any notice of what you just said
Or
She’s “just doing that for your own good”

This is demoralising, diminishing, frustrating, at best.

You think “I’ll teach her how to respect me/pay attention to me/stop harassing me” with these boundaries. You’re out to teach her something she hasn’t learned for 40/50/60 years?! And it’s not your job to teach her anyways.

But we hear that boundaries are SO important, right?!

After you’ve tried reinforcing your boundaries over and over again you’re left feeling you have with two choice:
Stuff it up (and you think it’s your job to just accept)
Or
Minimise / eliminate contact (and some daughters don’t want that options)

Button line—you’re left with the familiar, exhausting distress and your boundaries didn’t do the work to resolve it.

Why did you think boundaries will do for you in the first place?

I can imagine you wanted to ease down one form or another of pain that’s always triggers in the relationship with your mother (or one that you’ve transported to your relationship with you partner or friends…)

You probably felt she’s asking to much of you, not listening to you, giving unsolicited advice, criticising you or perhaps treating you like her bestie.

And boundaries are supposed to fix this, right?!

Boundaries are important! In the process of clarifying your boundaries you clarify what’s important to you and what kind of relationships you’re open to (or not).

But boundaries are only scratching the container. They’re not able to manage what happens inside the container

If not boundaries, then what?!

Before you start with boundaries, there are habits and patterns of the dynamic with your mum that have settled in deep in your emotional body and dictate how you feel which need to be tended for.

Exposing those habits and what beliefs feed them is what will help dissolve the distress that boundaries are not able to.

It’s like eating a candy when you’re in fact very hungry and haven’t had breakfast and lunch. The candy is not going to be satisfying and will just throw you on a craving spin.

Here’s an example
You set a boundary (“stop commenting on my appearance”) but the feeling that it’s not safe to ask for what you need is triggered.

As you work on unhooking this belief from your emotional body, replacing it with a belief that “it’s safe to ask for what I need” whatever happens in response doesn’t get you triggered, you’re not in distress and your options for managing a relationship are greater.

If you rely on boundaries to be your safe place you’re relying on others to cooperate with your views about yourself.

If you rely on a healthy belief system you rely on your own emotional resilience from a whole set of relationship patterns emerges.
If this is a familiar struggle I’d love to help. PM and I’ll share with you more about working 1:1 with me.

I’ve helped many women like you “reorganise” the ways they engage with their mum (or other relationships that were somehow a replica of how they engaged with their mum) so they could feel free to be themselves and get the level of reciprocity they yearn for.
PM ❤️

Shelly’s helping women who know they’ve been negative lately impacted by their relationship with their mother find deeper levels of healing so they could feel seen, loved and appreciated in their personal or professional life.
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