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Dr. Elnur Gajiev

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Creative Psychologist, Educator, & Wellness Consultant
I Help Folks Who Do Good, Do So Sustainably Well
Integrating Neuroscience, Mindfulness, & Coaching

02/06/2025

Pushing harder isn’t always the answer.

Sometimes, it’s what breaks us.

Your nervous system is the foundation of sustainable growth—and it has limits.

When you stretch with intention, you grow.

When you overextend, you risk snapping.

Here’s how I guide my clients to check in with themselves:

🟢 Stretch → Feels challenging and energizing

🟡 Edge → Signals discomfort or strain

🔴 Snap → You’re drained, unfocused, or nearing burnout

Let’s stop glorifying burnout and start honoring our natural growth pace.

💬 Let me know in the comments below: where are you at today?
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26/05/2025

What are you moving toward today?

Not just what’s on your list.
Not what your calendar says is urgent.

But underneath it all—what’s it for?

🧠 Our brains love plans.
But our nervous systems crave direction.

And when things get noisy—aka compounding emails, meetings, tasks, tabs—it’s easy to lose sight of what we’re actually building toward.

So here’s a gentle reset:
🔶 Take one thing on your list.
🔶 Ask: Why does this matter?
🔶 Then ask: What’s one step closer to that why?

The goal isn’t to finish everything.
It’s to move meaningfully—
even just one breath, one block, one brave step closer.

📌 Save this for when your day feels scattered.

💬 And tell me please: What are you moving toward today?

21/05/2025

Feeling scattered? I got you.

Cognitive overwhelm is real—especially for those of us who are building, creating, leading, and scaling while simultaneously navigating complexity.

When we’re mentally scattered, it’s often because we’re locked in anticipation or rumination.

From a neuropsychological perspective, this fuels overthinking and pulls us out of the present.

To interrupt this cycle, we need to engage the sensory pathways, which operate only in the here and now.

That’s where the 5-4-3-2-1 Method comes in.

It helps us return to the present moment using our five senses.

This quick grounding practice invites you to focus on:
👁️ 5 things you can see
👂 4 sounds you can hear
🖐️ 3 things you can touch
👃 2 things you can smell
👄 1 thing you can taste

In under two minutes, this helps regulate your nervous system, shift attention back to the present, and improve emotional and cognitive functioning.

I use this practice regularly—with clients, teams, and myself.

📌 Save or bookmark this post to return to when focus fades or anxiety spikes.

📩 For more neuroscientific insights to foster your well-being and success, follow along and subscribe to our thriving newsletter: Presence&Purpose.

👇 I’d love to hear: What grounding tools help you reset and refocus throughout your day?

18/05/2025

Here's your invitation.

Right now. Right here.

What would it be like to gaze at what’s immediately around you with an ever-opening sense of awe?

The person, the place, the light catching your glance, the colors, sounds, and scents all around you—meeting you in this very moment.

What would it be like to look with humbling wonderment at the grand impossibility of all of this coming together as it precisely has for you to breathe this breath right now?

The incalculably complexity.
The staggering anomaly.
The ludicrous exquisiteness of living this existence.

Here. Now.

Neuroscience tells us that awe expands our perception, slows our internal sense of time, and quiets activity in the brain’s default mode network—reducing rumination and self-focus while increasing connectedness and clarity.

Micro-moments of awe can do wonders for our nervous system and our quality of living.

What if you gazed at your partner, your children, your colleagues and friends, your work, your purpose, your day with this sense of awe?

How then, might you experience this gift of life?

How would you move, act, and be?

Remember, please, how extraordinary this all is.

And look with awe.

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If you're one of those wonderful people who'd like a deeper dive into ideas like these, then come sign up for Weaving Wisdoms—a free weekly newsletter meant to kindly guide you back to what matters—see the link in my bio.

11/05/2025

If there’s anything I’ve noticed in my work—and in my life—it’s the peace-filling genius that comes with shifting from complexity to simplicity.

So often, we chase clarity, but overload our calendars.

We seek flow, but leave 37 tabs open with 14-Step Plans and 42-page SOPs.

Our brains don’t thrive on complexity.
I’d dare to say our spirits don’t either.

They thrive on ease.

On the distilling down to what’s essential.

The great masters of any art or discipline know this.

They move through competency and complexity,
through the perplexity that proficiency requires.

And then, they arrive at simplicity.

So I invite you to do the same.

Try this:
🗓 Swap your full-day task list for a Top 3 Priorities approach.

🔁 Replace vague meetings with a clear 3 Question Check-In.

⚡ Do less multitasking, do more Deep Work, focusing on just 1 thing.

🧠 Our prefrontal cortexes—the part of our brains responsible for focus and decision-making—works best with low noise and high clarity.

Simplicity isn’t about dumbing things down.

It’s about clearing things up.

So tell me please, what’s one area of your life you could simplify this week?

01/05/2025

This. Talk about a solid anchor.

Last week, I had the wonderful opportunity to attend the Summit in Malta (Thanks again !).

During one of the keynote sessions, international pitch coach Beth Susanne shared this line that absolutely shook me—a “bar” as we like to say in hip-hop speak.

“You’re the right person, at the right time, talking to the right people about the right thing.”

This is both grounding and orienting, and I haven't stopped echoing it to clients and colleagues alike.

Because whether we're founders, entrepreneurs, or leaders—clarity is often clouded by internal noise:

- Will this work?

- Am I actually ready?

- Do I even belong here?

When we feel nervous before a pitch, a talk, an interview, or a high-stakes meeting, it’s easy to forget that we already belong there.

Yet, if we take a moment to actively regulate our nervous system (see my other posts) and anchor into a belief structure like this, then we can step into those opportunities with greater alignment and openness to what may come.

