24/02/2026
This would be less embarrassing if it weren’t actually true… but even making this reel using old b-roll took me longer than I’d like to admit.
Because apparently I won’t post unless my hair is done, my outfit is cute, and the lighting is right.
Which sounds shallow.
It’s not.
It’s the Instagram version of something a lot of anxious, high-achieving women already do in real life.
It’s not about the hair.
Or the outfit.
Or the lighting.
It’s the belief underneath it:
“I can show up when I look right.”
Perfectionism doesn’t always look like grinding 24/7.
Sometimes it looks like waiting.
Waiting for better timing.
Better conditions.
A better mood.
A more polished version of yourself.
It seems small. But underneath it’s often tied to worth and safety.
“If I’m polished, I’ll be taken seriously.”
“If I’m put together, I’ll be enough.”
That belief doesn’t just live on Instagram.
It shows up in your career.
In your relationships.
In how long you delay starting.
And the longer you wait, the more you quietly reinforce the idea that you’re only allowed to show up when you’re perfect.
Which part felt a little too familiar?
Follow along for honest conversations about anxiety, perfectionism, and changing the beliefs underneath them.
The Rose Colored Couch is here to inspire, encourage reflection, and educate, but these posts aren’t a substitute for therapy. My hope is to help you shift how you see yourself and your story. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and be gentle with yourself along the way.
