21/03/2025
A while back someone shamed me for going out a lot. According to that person, I was often doing it for the wrong reasons. Back then, that comment hurt me a lot, I felt harshly judged for something that is such a huge part of my life - and tbh, it unsettled me a bit.
Was that true? Did I have an unhealthy relationship with raving?
What I already kinda knew back thenâbut can say with absolute certainty nowâis that I donât.
Sure, we all know those days when our night in the club is an escape & desperate attempt to compensate. I had one or two of those in my life. And if you have too, you know: those never end well.
But what I learned those past two years is, that raving was one of the most beneficial things for my mental wellbeing.
Not only because music & dancing is my happy place, and in general has many positive effects on our health by activating the lymphatic system, boosting endorphins release and reducing stress.
But also because, raving often allowed me to process my emotions in the first place.
Sometimes, we know we need to take an honest look at or heal somethingâbut weâre just not ready to face it yet. Sometimes, it takes a proper rave to let go of the resistance & allow ourselves to feel what needs to be felt.
And hereâs why:
Trauma is often stored in the body, particularly in the nervous system, muscles, and fascia. Expressive movement like dance, can help release stuck trauma because it engages both the body & mind, activating pathways that facilitate emotional processing and healing.
Let me tell you, on more than one occasion, Iâve had nights where a rave was followed by an intense meltdown. And while it mightâve looked like I made the wrong choice going out, it was exactly what I needed to process, release, and move forward.
Raving is my therapy. I donât do it for the wrong reasons. I do it for all the right ones.
On that note: happy weekend peeps, may your next rave help you let go and feel wholeheartedly! đ