If we show up with integrity and preparation, then it’s absolutely worth believing that we’re in the right place to do the right thing.

Needless to say, this is one I’m going to keep in my back pocket.

💬 How about for you: What’s a go-to phrase or mantra that helps anchor you before a high-stakes moment?

23/04/2025

This week’s three-word mantra.

Courtesy of the delightfully brilliant Derek Sivers () in his book, Anything You Want—a light, reflective read I picked up this week thanks to a tip from while on my way to the Summit in Malta.

Among the many gems in this cheeky, insightful read, this one really stayed with me:

“When one person wrongs you, remember the hundred thousand who did not.
You’re lucky to be where you’re at. Life is good.
You can’t prevent bad things from happening.
Learn to shrug.
Resist the urge to punish everyone for one person’s mistake.
Breathe. Take stock of what’s going well.
& Move forward.”

There’s something liberating about giving ourselves permission to let things go—not because they don’t matter, but because other things matter more: Peace, Presence, Gratitude, Service.

Neurologically speaking:
Some things simply aren’t worth the cortisol.

So shrug, and move forward.

What’s something you’re learning to release these days?

18/04/2025

🚨 You’re not stuck. You’re just overcommitted.

Most of us don’t struggle with motivation—we struggle with too many open tabs in our brain.

When everything feels urgent, nothing moves forward.

Instead of getting meaningful work done, we’re busy putting out fires, answering emails, and jumping between low-value tasks.

🔎 The problem isn’t time—it’s focus.

Our brains weren’t designed for endless multitasking.

Every time we switch from one task to another, we drain our cognitive energy.

And when we try to juggle too much, we fall into decision fatigue—exhausting ourselves before we even get to the work that actually matters.

The fix? The Task Prioritization Triangle.

🎯 Run your to-do list through this simple framework:

1️⃣ High-Impact Tasks → These drive your biggest results. Prioritize these first.

2️⃣ Supportive Tasks → These help progress but don’t create immediate impact.

3️⃣ Low-Impact Tasks → Delegate, automate, or eliminate these.

👉 If you’re overwhelmed, take a step back.

Ask yourself: Am I actually stuck, or am I just overcommitted?

📌 Save this post to reference anytime you need.

🧠 If you’re interested in leveraging neuroscience & psychology to work smarter, not harder, then subscribe to our brand new newsletter: Presence&Purpose at Dr-El.com/Presence-Purpose

🚀 And be sure to follow for more strategies to maximize your energy & impact.

10/04/2025

There’s a collective hesitance in the air right now.

A quiet reticence. A rising tension. A sense of not quite knowing what’s going to happen.

And yet—this truth:
We were made for these times.
Not because we’re invincible.
Not because we always know what to do.

But because we carry something within us that knows how to endure.
How to create.
How to respond with care,
And recalibrate with courage.

When the world feels uncertain,
here's what we do:

We return to presence.
We deepen our purpose.
We root ourselves in community, compassion, & creative resilience.

You don’t need to have an answer that fixes everything. You simple need to remember who you are and choose how you want to be in the midst of it all.

💬 Share this with someone who needs a little steadiness today.

📌 Save it for the days it’s hard to remember.

28/03/2025

If asking for help feels hard, you’re not alone.

So many of us were taught to equate independence with strength.

To solve quietly. To struggle invisibly.

To “figure it out” on our own.

But the truth?

The sooner we ask for help, the sooner our suffering lessens.

Asking doesn’t make us weaker.

It reconnects us with the very thing we crave most: Support. Clarity. Relief.

Because our brains under stress needs co-regulation—not just willpower.

Whether it’s from a friend, a mentor, a therapist, a coach, or a community—being seen in our struggle is often what softens it.

✏️ I sketched this little graph as a kind reminder after having a similar conversation with friends, colleagues, and clients.

The cost of silence is suffering.

The power of asking? Relief.

The moment we’re willing to ask for support is the moment things start to shift.

Not because someone “fixes” it for us—but because we stop doing it all alone.

So if you’ve been holding too much:

📍 Ask for guidance.

📍 Ask for space.

📍 Ask for care.

Every one of us need support.

So tell me please, what helps you ask for help when things feel too hard to hold on your own?

25/03/2025

We don’t need more time—we need more focus.

A hard truth for most of us trying to make a difference in the world.

You’re not lazy. You’re not behind.

You’re likely just stretched thin by too many competing priorities.

🧠 The real culprit? Focus scarcity.

Multitasking feels productive—but it’s actually draining your brain.

Context-switching taxes your nervous system.

And when *everything* feels urgent, nothing moves forward.

Here’s the fix:

✨ The Focus Funnel ✨

A tool I use with leaders, creatives, and entrepreneurs who want to work with clarity and *impact*—not burnout.

Run your to-do list through this every morning:

1️⃣ Eliminate → What doesn’t truly need your attention?

2️⃣ Automate → What can run on autopilot?

3️⃣ Delegate → What can someone else handle?

4️⃣ Concentrate → Focus only on *high-impact* tasks.

🎯 When we reduce noise, our energy goes where it matters most.

Save this as your daily reset.

And follow along to simplify your strategy and scale your impact.

21/03/2025

The stories we tell shape our lives.

Every time we speak about ourselves—our work, our relationships, our challenges—we are reinforcing a narrative.

The question is:
Is it a narrative that empowers us, or one that keeps us small?

We all have struggles, setbacks, and moments of doubt. I know I do.

Yet, within every challenge, there’s another version of the story—one where we rise, where we learn, where we evolve.

So today, ask yourself:

What stories are I telling about myself, my relationships, my work, my life?

And which stories is it time to evolve?

Because, my friends, we don’t just tell stories.

We become them.

May this serve as a reminder to choose yours wisely.

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